Beautiful Girl in Supermarket Problem

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

Hi comrades,

yes I know I once asked you "what to do if you notice you have just attracted a beautiful girl", but now the situation is different. What to say to the beautiful supermarket employee girl?

There is that girl that works in a local supermarket. Unlike the vast majority of these girls, this one is smart, intelligent, pedantic (yes) and extremely beautiful (cutie-hottie, what else). I'm sure she is Indian or Pakistani if that helps.

Needless to say everytime I have to visit the supermarket I pick the one where she works, although it's not the nearest. She's sadly not there everytime I visit but sometimes. Oh if I only knew the schedule!

So what could get me into conversation with her? We have "met" prior, when she was the cashier. She smiled at me, but not terribly flirty. I've thought about asking her "Umm, do you know where product x is?" Then she would show it to me, but what to say afterwards? I want to find out...

Please share your incredible experience with me. :yes:

[Sasaki Kojiro]

How do you know she's smart, intelligent (as well as smart? :inquisitive: ), and pedantic ( :dizzy2: ) if you've never talked to her?

btw, it's the cashiers job to smile at customers...

[Strike For The South]

Ah yes, the grocery store. Where young love blooms.

I hate to break it to you as you seem like a rather amiable soul but getting an employee while you're a customer can be tricky business but not impossible. Confidence and directness will do you a wrold of good in this scenario. Say what how and when you want something and say it with authority. If you don't the grocery clerks will laugh at you and she will say no. Trust me I know grocery stores.

I will also say don't bother "building" the relationship. If the store is the only place you see her it isn't worth it. She has the same convo 20000 times a day. Be forceful and memorable.

She may say no in which case you yell move on.

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

How do you know she's smart, intelligent (as well as smart? :inquisitive: )
My educated guess.


and pedantic ( :dizzy2: ) if you've never talked to her?
Observed her five seconds.


btw, it's the cashiers job to smile at customers...
Ah, you don't live in Germany, right?

[Beefy187]

When you get your change and before you walk away, say Danke and smile...then walk away.

Repeat

[LittleGrizzly]

When you get your change and before you walk away, say Danke and smile...then walk away.

Repeat

In that case the older pakistani gentleman down the road shall be mine in no time!

Strike's probably got a point, she has to make alot of polite conversation for her job, be different and memorable...

how ? ..... errm... wait for another .org user to suggest something good...

[Strike For The South]

You don't have to be necessarily different just memorable. Go up there with a straight back look her straight in the eye and say your piece. Don't fumble through it, Don't stutter, Even if you are scared to death don't show it.

I'm a grocery clerk myself. I have seen only 2 female employees give there number away to customers both times those ol'boys knew what they wanted and got it.

Conversely I've seen about 100 fail but you never know!

[Beefy187]

When you get your change and before you walk away, say Danke and smile...then walk away.

Repeat

In that case the older pakistani gentleman down the road shall be mine in no time!


Well there is a polite smile... and a flirtish polite smile :smash:

EDIT: Ok listen to SFTS

[tibilicus]

Hi comrades,

yes I know I once asked you "what to do if you notice you have just attracted a beautiful girl", but now the situation is different. What to say to the beautiful supermarket employee girl?

There is that girl that works in a local supermarket. Unlike the vast majority of these girls, this one is smart, intelligent, pedantic (yes) and extremely beautiful (cutie-hottie, what else). I'm sure she is Indian or Pakistani if that helps.

Needless to say everytime I have to visit the supermarket I pick the one where she works, although it's not the nearest. She's sadly not there everytime I visit but sometimes. Oh if I only knew the schedule!

So what could get me into conversation with her? We have "met" prior, when she was the cashier. She smiled at me, but not terribly flirty. I've thought about asking her "Umm, do you know where product x is?" Then she would show it to me, but what to say afterwards? I want to find out...

