need help... [Archive]

LittleGrizzly

04-07-2009, 19:30

Some deatils would be helpful...

How old are you both ?

If your adults a night out on the town drinking is usually a popular one... or everyone loves taking thier date to a movie... you get to avoid any awkardness... though you don't actually end up talking to them much so you don't get much chance to make an impression...

What type of girl is she and boy are you...

Are you both party animals... curl up and read a book kind of people...

deatails.. its all in the deatails..

Hax

04-07-2009, 19:31

Be yourself.

Don't take advice from others, especially not me. Especially not from me. This is the only way you can guarantee you can be yourself. Do whatever you see fit to ask her out.

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 19:32

but i need a way to talk o her first. most of the day she is just in her house or at a different school. after that i can handle it. i just have to find a way to talk to her that doesnt involve me directly going to her door and hoping she answers.

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 19:34

im 14 in a month and shes 13. i can handle most of it, i just have to find a way to talk to her and not have to hope she answers the door. her mom likes me(obviously not like-like, that'd be gross), but i cant get a chance to talk to her if i never get to see her.

LittleGrizzly

04-07-2009, 19:37

Steal something of hers and then return it! ~;)

I see the problem it is quite complicated to make the first move... is there any way so you can arrange it so you bump into each other...

You happen to start walking to the shop as she's walking down the road... you catch up to her and ask if she minds you walking with her...

Your both young teenagers... i can't think of much else outside of a movie... ask her to go to the local arcade with you... win her a nice teddy lots of oppurtunity to talk and joke...

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 19:39

were in a small part of town, theres just 2 schools by us and i dont go to either of them. no shops, just the little neighborhood and the road. then after you leave the neighborhood and drive for like half a minute theres a strip mall and a sonic, but then nothing else is within walking or even biking distance.

LittleGrizzly

04-07-2009, 19:42

You could always try it a bit of a different way...

You want to get some new clothes so you knock her door as she is always looking nice and you would like her advice on your clothing purchases... though im guessing you probably go with your mom to buy clothes so that may not work... sounds good in theory though... compliment them into coming out with you...

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 19:45

umm....shes been here for like 4 days how would i know if she has a fashion sense. and somehow that makes me sound sorta gay...

HoreTore

04-07-2009, 20:23

She moved in just 4 days ago?

Welcome her to the neighborhood then! You kids these days(now I made myself feel old...) still go outside to take a break from these newfangled interwebs or smoke, right? Well, you're bound to bump into her eventually...

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 20:26

i already welcomed them....unfortunately i ended up talking to her mom for like 40 minutes....and made myself look like an :daisy: for not paying more attention to her....i need a facepalm please...

Yoyoma1910

04-07-2009, 20:28

I would wait until you're older.
Like 45.

Or maybe join a monastic order.

Strike For The South

04-07-2009, 20:30

Walk to Sonic. Slushies are what made me into the Don Juan I am.

LittleGrizzly

04-07-2009, 20:33

Go over there and make it out that your doing her a favour...

Hey i know your new in the nieghbourhood so... i was wondering if you wanted to go out and catch or a movie or hit up the arcade... or whatever you kids do these days...

BigTex

04-07-2009, 20:38

Well I'd say go out drinking together, but you've got at least to 15 till you start doing things like that....

Ask her to hangout at the movies, fast and furious was amazing. Maybe have her hangout with you and some friends at the mall.

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 20:38

but odds are her dad answers the door...i live just off a marine base...you catchin my drift?

for stupid people my dad and her dad are marines. you typically dont ask out marines daughters.

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 20:39

once again, i just need a way to get to her to ask her out. i can ask and stuff tahts no problem. but i need to be able to actually get to her and ask. i cant just knock on the door and i never see her.

Strike For The South

04-07-2009, 20:44

HoreTore

04-07-2009, 20:51

Or maybe join a monastic order.

I've been thinking about that.

That, or gay. According to the christians, it's a choice! Either way, you no longer have to worry about the curse called "women".

