Women are confusing

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Ethelred Unread]

Sounds like she's willing to give you another go. Ask her for a coffee or drink after the lecture next time.

If you don't know someone, shyness almost always comes across as arrogance, so take it mellow this time.

Good Luck!

[Strike For The South]

Sometimes people talk to each other just to talk, I do this all the time. I love the sound of my own voice

She may like talking to you! OMG!

If want to have a go at her, have a go. If she says no, such is life.

But sitting here and thinking about it does nothing

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Strike For The South]

I must have missed the part where she spurned your advances

Oh right that parts in your head

Make her laugh ask her out

Or come back here in two weeks and ask the same bloody question

Talk about what a git the professor is, or the class, or the weather. Smile a bit, use your hands

IDK what you're looking for in the forum, No one can give you a clear cut answer as to how she veiws you nor can we give you an answer about what will happen

She on the other hand is a real live woman who has found you good enough to intiate conversation with

This could lead to a rousing round of intercourse or nothing or something in between

But I can gaurngoddamntee you what happens next will have nothing to do with what we tell you, wether we stroke or hurt your ego. And it certainly will have nothing to do with us extracting elementary school clues on wether she likes you or not

You clearly have interest

Act on it

[Husar]

I must have missed the part where she spurned your advances

Oh right that parts in your head

You see, I think that is what he is looking for here, so stop telling him not to post here, he may have (and I don't mean any offense with that, I probably made the same mistake) never found out that this was only in his head without your help.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Vuk]

Women are not confusing...they are like nuclear physics...where am I going with this?

[Megas Methuselah]

But don't bother wearing a condom. They're so, like, unneccesary.

[Motep]

Her spurning my advances isn't in my head, it's in the OP... I asked for her number, and she said "sorry but there's no point because I'm getting a new mobile number in a few weeks". The consensus when I posted that here in a past thread was that was a polite way of saying no, and that's how I took it.

Until this happened...

Which is why I am confused...

Anyway what's so bad about posting a thread asking about it, who doesn't wonder about this sort of stuff? I have no experience in this area, so...

How long has it been? Maybe she really didnt have a phone. You know, people dont always lie.

[Rhyfelwyr]

How long has it been? Maybe she really didnt have a phone. You know, people dont always lie.

Well there was a couple of weeks after that when I never spoke to her in class (she was sitting elsewhere, but it was a new class so it's not like we were sitting together before), but now she starts sitting next to me and talking to me a couple of weeks later.

[pevergreen]

Shes talking to you, just ask her.

If she says no, either just keep talking, or end the conversation awkwardly and never talk to her again.

[Hosakawa Tito]

Hehehe, the women I've gotten to really know in my life admit that sometimes they don't understand their reasons and/or thought processes sometimes either. Which means we don't stand a chance of figuring it out. All ya can do is ask her. What's the worst that can happen? No ain't the end of the world. You'll know where you stand and have no regrets over missing that chance.

[InsaneApache]

I'm with you all the way there Hosakawa Tito, I've been married twice, I have five grand-daughters and I still don't understand them. As you say, when the subject is broached they don't understand themselves either! Must be a womb thing.


Or come back here in two weeks and ask the same bloody question

*chuckle*

[Cute Wolf]

Women are not confusing...they are like nuclear physics...where am I going with this?

well, nuclear physics are much more understandable

even I can't fully understand my own twin sister, but at least she can help if I have problems with another girls.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Her spurning my advances isn't in my head, it's in the OP... I asked for her number, and she said "sorry but there's no point because I'm getting a new mobile number in a few weeks". The consensus when I posted that here in a past thread was that was a polite way of saying no, and that's how I took it.

Until this happened...

Which is why I am confused...

Anyway what's so bad about posting a thread asking about it, who doesn't wonder about this sort of stuff? I have no experience in this area, so...

Hmmmm.

1. You're thinking too much.

2. she obviously has some sort of interest in her.

3. You seem to want her, so if try being just friends, it won't work.

4. If you don't ask her out you're obviously going to obsess.

So.....