Please share your incredible experience with me. :yes:

Ah these are the sort of things which we let pass in our lives and then sit their thinking what would of happened if I actually had the bottle to make a move? If your serious about this then seize the opportunity.

Maybe try and ask her to show you where a certain item is located and then get into a conversation with her from there. Try something simple like how long have you worked here that sort of thing. If your lucky conversation might bloom from then on. If your not just be ready to walk away and keep your head high.

[pevergreen]

Depending on your budget:

Low Budget:
Find a nice solid object that fits nicely in one hand, with an exposed outer area. eg. Paddle, baseball bat
Take said object to the grocery store.
Pick up a single item, one very cheap, say a single sweet or something.
Act completely normal, as no one can see your object, as it is strapped to your back.
When she starts processing your item, unsheath your object and use it on her head.
When she has had enough of your object and is out cold, proceed to drag her out of the store while grunting and having your object in plain sight of everyone, warning them to keep their distance.

High Budget:
Obtain chloroform.
Use on girl.
Drag out of store.

[Beefy187]

Depending on your budget:

Low Budget:
Find a nice solid object that fits nicely in one hand, with an exposed outer area. eg. Paddle, baseball bat
Take said object to the grocery store.
Pick up a single item, one very cheap, say a single sweet or something.
Act completely normal, as no one can see your object, as it is strapped to your back.
When she starts processing your item, unsheath your object and use it on her head.
When she has had enough of your object and is out cold, proceed to drag her out of the store while grunting and having your object in plain sight of everyone, warning them to keep their distance.

High Budget:
Obtain chloroform.
Use on girl.
Drag out of store.

In that case, you got about 1 hour or so to confess your love until some foolish cops comes along and drag you away to jail.

[pevergreen]

Grunt. Grunt. Gru gru grunt.

Alternatively, use your object on their heads as well.

[AlexanderSextus]

be careful. I've seen many guys ask a girl if she was pakistani or indian only to find out they were mexican or peruvian or something like that.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

She might be Turkish if you're in Germany.

Situations like this are blisteringly simple. Before you get to the counter take a deep breat, relax; then, let her ring up your order, hand over the money and get the reciet. Her job is done, now you say:

"So, do you fancy going out for a drink later this week?"

Don't bother with any of the "building a relationship", you can't because she's doing her job, at best you'll come off as "sweet", at worst stalkerish.

Remember, money reciet, then ask. Whatever the hell you do don't ask before you hand over the money.

[LittleGrizzly]

Whatever the hell you do don't ask before you hand over the money.

why ?

[Papewaio]

I asked a waitress out on a date once. She said 'Sorry, I've got to study for exams.'

So be prepared for the rejection. Its better to try and fail, then never try at all.

She actually did have exams. I continued to go to that shop.

[||Lz3||]

What if you wait till her shift ends?

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Whatever the hell you do don't ask before you hand over the money.

why ?

Um, seriously?

It doesn't leave a good impression if you ask, then hand over the money.

[Beefy187]

What if you wait till her shift ends?

That would be stalkerish

[Andres]

Its better to try and fail, then never try at all.

:yes:


Do they sell flowers or something else that can be used as a small gift for a first romantic date (chocolate perhaps?).

You could ask her where you can find them. Tell her you want to ask a certain girl out, but you don't really know her and you're a bit shy. Ask her what would be a good gift to break the ice when asking a girl you don't really know and tell her it's the first time you're doing such a thing.

See how things go. If the chit chat is fun, buy the flowers (or whatever item she advises you), pay your groceries, put them in your car and come back in with the flowers. Give them to her and ask her out.

In case it's a no, you can always never go back to that store (it's not the nearest for you anyway...). Whatever she says, don't be rude and let her keep the flowers.

Be prepared to be:

1) succesfull :2thumbsup:
2) feel completely and utterly ridiculous :creep:

[Sasaki Kojiro]

My educated guess.


Observed her five seconds.

To say someone is pedantic is an insult...



Ah, you don't live in Germany, right?