But then there always seems to be someone there to turn me away from it.... Right now, there's this one specimen at work who just got single... And then there was that woman at the bar on saturday who could've been interesting if not for her horrible friend(of course female) who interrupted things with non-stop talk about planes, of all things...

Gays have it easy.

What do you want the girl for anyway? I mean..... You're too young for the fun stuff...

Strike For The South

04-07-2009, 20:53

What do you want the girl for anyway? I mean..... You're too young for the fun stuff...

Whattttttt. You're never to young for strange.

HoreTore

04-07-2009, 20:58

Whattttttt. You're never to young for strange.

You will cease your yank slang when talking to your foreign overlords, my good sir! Or do you want me to collect that external debt of yours...?

meaning: I haven't got the foggiest what you meant by that....

EDIT: thanks for the explanation, Strike... But no, at 13 and 14, the womenfolk are generally not that inclined to engage in the fun stuff in a relationship. All you get is tongue(if you're lucky) and extreme amounts of nagging, whining, complaining, bitching, mood swings, etc. Bah, better leave it till they turn older and looser... And even then, I'm hesitant to say it's worth it. Right now, I'm actually quite confident that there's nothing in the world good enough to justify the bitching and the mood swings. For an additional bonus; try getting one allergic to the pill - get ready for some exciting months of non-stop mood swings. And all that sex you thought you'd get? Hah! I can hear the headaches from here!

Yoyoma1910

04-07-2009, 21:04

I've been thinking about that.

That, or gay. According to the christians, it's a choice! Either way, you no longer have to worry about the curse called "women".

But then there always seems to be someone there to turn me away from it.... Right now, there's this one specimen at work who just got single... And then there was that woman at the bar on saturday who could've been interesting if not for her horrible friend(of course female) who interrupted things with non-stop talk about planes, of all things...

Gays have it easy.

What do you want the girl for anyway? I mean..... You're too young for the fun stuff...

I know several gay monks... well most of them are now ex monks. I wouldn't say they had it easy. Imagine having to keep a relationship secret in that closed of a society.

I definitely agree about the age thing...

Although I must admit I had my first girlfriend at around 12 or 13. We met a 4-H camp. You have no idea what it's like to work at identifying inferior traits in livestock one minute, and then fall into puppy love the next.

:love:

Ah youth.

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 21:12

ummm.....ok....im sorry, whats 4-H?

HoreTore

04-07-2009, 21:17

ummm.....ok....im sorry, whats 4-H?

A nerd club for hillbillies.

Evil_Maniac From Mars

04-07-2009, 21:19

And then there was that woman at the bar on saturday who could've been interesting if not for her horrible friend(of course female) who interrupted things with non-stop talk about planes, of all things...

So why didn't you go for the friend? :smitten:

HoreTore

04-07-2009, 21:29

So why didn't you go for the friend? :smitten:

1. She talked about planes. At a bar. While drinking. PLANES?!?!??!?!??!?!??! WHO THE HELL CARES ABOUT PLANES?!?!?!??! WHO THE HELL TALKS ABOUT PLANES AT A BAR?!?!?!?

I mean, I talk a lot. And I do mean a lot. But I do notice when I'm annoying everyone else, and at that point I choose to shut up and let someone else do the talking. This specimen did not have that most important of abilities. I tried every trick in the book to show that I wasn't interested in the conversation(couldn't be rude, that would ruin my chances with the other one), but she just wouldn't shut up.

2. She wasn't good looking. And the other one made a certain someone something stir in my lower regions.

Yoyoma1910

04-07-2009, 21:29

A nerd club for hillbillies.

Yes, exactly.

4-H (http://4-h.org/)
It's a youth program, usually focused on agriculture.

My older brother was in it, so I got dragged along, like everything else.

But, it did prove a good way to "explore nature, " and it did help me start my first business: a rabbit farm, where my brother and I raised, bred, and then slaughter the animals for market. It was nice, until a pack of wild dogs broke into the pin area one night, and killed most of our stock. I was pretty gruesome. I didn't want anymore rabbits after that.