Next time you see her make small talk at the start of the lecture, or just after, then say:

"Would like to go out some time, maybe dinner?"

She'll either say yes or no, if she say's yes ask for her number, maybe try to get her to agree to an evening later in the week.

If she ums and arss she's either not interested, or is as worried as you are - so try to be relaxed about it.

[Strike For The South]

have you had class again?

[InsaneApache]

Well have you? :inquisitive:

[Megas Methuselah]

:daisy:

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[pevergreen]

You asked, time passed and now she is talking to you.

You ask on monday, or there will be consequences.

[Viking]

As always, you are dealing with humans. Your gut feeling is good to tell you how to behave properly, but it can be terrible to intepret the behaviour and expressions of others (interpretation tends to be self-centered, for instance). You'll have to use logic in order to fully master the latter (and it may help with the former).

What does it mean for you to sit down and chat to somebody? What range of reasons would you have? I'm sure you could come up with pretty different reasons. That's a good starting point if you want to come up with theoretical solutions, though of course empiricism is needed for the actual reality. And that's what you are interested in here.

[Sigurd]

You neglected to tell us if she is smoking hot. If this is just a girl - why not just be a friend? She might be looking for one.
I have had girls making a point of sitting next to me in class which led to nothing but friendship. During High School There was Iris René and Beate - People even thought we were a couple (Iris René). In Uni there was this Indonesian girl Tamara.

You should gauge her with a few conversation topics.
Suggestions:



There is this Norwegian dude I know that totally refutes Sola Scriptura... what is that all about?
There is this Texan I know that thinks I should just grab you and kiss you long and hard ... but I am just too shy.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Well nothing happened, I was flanked by people on both sides before she came in so she couldn't have sat next to me, and she left quite quickly at the end. Meh.

[A Nerd]

Cruel fate! Coincidence is a relative of fate. The function together on similar wave lenghts.

[Strike For The South]

Well nothing happened, I was flanked by people on both sides before she came in so she couldn't have sat next to me, and she left quite quickly at the end. Meh.

God forbid you seek her out

If we ever meet IRL I'm going to hug you until you stop breathing

~:)

[Rhyfelwyr]

God forbid you seek her out

If we ever meet IRL I'm going to hug you until you stop breathing

~:)

Well I don't want to come accross as creepy.

[Scienter]

Maybe she really didn't have a phone. Maybe she leaves quickly after class because she has another class to get to? Or, she doesn't like the class and just wants to get out ASAP. Maybe she has to pee.

The point is, you'll never know. Just ask her and be ready to deal with a rejection if that's what she does. Sure, some women act crazy and unpredictable. On the flip side, I think both sexes read way too much into the actions of the people they're interested in.

[Viking]

On the flip side, I think both sexes read way too much into the actions of the people they're interested in.

Most likely. I guess that it helps in the initial phase when it comes to make people bond - more courage to seek contact if you think they're interested in you. :shrug:

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Napoleon The Emperor Of Europe]

Another update.

So she sat next to me at class again, and starting talking to me etc. Then at the end she went the long way round to go through the same exit as me (the desks were arranged strangely), so I started talking to her, and eventually we got to her car, so we continued talking for a while (just about the Uni course, where we work etc).

I thought about asking for her number again, but in the end I just settled for asking if she would be going to the revision session next week (the last time the class meets), and she said she would. She seemed like she was wanting to hang around and talk, and so eventually we just smiled and said OK see you next week.

Maybe I should have asked for her number but at least its looks like it's all set up for me to next week...

Good for you.

you should not end this up.Think!you're lucky that a women is actually talking to you,and becoming friends.:book:

This does not happen with many males(in my book:book:)

Dont end this,you have already gone to great lentghs for her friendship.Now she will do the same to you.

Maybe you could end up falling in love or I don't knw:book:

But be friends with her.don't break the friendship(Belive me,when you break firendship with women,its never good for you):book:

And be her best firend.

who's knows ?:book:

[Strike For The South]

baby steps are good SFTS says as blood vessels begin to pop

[Strike For The South]

this thread almost slipped off the page

Perish the thought

[naut]

My only advice would be: if your only options are a chance of love/sex/fun or the fear of rejection, then the choice should be fairly obvious, because death is coming.