What are they supposed to do in germany? Isn't customer service customer service?

[Andres]

To say someone is pedantic is an insult...


An online dictionary (English-Dutch) translates 'pedantic' as "academisch [a], universitair [a]"; which means "academic" or "coming from the university"; I think Centurio meant to say that she seems to be well educated.

The Dutch word "pedant" means something in the lines of "pigheaded" or "obstinate in your opinions".

Not an insult, just (apparently) a bad choice of words (the word "pedantic" seems to have the same bad connotation in English as the Dutch word "pedant"?).

[pevergreen]

My intepretation is that of harping on a single point, never letting up.

Pedantic about many things would be spending lots of time on many simple things just making sure that one last time that its ok, that its good.

[Husar]

Interesting, I guess the advice from Strike is the best.

I've been thinking that before but I'm rather hesitant asking girls out who I do not know at least a bit, for several reasons. Which doesn't mean I never do or did it.

Oh and one girl I just started talking to on the way to uni actually asked me whether I was a stalker(you may know the story), I just kept cool, said no and that I just noticed her on the way to uni often, she didn't drop me right there, we went partying etc afterwards though she was loyal to her boyfriend, just saying that even if she thinks you're a stalker it doesn't have to be the end of the world unless you blush, start stuttering and then run away. ~D

[Jolt]

Depending on your budget:

Low Budget:
Find a nice solid object that fits nicely in one hand, with an exposed outer area. eg. Paddle, baseball bat
Take said object to the grocery store.
Pick up a single item, one very cheap, say a single sweet or something.
Act completely normal, as no one can see your object, as it is strapped to your back.
When she starts processing your item, unsheath your object and use it on her head.
When she has had enough of your object and is out cold, proceed to drag her out of the store while grunting and having your object in plain sight of everyone, warning them to keep their distance.

High Budget:
Obtain chloroform.
Use on girl.
Drag out of store.

POTM! (Post of the Month!)

We should have that award as well...

[HoreTore]

As a wandering grocery store/gas station lovemeister, I feel I can share some of my "wisdom" here:

1. If you ever see her somewhere else, like at a pub or whatever, NOW IS YOUR CHANCE!! The glory of this situation, is that she's suddenly any random girl as well as being off work, so will be free to do whatever she wants. As she's "normal" now, you can hit on her like any other. But here's the good stuff; you already have something to say, a reason to talk to her, ie. that you've seen her before at work. But don't push that, a couple of sentences is enough, more than that and you'll be boring/dumb. Say something like "hey, I've seen you before, you work at xxx down the street from my house", then move on to the regular stuff.
2. Shop when there are few people in the store. Off course, make sure she's working too :clown: Working at a grocery store is incredibly dull to most people, and are dying for some chit-chat when things are slow. Don't try to engage in conversation when there's other costumers around though. Just some general conversation, and for the gold medal, make sure you find out something about her, particularly stuff she does in her spare time, so that you can "accidentally" bump into her and do #1.

Or, you can off course take the bull by the horns and just plain ask her out on the spot. It won't work most of the time, but every now and again it will. But do keep it mind that there's a 90% chance of failure.

[Alexanderofmacedon]

Well your first post gives it away in my opinion. Why not spark a little convo by asking if she is Pakistani or Indian? Maybe use a little bit of what you know (or do a little research) so you can have some witty comment she wouldn't expect a foreigner to know.

Then just introduce yourself, she'll do the same. Ask if she wants to get some coffee later.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

I don't know about that, mixing up Indian and Pakistani is not great, and she might concievably be Greek or Turkish, or Iranian.

[Alexanderofmacedon]

I don't know about that, mixing up Indian and Pakistani is not great, and she might concievably be Greek or Turkish, or Iranian.

True she could be another ethnicity, but if the OP is certain he is Pakistani or Indian then it's only the two. (I guess you could be sure and still be wrong).

I know mixing up Indian and Pakistani is bad, but they're all very similar. We used to be brothers before the British and the partition...(I'm Indian).