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 21:32

oh i get it.....4-Hillbillies. gotcha

ok so i still have the matter of how can i find a way to talk to her?

Yoyoma1910

04-07-2009, 21:43

oh i get it.....4-Hillbillies. gotcha

ok so i still have the matter of how can i find a way to talk to her?

Get her to join 4-H with you.

Evil_Maniac From Mars

04-07-2009, 21:45

1. She talked about planes. At a bar. While drinking. PLANES?!?!??!?!??!?!??! WHO THE HELL CARES ABOUT PLANES?!?!?!??! WHO THE HELL TALKS ABOUT PLANES AT A BAR?!?!?!?

Note to self - this is why nobody reacts to Flight Simulator X talk. :book:

2. She wasn't good looking. And the other one made a certain someone something stir in my lower regions.

Point taken.

Prussian to the Iron

04-07-2009, 22:23

Get her to join 4-H with you.

what? im no hillbilly. i dont even know if there is one around here, plus it looks boring as all hell.

pevergreen

04-07-2009, 22:59

Just show her what ub3r mirc0 you have. Knock on the door, then play a game of C&C Generals in your mind, acting out the keyboard and mouse. Show her how smooth your mouse grip is, how fast your fingers are on the keyboard.

Once she sees the micro, shes yours.

Yes, thats actually gotten me a girl. A hot one too, that doesnt play games.

Yoyoma1910

04-07-2009, 23:08

what? im no hillbilly. i dont even know if there is one around here, plus it looks boring as all hell.

Yes, well, I'm no hillbilly either. In fact, there aren't any hills at all where I'm from. Just mud and swamps.

As far as boring... well, what's your definition of boring? It's no more boring than some of the twaddle you'll have to listen to when you start dating girls.

My advice is not to date your neighbors. If things go south, or you just want to get away from them, everyday will be awkward. It'd be kind of like being married.

KarlXII

04-08-2009, 01:51

Ok, so heres what i need help with:

this girl moved in accross the street from me and is my age. i want to ask her out but i dont know her very well. at my age asking if she can come out and play will sound kinda weird, so how can i spend some time with her and get to ask her out?:help::help::help:

But Aquaman, you can't ask out a woman without gills. You're from two different worlds!

Just kidding, get to know her, find things she likes, try setting up a time to hangout. You could, and probably should, start with a group of people, then if you find things going further, try going somewhere with just her.

Best of luck!

a completely inoffensive name

04-08-2009, 02:04

this thread has provided much lol's. thank you everyone.

Sarmatian

04-08-2009, 03:09

Spare yourself the aggravation and forget about her for a few years. There's plenty of time for women to ruin your life later, no need to rush.

For the serious answer...
Seriously, I think you're both too young, and if there's not some common point of interest (like, you both play WOW, or something) you'll be bored when you're alone.

But, if you persist in doing something, anything will do, trust me. At the age of 13, she's just insecure as you are. Act like you know what you're doing, even if you don't. She doesn't know what she would like you to do, so it's all the same. Don't talk too much, suggest some activity, it doesn't matter what, biking, arcade, mall, computer games, watching movies, swimming... You know what girls your age like to do.

I presume there are at least a few kids your age where you live and that you hang out with them sometimes. The next time you kids get together to do whatever you do, just go over to her house, ring the bell and ask her if she would like to hang out with you and your friends, 'cause you know she's just moved here, she doesn't know anybody blah, blah, blah. She should jump at the opportunity to meet kids her age. That's a good ice breaker and after that, if it goes well, you can invite her to do something together, just the two of you.

KukriKhan

04-08-2009, 03:56

oh i get it.....4-Hillbillies. gotcha

ok so i still have the matter of how can i find a way to talk to her?

Mow her lawn.

-edit-
If she's worthwhile (or well-brought up) she'll come out and offer you water.

Talk.

Then you're on your own.

Strike For The South

04-08-2009, 03:57

Mow her lawn.

And get dirty? Pishhhhshaaawwww

KukriKhan

04-08-2009, 04:22

And get dirty? Pishhhhshaaawwww

Heh. Young people.

