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    Question Comforting

    If someone of the opposite gender in your class is going to suffer a personal loss and you find them crying in the classroom before class, would it be creepy to go over there and comfort them or no?

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    laugh at them
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    AKWC, depends on your relationship to that person and your intent. If you have some sort of acquaintance and she has never caught you trying to get a sniff of her sports bra, then you should be fine. It's perfectly natural to want to comfort someone in distress. Especially if she's a hottie.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Strike For The South View Post
    laugh at them

    lulz, you a meanie!

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    AKWC, depends on your relationship to that person and your intent. If you have some sort of acquaintance and she has never caught you trying to get a sniff of her sports bra, then you should be fine. It's perfectly natural to want to comfort someone in distress. Especially if she's a hottie.
    I don't really know her well Lemur, but she is a hottie brunette.

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    Comfort her only with no other intentions than to console. Take it from there. Hitting on her while she is upset would seem somewhat insensitive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Strike For The South View Post
    laugh at them
    This, and tell everyone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by A Nerd View Post
    Comfort her only with no other intentions than to console. Take it from there. Hitting on her while she is upset would seem somewhat insensitive.
    Extacly what I am trying to do. Don't get me wrong, I would be legitmatelly sorry if her father dies, I would, but I'm trying to kill 2 birds with one stone here. Show my respect + score points. Proably only time I'll get to do it sadly.

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    Extacly what I am trying to do. Don't get me wrong, I would be legitmatelly sorry if her father dies, I would, but I'm trying to kill 2 birds with one stone here. Show my respect + score points. Proably only time I'll get to do it sadly.
    Very good. Points you score after your encounter, in my opinion, would be acquired as you leave her alone to mourn in peace.
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    This must be one of the most depressing threads I've read in a while. Save a few exceptions, what dissapointments all around.


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    Just be nice. Once the thing is over, then you cash in your points.

    Don't try to do both at once, that often doesnt turn out well...
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    If you are trying to score points you aren't really being nice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Strike For The South View Post
    laugh at them
    LOL. Thaaaaanks, bro, I had to take the time of wiping my spittle off the computer screen.

    Quote Originally Posted by A Nerd View Post
    Comfort her only with no other intentions than to console. Take it from there. Hitting on her while she is upset would seem somewhat insensitive.
    Only comfort her, yes. Tell her that she doesn't have to go to class, and that you're willing to photocopy your notes for her (make sure you write clearly during class). This means she has to talk to you next time, whereupon you will hand her the notes, explain some things about them, and tell her to holla at ya if she has any questions or concerns about it. This will put you on speaking terms, and you can actually talk or sit by her throughout the remaining semester. Sometime in, say "Heeeey, I'm gonna grab some coffee before my next class, you're welcome to come if you'd like."

    Don't think of her as a primary source of fun, though. You're tryna be a good person, and at most: just keep her in your back pocket for a while, nothing too soon, you need to give her time, right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by AntiKingWarmanCake88 View Post
    If someone of the opposite gender in your class is going to suffer a personal loss and you find them crying in the classroom before class, would it be creepy to go over there and comfort them or no?
    Wait.... Is going to suffer a personal loss? DUDE WHAT EVER YOU DO, KILLING SOMEONE TO GET IN A GIRLS PANTS IS NOT THE RIGHT WAY TO GO ABOUT IT. With that said, I'd go for a pistol, nice and quick.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Strike For The South View Post
    laugh at them
    Coffee -> screen

    Anyways I would leave her be, you have no idea what she's going trough even when you do.

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    wrap your arm on her shouldrer, pat her head slowly, and said "don't cry, what's wrong" along with emphatic face...

    That always working...

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    First of all: be honest with yourself.

    If getting into her pants is what you're really after, then leave her alone. Once it becomes obvious to her that you don't give a about her situation but are only there to try to seduce her, things will probably get far worse, for both of you.

    If you truly feel sorry for her, then comfort her, but with no other intentions than that: helping her to get through a difficult emotional time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Andres View Post
    First of all: be honest with yourself.

    If getting into her pants is what you're really after, then leave her alone. Once it becomes obvious to her that you don't give a about her situation but are only there to try to seduce her, things will probably get far worse, for both of you.

    If you truly feel sorry for her, then comfort her, but with no other intentions than that: helping her to get through a difficult emotional time.
    Ya. Best is to politely pretend you didn't notice her crying if you don't really care. If you do care keep it to a squeeze in the shoulder small gestures say the most.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fragony View Post
    Ya. Best is to politely pretend you didn't notice her crying if you don't really care. If you do care keep it to a squeeze in the shoulder small gestures say the most.
    and said if she was uncomfortable, you will comfort her at your home
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    If you don't know the girl well enough (e.g. you hardly speak to each other), yes it's going to be awkward for her if you try to comfort her. My advice is to leave her be, because if a girl isn't in to you, no amount of comforting will change that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cute Wolf View Post
    wrap your arm on her shouldrer, pat her head slowly, and said "don't cry, what's wrong" along with emphatic face...

    That always working...

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    especially well if you are very friendly with most of the girls... well "very friendly" because you have a face and voice that very much like them...
    Don't listen to him, he tries to get you slapped.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sasaki Kojiro View Post
    If you are trying to score points you aren't really being nice.
    That's why "nice guys" aren't actually nice.

    And whats this points stuff. LIFE ISN'T GAME! YOU DON'T KEEP TALLY OF SCORE!
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    Maybe Antiwar is just a decent guy, why do you guys assume he's into her

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    Just leave her alone, unless you are already good friends with her. Otherwise you will just come across as creepy.
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    I say go for it man.

    If her dad just died that means she has a male vaccum in her life that needs to be filled and thus will be more willing to intercourse with you.

    Just make sure you say you love her and will always be there for her

    then dump her
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    Quote Originally Posted by Psychonaut View Post
    And whats this points stuff. LIFE ISN'T GAME! YOU DON'T KEEP TALLY OF SCORE!
    I don't know about that: I'm sure AWK would trigger a dialogue if he walked up to said NPC and pressed enter on her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alh_p View Post
    I don't know about that: I'm sure AWK would trigger a dialogue if he walked up to said NPC and pressed enter on her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Strike For The South View Post
    I say go for it man.

    If her dad just died that means she has a male vaccum in her life that needs to be filled and thus will be more willing to intercourse with you.

    Just make sure you say you love her and will always be there for her

    then dump her
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    If you don't know the girl well enough (e.g. you hardly speak to each other), yes it's going to be awkward for her if you try to comfort her. My advice is to leave her be, because if a girl isn't in to you, no amount of comforting will change that.

    Hmmmm good point.

    Quote Originally Posted by Andres View Post
    First of all: be honest with yourself.

    If getting into her pants is what you're really after, then leave her alone. Once it becomes obvious to her that you don't give a about her situation but are only there to try to seduce her, things will probably get far worse, for both of you.

    If you truly feel sorry for her, then comfort her, but with no other intentions than that: helping her to get through a difficult emotional time.

    +1 for you comrade.

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    If you care about her, just say some nice words and give her some encouragement, then walk off. Unless she comes to you, do not go up and hug her, start caressing her, licking tears from her cheek.
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