STOP PLAYING HARD TO GET AND BOINK HER ALREADY.

[Strike For The South]

My only advice would be: if your only options are a chance of love/sex/fun or the fear of rejection, then the choice should be fairly obvious, because death is coming.

STOP PLAYING HARD TO GET AND BOINK HER ALREADY.

+!1

[PanzerJaeger]

this thread almost slipped off the page

Perish the thought

:laugh4:

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Sigurd]

Remember, I directly went and asked for her number a few weeks ago, and she said NO (or in all likelihood meant to politely say no).

So I deliberately just backed right off, told myself to just get over it because I didn't want to seem like a creep. But then it is her that initiates things again.

I guess I probably should have asked for her number again. But the above reason put me off a bit. Still, surely we made it clear we are both still interested in each other, especially when we checked to see we would both be going to the class next week (with it being the last one)?
Maybe she had a creepy boyfriend before, sending all sorts of unwanted texts or calls. She just don't want that again. Maybe that's why she needed a new phone. You should have just given her your number, to call when ever. She can hide her number when calling you...

[LeftEyeNine]

Don't retry on the number thing. She'll give it provided things go fine. Just stay positive and interested.

[Tuuvi]

Sounds like you're doing fine to me. Just keep talking to her, go with the flow and eventually you will get to hang out with her. Personally I don't like to ask for numbers right off the bat I usually talk to the person and build some sort of friendship first and I prefer if people do the same to me. So I don't think you need to worry about not getting her number yet.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Gah! Don't give me conflicting advice, I'm confused enough already!

I don't want the friendship zone, and I don't think thats what either of us are aiming for (and I don't think that's where it's going either), so I'm just going to stick with Strike and Pyscho and ask for her number.

[InsaneApache]

There is a foolproof method of finding out if she is interested. Grab her and stick your tongue down her throat. If she doesn't slap you daft, you're in! :wink:

[Strike For The South]

Gah! Don't give me conflicting advice, I'm confused enough already!

I don't want the friendship zone, and I don't think thats what either of us are aiming for (and I don't think that's where it's going either), so I'm just going to stick with Strike and Pyscho and ask for her number.

Looks like the boy has some sand after all

Good on ya son

[naut]

Gah! Don't give me conflicting advice, I'm confused enough already!

I don't want the friendship zone, and I don't think thats what either of us are aiming for (and I don't think that's where it's going either), so I'm just going to stick with Strike and Pyscho and ask for her number.
During class ask her what she is doing after class, if she says nothing, suggest something. Why take her number and phone later when you could do something there and then?

[LeftEyeNine]

The girl is already thinking about when he'll ask for the number again. I'd personally play "fine, I'd asked once, not doing it again" so as to own the upper hand of the relationship.

9 cents.

[Strike For The South]

boom

[Rhyfelwyr]

Well you'll all hear in a few hours...

[Strike For The South]

This maybe your only chance to ever find love

Don't muck it up!

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[Rhyfelwyr]

Well she didn't even turn up to the class.

lol/fml

[Upxl]

be cocky ;)

[LeftEyeNine]

W-wha- 0_0

[Strike For The South]

On second thought

Just kiss her

It will save you from writing novels

[Megas Methuselah]

Real talk. Word.

[Husar]

Thank you for sharing your advice Upxl.

And please ignore the mean Texan and participate a bit more!

[Rhyfelwyr]

Wow, thanks for that advice upxl. You should post more, we don't bite you know!

But regarding one thing you said, I don't think she was playing hard to get by missing the class. Because it was in fact the last class of the term. Meaning I won't see her again for over a month until the exam.

I'm just staying positive and not letting it bother me, although I'm getting tired of making myself feel like that. I guess I can't complain, I probably messed her around more in the past when it was her that took the initiative... not deliberately, just because I'm an idiot. So I guess I deserve it. :shrug:

[Scienter]

Just a word from someone who has been on the receiving end of this type of behavior. It doesn't always work. In fact, it can be pretty repellant. I'm not going all feminist rage here, despite my posts in the backroom. I'm just speaking from my own experiences and those of people I know.