Some people take it the wrong way, though; you're right.

EDIT: I'm half Indian and half German/Dutch/English and I've been mistaken for 1) Pakistani 2) Iranian 3) Egyptian 4) Italian 5) Greek ...............6) Mexican.......(but that's because I live in Texas)

[Scurvy]

be careful. I've seen many guys ask a girl if she was pakistani or indian only to find out they were mexican or peruvian or something like that.

Or ask if she was Pakistani only to find out she was Indian or vice versa...

Is there going to be a seperate section in the tavern for dating/relationship/life advice, there seems to be alot of such threads recently (maybe because its January...)


:2thumbsup:

[Ramses II CP]

Look, it's the same as meeting anyone:

First you need to know something about her, something about her tastes in music, movies, books, etc. You find this out by paying attention (Is she carrying a book today, wearing a button, etc?) or by having mutual friends (Any less interesting girls or guys from that store you know she hangs out with and you could tolerate?).

Second you need to invite her to do something with you (Or a group) related to those tastes.

Alternately you could just be direct. If you're single and she's single simply saying, at the close of a natural conversation, 'We should get coffee sometime,' can open things up. Everyone wants to meet interesting people, though, admittedly, there's a barrier to doing so at work, so just be interesting.

And if she says no shrug and let it go. At least you tried, and the next time you run into a girl like that (And it will happen) you'll be more relaxed and prepared.

:egypt:

[Jolt]

...Maybe she is Martian.

Hey, we never know.

[Husar]

Why not buy her a bouquet of 24 red roses and give it to her?

Alternatively you could hire a private detective to find out more about her and then confront her with your collected evidence and prove that you two belong together.

Well, you have a 50% chance with either option depending on whether she is a romantic (option one) or a rational (option 2) person.

[pevergreen]

POTM! (Post of the Month!)

We should have that award as well...

Thank you. I slaved long and hard over that post.

*mumbles something about ungrateful people*

[Marius Dynamite]

Okay, I'm going to try and give some advice even though I wouldn't do anything in your situation.

As others have said I wouldn't try to build up a relationship. She'll probably forget you from one day to the next and if your interacting with her often enough for her to remember you then she'll think your weird.

The best idea would be to dive in.

I would say, from experience as a sales assisstant, a good way to open any conversation with a sales assisstant is to ask them how the day was. In particular a sentence such as 'was the store busy today?'. Your not asking her personally about her day, just how the day was in general for the shop.

Note: I dont mean express the sentence in those words exactly, use whatever casual style you would normally use.

Perhaps the best time to try would be near closing time when the store isn't busy. If shes working the checkout and no one is behind you in the queue that would be the ideal time.



Either way from that you should get an answer which could lead to a good conversation. . It's a simple question for her to answer both positively and negatively (I don't mean rudely, I mean she could say "yeah its been busy all day").

Just make sure when you ask you dont sound like your only interested in how busy the store was. Your casual tone should indicate your happy to converse.

Depending on what she says back you should try to carry the conversation on. If shes saying something like 'it's the busiest its been since I've worked here' then ask her if shes been there long.

If your looking to ask her out, which you are, I would say its crucial you do 2 things. The first, make sure you introduce yourself. Maybe at this point in the light conversation you should say tell her your name and offer to shake her hand. After that comes the second crucial thing, which is to actually ask her if she would like to go out sometime. Maybe you could ask her when she finishes that day, maybe some other day, whatever works.


It's hard to describe what I'm trying to say but to summarise.. casual conversation-->introduce self-->ask out.

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

Well, I think I should go with SFTS here. Building a relationship would be somehow pointless. I've done that alot already and I don't think I want anymore friends... not that I didn't want friends but I'd like better to date her.

