Do you consider it acceptable to date an ex-girlfriend of one of your friends?
Before anyone gets the wrong idea, it's been almost two years since the people involved parted and I never considered making an attempt on her until now.
Do you consider it acceptable to date an ex-girlfriend of one of your friends?
Before anyone gets the wrong idea, it's been almost two years since the people involved parted and I never considered making an attempt on her until now.
Last edited by Kralizec; 10-18-2008 at 22:55.
Yes, I do, certainly under the conditions you outlined.
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Two years? Seems like fair game to me.
Though it might be nice to give the friend a heads-up first. Plus if it turns out he couldn't care less then you can stop worrying.
How they parted and what each side of the old story carried further decides the verdict.
It's not like you'd surely be still thinking of someone you had broken up with 2 years ago but this fact does not mean that it wouldn't create sparks in your mind should a friend starts dating your ex.
So many personal and cultural variables effect it. You'd still get a "no problem" reply from your friend if you would be kind enough to ask about your thoughts about his ex, as PBI suggested, however it could still be problemous for him in his mind afterwards during your relationship.
Friends are to stay forever, generally feel even stronger to stay after all girls that pass through your life.
I go for the worst case scenarios when it comes to dating. It's always less painful to turn your head away from a beauty provided you need to act such.
And sorry for being a cautious pain in the a**, maybe it's all about our culture and I'm speaking of nonsense.
Last edited by LeftEyeNine; 10-19-2008 at 00:46.
No problems here.
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Seconded. In my situation, my ex asked me if it was ok for "us to date friends of the other person" I said yes. Then when she started going out it was a total surprise the way I felt towards that relationship.
If you take the cautious route, ask him again about a week after going out with her how he feels. He probably will say fine but still...
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They've got a fairly complicated history, but he dumped her when she was still crazy about him and he was only keeping her around for the sake of being in a relationship.Originally Posted by LeftEyeNine
He's not exactly a beacon of calmness and reason either, and I'm pretty sure he's going to be extremely pissed.
I haven't actually asked her out yet; I'll take Pever's suggestion and see if it's going anywhere before I break the news to him.
Last edited by Kralizec; 10-19-2008 at 18:01.
you haven't met my friends...
I have two particular friends who are very close, they go everywhere together.
well friend #1 got involved with this particular girl, and they dated for about a year, most of the time the 3 would hang out together.
however, they broke up, and a month later, friend #2 was dating the same girl... and the 3 of them would hang out together also!
with all the kissing in public thing
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Bros before ****. Always remember, friends stay, girlfriends/girls come and go.
So, after 2 years, hit the pedal, but inform your friend first.
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As others have said, ask first.
One thing you might want to take into account is the amount of time you spend with your friend. Having her around when hanging out with him and others can cause either a) jealousy problems, or b) re-ignite their old feelings. You said it was a complicated relationship, be careful down when going down this path.
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oooohhh. i may have a similiar problem, only its been 2 months, not 2 years....
Rather personal.....
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Last edited by ELITEofWARMANGINGERYBREADMEN88; 10-21-2008 at 20:40.
No tapping a buddy's ex. Ever. It's in the Man-Code, Chapter 3, verse 5.
Not a buddy? No prob. But you can't do both.
Maybe it's OK in Europe.
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Go for it, and don't ask him just let him know, you don't need permission, well not his anyway
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