Want attention? Do something.

Preferably, something constructive, not just cartwheels down the sidewalk.

"Hey, what are you doing?'

"Aww, I got bored doing our lawn for my Dad, and I still have half a tank of gas, so I figured..."

"It's kinda, like, dirty work, huh?"

"A little. But I don't mind. Water cleans it all away."

"Hey. Want some water?"

"OK"

Ten years and 3 babies later, they'll still talk about the 'Lawn Mower Day' with affection. And the kids will hate hearing it again for the 400th time.

Or:

She'll watch from behind the curtains and never come out, much less offer water. In which case: don't waste your time. She's not ready yet, and may have issues bigger than you wanna handle.

Strike For The South

04-08-2009, 04:27

1. Cartwheels down a sidewalk would start a convo. ESP if he can pull them off in rapid succession.

2. Im a man/flexs

I'll agree to your plan only if he walks over without telling anyone.

Ice

04-08-2009, 04:30

oh i get it.....4-Hillbillies. gotcha

ok so i still have the matter of how can i find a way to talk to her?

No need to be a dick.

As for the girl, why don't you tell your mom to invite her family over for dinner? It worked for a friend of mine back in the day.

Strike For The South

04-08-2009, 04:33

Just be outside. Flash a smile.

Have your mum invite them over for some food.

No need to be a dick.

As for the girl, why don't you tell your mom to invite her family over for dinner? It worked for a friend of mine back in the day.

How's it going amigo?

Ice

04-08-2009, 04:59

How's it going amigo?

Great minds think alike.

Beefy187

04-08-2009, 05:51

Two easy routes.

Ones what Strike and Kush suggested.

Second is the opposite. Be friend with the other mother and make them invite your family for dinner. Probs she'll introduce you to the girl

Theres other ways like chucking a baseball into their garden when the girls families aren't around, ask for a trick or treat together or what ever.. But important thing is to be your self, and don't expect the girl to be your lover to start with. Aim for her to be a friend first.

Oh and never go to a movie with a girl.. especially not just a two of you. While men prefers action films, girls like romance. So avoid it if you can. Horror is fine but horrors are often R18+

Good luck and do keep telling us the progress.

Sigurd

04-08-2009, 07:44

Banquo's Ghost

04-08-2009, 07:56

Mow her lawn.

Excellent idea, but doesn't he have to ask her out first?

:embarassed:Oh, you mean it's not a euphemism...

And the other one made a certain someone something stir in my lower regions.

Reminds me - Rule 7 of First Dates - no curry.

:wink:

Vuk

04-08-2009, 08:24

First of all, I would not date a neighbor or a co-worker untill you get to know them very well, as you are gonna be stuck with them.
That aside though, it is pretty simple. Knock on the door when you know she is home. When her ma answers it, tell her you would like to speak with her daughter. Ask the girl if she wants to go get a creamy with you and go see a movie. That is how I did it and it worked fine. :P
Best advice, don't be afraid and don't put a lot onto it. Girls do not like nervous guys. Let her know you want to spend time with her, but don't let her smash you if she refuses.

pevergreen

04-08-2009, 08:30

Excellent idea, but doesn't he have to ask her out first?

:embarassed:Oh, you mean it's not a euphemism...

icwatudidther.

You are 14, she is 13. It 'aint gunna be much of a relationship anyway. :laugh4:

There is some great advice in this thread, if you wade through the Strike for the South junk.

As my ex would say to me, as I left school:

GL HF!

HoreTore

04-08-2009, 09:06

My advice is not to date your neighbors. If things go south, or you just want to get away from them, everyday will be awkward. It'd be kind of like being married.

My ex's are all in different parts of the country. The closest one is about 3 hours away, the next closest one 8 hours. Me likes.

Spare yourself the aggravation and forget about her for a few years. There's plenty of time for women to ruin your life later, no need to rush.

For the serious answer...
Seriously, I think you're both too young, and if there's not some common point of interest (like, you both play WOW, or something) you'll be bored when you're alone.