5-Check her out, give small hints that she has to convince you she’s worth dating.
When she speaks look at her like you’re evaluating what she’s said and how she acts.
In your mind you know she wants to go out with you because your just that cool, smart kind a guy any girl is lucky to have. But what do you think of her?Is she worth the “trouble”?
You know she is ofcours but that doesn’t mean she has to know about it,correct?


If someone treated me in the manner described above, it would be a giant turn off. If a guy made me think that I wasn't worth his time, and that I needed to convince him that I'm worth it, he would come across as douchey. It comes across as less than genuine and would probably make me lose interest, or at least reconsider.



6- be cocky, little arrogant, make little jokes about her looks or something else superficial but don’t overdo it.


Is this what pick up artists refer to as "negging?" This is extremely unattractive. If someone told me, for example, that "You look good, for your age" or some such, I would pretty much never give them my number or go out with them. I would either assume that the guy was extremely lacking in social skills, or deliberately insulting me. This is not something you do to someone you don't know well. Any woman with an ounce of self esteem won't fall for this.


Also, arrogance/cockiness can be pretty unattractive.



7-A woman always chooses the guy,but once in the dating zone a strong self confident male has the initiative. You choose when you’ll hug,kiss and all that other fine stuff lady’s provide so well.This is our power, here we thrive.Remember this,once dating you sir are in command.

Confidence is attractive, arrogance is a red flag. And confidence doesn't mean "control."

[Upxl]

Thanks Husar maybe I will and don’t worry, the mean Texan is only scary at first sight, like some 6 years ago.

[Scienter]

Scienter, you're focusing on the negative.
But I know and this wouldn’t be the first time I had this discussion with a woman.But there’s a difference between common sense and attraction, what you think and what you feel.
Control in this matter is an illusion.Blame it on basic raw animal instinct with a little bit of evolution mixed in.
It’s a mind game that works on many levels. And can be pretty fun when you know a little bit of the rules.

But nobody likes to have his or here gender simplified in this manner.
If it makes you feel any better men are much much more superficial.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aW6CoU2YtOU



I think I understand where you're coming from. My main beef is with #6. You're not the first person I've heard suggest this as a good approach for attracting women. Some are more brash about it and the stuff they think is good to say to someone is pretty appalling. If I was attracted (physically) to a guy and he came up and started making jokes about my appearance, it would come across as an insult, and would diminish my attraction to him or kill it outright. I've been in this situation. There's a difference between jokingly giving me a hard time because I like Star Trek (totally acceptable IMO because it's almost expected) and joking about my physical appearance or my intelligence. One is good natured and the other, well, isn't. :shrug:

[Rhyfelwyr]

@ Rhyfelwyr: my friend thinks she’s obviously attracted to you and will make the initiative herself when she’s ready.
Your game mate, enjoy! :2thumbsup:

But why then would she not turn up when its the last class? That means the only time I will see her is at the exam which is over a month away.

I really thought all the right signs were there as well... bah! I refer once again to the thread title...

[Upxl]

One is good natured and the other, well, isn't. :shrug:

True,true. :yes:
Like I said:Delicate.

[Sigurd]

But why then would she not turn up when its the last class? That means the only time I will see her is at the exam which is over a month away.

I really thought all the right signs were there as well... bah! I refer once again to the thread title...
Come on Rhyf...
Its exam time. The chick needs to study and pass/excel it. She doesn't have time to a time-consuming, storming, passionate relationship until after the exam.
Expect her to invite you out when the exam is over.

I have had girlfriends putting our relationship on "hold" during exams. Frustrating... but the one I am thinking of became a physics major/scientist.

[Husar]

Come on Rhyf...
Its exam time. The chick needs to study and pass/excel it. She doesn't have time to a time-consuming, storming, passionate relationship until after the exam.
Expect her to invite you out when the exam is over.