So, I approach her, smile (I was confirmed to have an attractive smile :grin:), ask "excuse me, can you tell me where the xxx is", and then? "You are for sure the most beautiful in this shop" / "You are much more beautiful than your colleagues". Surely she will joyfully giggle cause she knows it's the truth. Then "Do you want to go out with me?" Isn't that pathetic? I know the chances for failure are high, but I want to decrease them...

Please keep on the good advice...


To say someone is pedantic is an insult...

What are they supposed to do in germany? Isn't customer service customer service?
No it's not meant as an insult, it's just that she pays very much attention on arranging the merchandise which is quite unusual for the shop. And in this supermarket chain the employees are never friendly, they never smile. So if they do you can be sure that they aren't forced to do it. Which is the case in a lot of German shops and supermarkets.


I don't know about that, mixing up Indian and Pakistani is not great, and she might concievably be Greek or Turkish, or Iranian.
OK, she could be Iranian now that you said that. After all I've read her name sign. I told you to give you a general idea about her look. I don't really mind what she is and I don't think that should play a role when I want to ask her out.

[drone]

Go through her checkout line with a tub of vaseline, a spatula, magnum condoms, and camera film. She will be all yours.

[Papewaio]

Complementing her on her looks is complementing her parents.

Complementing her on what she chooses to do, is complementing her.

Also by saying she is beautiful stops her from thinking 'Why does he want to ask me out?'. You have to get her curious enough to want to find that answer.

Sure everyone wants to feel attractive, but no one wants to be just attractive.

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

Complementing her on her looks is complementing her parents.

Complementing her on what she chooses to do, is complementing her.

Also by saying she is beautiful stops her from thinking 'Why does he want to ask me out?'. You have to get her curious enough to want to find that answer.

Sure everyone wants to feel attractive, but no one wants to be just attractive.
So you think I should say "You are by far the best shop attendant around! Not so dull and boring like your colleagues, but so smart and witty!"?

Three balloons for everyone who can come up with a real crack line. What would please an ambitious shop attendant?

[Papewaio]

No.

Just ask her out. "Hi, I'm Bob, would you like to go out for coffee sometime?".

Complement her later when she asks "Why did you ask me out."

[Beefy187]

try Hypnosis :yes:

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Listen to Pape, he speaks wisdom from experience I think.

Now, if you want a line, after you've been out on a few dates you can say something like, "You look really lovely tonight". I find that works well with English girls, worst case you get a hug, best reaction I ever got was "I love you"

Unfortunately that killed that particular relationship.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

This may help:

Warning - may contain some "vivid" language or description. I'm not going to lie, I've only read the first part. I have, however, read other stories by this author. I strongly recommend them.

http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/date/breaking_down_the_game.phtml#934

[King Jan III Sobieski]

Give up; be like me - devote yourself to the Lord and decide to join a monastery...someday. :book::book::book:

[Alexanderofmacedon]

Give up; be like me - devote yourself to the Lord and decide to join a monastery...someday. :book::book::book:

Ihhhh...:inquisitive:

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

This may help:

Warning - may contain some "vivid" language or description. I'm not going to lie, I've only read the first part. I have, however, read other stories by this author. I strongly recommend them.

http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/date/breaking_down_the_game.phtml#934
Great read! Thx!

[HoreTore]

Give up; be like me - devote yourself to the Lord and decide to join a monastery...someday. :book::book::book:

I'm torn between that or becoming gay(it's a choice according to the christians, so...).

Women are a hassle. Plain and simple. If you enter a relationship - they nag. If you have a one night stand - they nag. If you fool around for a while - they nag. If you don't even touch them - they nag.

It's just not worth it.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

I'm torn between that or becoming gay(it's a choice according to the christians, so...).

Women are a hassle. Plain and simple. If you enter a relationship - they nag. If you have a one night stand - they nag. If you fool around for a while - they nag. If you don't even touch them - they nag.

It's just not worth it.


Nah, you can be a gay monk, Pope says that's fine.:smash:

Seriously though, the best advice I can give you is to just ask her out, if the plan has more than three steps it usually won't work. You need something simple so that your little brain can take over in case your big brain runs away scared.