But, if you persist in doing something, anything will do, trust me. At the age of 13, she's just insecure as you are. Act like you know what you're doing, even if you don't. She doesn't know what she would like you to do, so it's all the same. Don't talk too much, suggest some activity, it doesn't matter what, biking, arcade, mall, computer games, watching movies, swimming... You know what girls your age like to do.

I presume there are at least a few kids your age where you live and that you hang out with them sometimes. The next time you kids get together to do whatever you do, just go over to her house, ring the bell and ask her if she would like to hang out with you and your friends, 'cause you know she's just moved here, she doesn't know anybody blah, blah, blah. She should jump at the opportunity to meet kids her age. That's a good ice breaker and after that, if it goes well, you can invite her to do something together, just the two of you.

I made myself feel old before, now you've made me feel even older.... And I'm just 22 :clown:

Mow her lawn.

Now you made my mind all dirty... This would be a good time to ship that young, hot maid we talked about. You got daughters, right?

Reminds me - Rule 7 of First Dates - no curry.

:wink:

I am proud to say that I've never been on a "date". Sounds like way too much work, with too little chance of any fun stuff happening. Much better to consume large ammounts of beer and go out ....and go home alone a few hours later....

Yoyoma1910

04-08-2009, 09:17

My ex's are all in different parts of the country. The closest one is about 3 hours away, the next closest one 8 hours. Me likes.

It's better when they're in different countries, and even better when they're on other continents.

Beefy187

04-08-2009, 09:46

What about writing stuff to her and put it in her mailbox? (Or better send it via the postal service).
See if she runs out as soon as the post man comes along. If she does, you know you have succeeded. She will be looking for a secret admirer. The final letter will be signed and she will be knocking on your door.

I would be happy but then again I'm a guy. I think I'll be creeped if I were her.

First of all, I would not date a neighbor or a co-worker untill you get to know them very well, as you are gonna be stuck with them.
That aside though, it is pretty simple. Knock on the door when you know she is home. When her ma answers it, tell her you would like to speak with her daughter. Ask the girl if she wants to go get a creamy with you and go see a movie. That is how I did it and it worked fine. :P
Best advice, don't be afraid and don't put a lot onto it. Girls do not like nervous guys. Let her know you want to spend time with her, but don't let her smash you if she refuses.

Good point

GL HF!

What does that mean?

It's better when they're in different countries, and even better when they're on other continents.

Damn it, I know I should've asked someone out before I left Australia :wall:

pevergreen

04-08-2009, 10:19

What does that mean?

Good Luck, Have Fun.

I told you. I told you that you should have asked every single girl in our year level out. You were leaving the next day...:laugh4:

You'll regret it forever, trust me. :laugh4:

Prussian to the Iron

04-08-2009, 13:43

so......if i want to get here attention just do stuff outside while she's watching?

Fragony

04-08-2009, 13:44

Steal something of hers and then return it! ~;)

LOL, brilliant strategy.

@OP, you only look like a fool if you agree. If she turns you down, give her a smile, 'ok no problem'.

Good luck.

Mow her lawn.

But she is 13 no need for powertools

pevergreen

04-08-2009, 14:00

@OP, you only look like a fool if you agree. If she turns you down, give her a smile, 'ok no problem'.

Very good strategy. I've asked out and been turned down by nearly every girl I've been friends with. If you make the girl feel alright about how they are etc, and appear happy no matter what her answer is, she will think better of you.

Vuk

04-08-2009, 15:12

Very good strategy. I've asked out and been turned down by nearly every girl I've been friends with. If you make the girl feel alright about how they are etc, and appear happy no matter what her answer is, she will think better of you.

Not to mention that you will look like desperate if you do not shrug it off. Girls get creeped out by desperate guys. Not to say that because a guy puts a lot on a girl's affection there is something wrong with him, but that is the way girls think (that is why they always get stuck with the jerks who think nothing of them :P). I made that mistake when I was younger, but learned really quickly that it was not so much about really liking someone as it was giving them what they want. You can do both of course, but if you if just like them, that ain't gonna do you too much good.