I have had girlfriends putting our relationship on "hold" during exams. Frustrating... but the one I am thinking of became a physics major/scientist.

Absolutely, and falling in love really bad during exam time is a really bad thing even if falling in love in general is a very good thing.
In the end it's about bringing both to a successful conclusion I think and as such the exams may require some distance, if just for a while.

Listen to the wisdom of Sigurd. :bow:

[Rhyfelwyr]

idk though, one of the things we were talking about is how we don't even have much left to do in terms of Uni work/exams. Most of the stuff this year was coursework and its all done.

[Husar]

Well, I don't assume that each and every of her decisions revolves around you, at least not yet.

Also patience can pay off, there's no guarantee but so far it may not be worth clinging to her anyway, I mean how well do you know her?

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Prussian to the Iron]

If I've learned anything, anything at all from the past 3 months about women, it is this.

Flattery (as long as you honestly mean it) will get you anywhere. Making her feel good will get you anywhere. Regardless of the situation.

[Upxl]

Bugger, I’m actually losing sleep over this one.

[Strike For The South]

Flattery (as long as you honestly mean it) will get you anywhere. Making her feel good will get you anywhere. Regardless of the situation.


No.

[Prussian to the Iron]

No.

Yes. yes it will. You cannot fade on that. That is the essence of truth.

I mean, flattery is a nasty word, but it was the first word that came to mind.


heart-felt compliments to her, her personality, and her looks, will always warm her heart towards you. when I do it, it's not conciously, but I do do it, I can't deny.

[Strike For The South]

Yes. yes it will. You cannot fade on that. That is the essence of truth.

I mean, flattery is a nasty word, but it was the first word that came to mind.


heart-felt compliments to her, her personality, and her looks, will always warm her heart towards you. when I do it, it's not conciously, but I do do it, I can't deny.

Your advice is terrible

Stop giving it

[Upxl]

No.

+1,

[Prussian to the Iron]

Your advice is terrible

Stop giving it

it works.

[Strike For The South]

it works.

In horrid B grade comidies maybe

[Tuuvi]

So in hindsight, I think maybe you should've just waited a couple weeks and then asked her if she had gotten her new phone yet. But on the other hand, it was a pretty lame excuse, I mean a few weeks is actually sort of a long time, why couldn't she have given you her number and then given you the new one when she got a new phone? Maybe she was telling the truth, she just wasn't thinking things through all the way and she just blurted out "there's really no point...". I know I've done that before.

I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt. You never know when someone is telling the truth and when they are lying, the best thing you can do is have confidence in yourself and take what they say as the truth until they give you reason to believe otherwise.

It sounds like the girl is interested in you, and even if she's not you have a good opportunity to make friends with her so either way you win. The next time you see her you should definitely ask her out to dinner or something, maybe you can say it's to celebrate the end of the class or something :laugh4:

I hope my lame advice helps and it's not "friend zone" advice this time :sweatdrop:

[A Nerd]

There is no shame in complimenting someone you are fond of. If she is attactive and you say so, what is the harm in that? I fail to agree with those who say you should play the dominant role in a relationship and train your partner to follow you by a leash. Doesn't everyone like to be flattered, sinceridly, male or female?

[Strike For The South]

There is no shame in complimenting someone you are fond of. If she is attactive and you say so, what is the harm in that? I fail to agree with those who say you should play the dominant role in a relationship and train your partner to follow you by a leash. Doesn't everyone like to be flattered, sinceridly, male or female?

Complimenzt/=/ using them as *point earners* to get women

She, like you, is a person Constant compliments come off as needy, insecure, and sappy

And I'm not neccesarily a fan of PUA or "negging" although some of it has merit

I am a fan of taking your balls out from under the sink though, Be asseritive and confident. Know what you want and take it

[A Nerd]

:beatnik2: We all have our own techniques I guess. I suppose I like to show respect and appreciation in the form of a compliment. :shrug:

[Strike For The South]

:beatnik2: We all have our own techniques I guess. I suppose I like to show respect and appreciation in the form of a compliment. :shrug:

Showing affection through a compliment is fine, but meeting a girl and then showering her with sappy b grade cliches is stupid. Compliments should also come off as confident most boys come off as sniveling half men when they give a compliment in hopes the girl will bed him

This of course all stems from being comfortable in your own skin

I could write a book on the topic esp on this train wreck of a forum (when it comes to women) These threads are physically painful to read

[A Nerd]

I never said to propose marriage on the first date. But as the relationship develops, I see no problem with exposing oneself a bit. I've drawn quite a few women in with this 'gamble'. I grew to love them for it.