[Kekvit Irae]

Needless to say everytime I have to visit the supermarket I pick the one where she works, although it's not the nearest. She's sadly not there everytime I visit but sometimes. Oh if I only knew the schedule!

Ah... the beginnings of a stalker young love.

[Centurio Nixalsverdrus]

Women are a hassle. Plain and simple. If you enter a relationship - they nag. If you have a one night stand - they nag. If you fool around for a while - they nag. If you don't even touch them - they nag.


Ah... the beginnings of a stalker young love.
Haha, quot erat demonstrandum! There we have a woman, could say something useful. But no! Ha. And why if you can nag instead.

[Fragony]

Ask for something you know they don't have "but I need it for [insert dish]"

Ah well, let's go to [ïnsert restaurant] then ok?

[Meneldil]

Any plan that involves more than a few sentences will fail.

Just ask directly if she want to go for a drink someday. Don't compliment her, because that's kind of old.

Having worked in a supermarket, I don't remember any cashier dating with a customer, even though most of the cashiers spent their time talking about sex and flirt during their break. I unhappily think this is not a good situation to start any kind of relationship, but good luck anyway :)

[HoreTore]

Having worked in a supermarket, I don't remember any cashier dating with a customer, even though most of the cashiers spent their time talking about sex and flirt during their break. I unhappily think this is not a good situation to start any kind of relationship, but good luck anyway :)

The woman I who worked my shift at the gas station before I started there is now living with a guy she met there, as a customer. But then, she was working the night shift, things are different at night, there's a lot more conversation going on(which makes the job actually quite fun, even though it's horribly paid). Also, he was working when he met her too, as he was working as a cop.

Hmmm.... Come to think of it, if I see him again and remember this, I could ask him how he did it and report back :2thumbsup:

[Abokasee]

Whatever the hell you do don't ask before you hand over the money.

why ?

Prostitutes
Laywers

Two professions you ask before handing the money for there services.

Yea I'll shamelessly make a really bad joke, don't care what ya think.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Prostitutes
Laywers

Two professions you ask before handing the money for there services.

Yea I'll shamelessly make a really bad joke, don't care what ya think.

And bingo was his namo.

There you go.

[desert]

Go up to her and ask "Would you like to join me in descanting the Indiana Jones Star Wars theme song?"

Then burst into song:
:applause::applause:
"Kiss a wookieeeee, kick a droiiiid!
Fly the Falcoooonnnnnn, through an as-ter-oid!
'Till the princeeeesss, is annoooyyedd!
Oh, it's spaceships, it's monsters, it's Star Wars, we love it!
Come and help meeeee, Obi-waaaaannnn!
Action fighteerrrr, and a blas-ter-gun!
Dance with Ewoooookkss - oh, what fuuuuuunnnnn!
This is spaceships, it's monsters, it's Star Wars, we love it!" :tomato:

If she doesn't join in by the second verse, then don't bother with her. :no:

[naut]

Confidence. Confidence. Confidence.

P.S: It's better not to put her on a pedestal, she's just a girl.

[Beefy187]

Go up to her and ask "Would you like to join me in descanting the Indiana Jones Star Wars theme song?"

Then burst into song:
:applause::applause:
"Kiss a wookieeeee, kick a droiiiid!
Fly the Falcoooonnnnnn, through an as-ter-oid!
'Till the princeeeesss, is annoooyyedd!
Oh, it's spaceships, it's monsters, it's Star Wars, we love it!
Come and help meeeee, Obi-waaaaannnn!
Action fighteerrrr, and a blas-ter-gun!
Dance with Ewoooookkss - oh, what fuuuuuunnnnn!
This is spaceships, it's monsters, it's Star Wars, we love it!" :tomato:

If she doesn't join in by the second verse, then don't bother with her. :no:

whats the odds of her not knowing the song? :beam:
Although it would kick ass if she does