[Strike For The South]

I never said to propose marriage on the first date. But as the relationship develops, I see no problem with exposing oneself a bit. I've drawn quite a few women in with this 'gamble'. I grew to love them for it.

Neither do I and I agree

Complimenting a woman to get here attention is ok AS LONG as it comes from a place of confidence and not neediness

Just by reading PIs posts I know exactly whats happening, the insecurity is palpable

[Rhyfelwyr]

These threads are physically painful to read

~:mecry:

Well I won't deny I'm an idiot, but at the end of the day I did what I could. I asked her out, what more could I do (apart from doing it about a year earlier, lol)?

[Viking]

Believe it or not, but people came toghether and made children in the days before it was possible to ask girl questions on teh intrawebz. You can do it completely on your own - perhaps that's even the better solution.

[Upxl]

The man has a point, talking about it won’t get you anywhere.

[Strike For The South]

~:mecry:

Well I won't deny I'm an idiot, but at the end of the day I did what I could. I asked her out, what more could I do (apart from doing it about a year earlier, lol)?

Stop over analyzing, you act like this will be the only woman who will ever consider you for face sitting status. Stop listening to people who treat interaction with women as rocket science.

[Upxl]

Stop over analyzing, you act like this will be the only woman who will ever consider you for face sitting status. Stop listening to people who treat interaction with women as rocket science.


No, no, no,it’s far more complex than that.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[InsaneApache]

The man has a point, talking about it won’t get you anywhere.

...and I used to think that oral sex was talking about it and aural sex was hearing all about it!

Us old fogies eh?

Pah!

[Subotan]

*Lights pipe to give an aura of wisdom, takes a few puffs*

Here's a suggestion:

*Takes pipe out of mouth to add to the mystique*

Get one of your mates to set you up for a blind date.

*Puts pipe back into mouth and takes a final puff to complete the illusion*

[Prussian to the Iron]

*Lights pipe to give an aura of wisdom, takes a few puffs*

Here's a suggestion:

*Takes pipe out of mouth to add to the mystique*

Get one of your mates to set you up for a blind date.

*Puts pipe back into mouth and takes a final puff to complete the illusion*

Can somebody please explain to me why I saw and heard this as if Ralph Brown was doing it, in a rocking chair?



*For those of you unaware, Ralph Brown was the guy in Waynes World 2 who told the story about Ozzy and the Tiger in the Candy shop.

[Subotan]

I was going for something along the lines of Tony Benn (http://static.guim.co.uk/sys-images/Guardian/Pix/pictures/2011/3/26/1301153542304/Former-Labour-politician--001.jpg) (Who I met a few weeka go and I got my picture with him SO AWESOME), so I honestly have no idea.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Hosakawa Tito]

Bingo! :2thumbsup:

[Prussian to the Iron]

only took 2 and a half months XD

[Motep]

better late than never

[Rhyfelwyr]

only took 2 and a half months XD

Actually about a year if you consider the whole story. :/

[Prussian to the Iron]

eh. itll be worth it hopefully.

[Husar]

Patience is a virtue.

[Who am i?]

https://i.imgur.com/UKyy0.png

[Motep]

so many puns....so many puns...

EDIT: has nothing whatsoever to do with the last post. where did that even come from? Huh...

[Rhyfelwyr]

Will probably just meet up on campus and then go for lunch or something.

Man, I've no idea what I'm doing...

[Subotan]

Walks in the park are good, so long as the weather is nice.

[A Nerd]

Be spontanious. Don't plan. It can reap it's own rewards without you even knowing. A well thought out course of action will breed hiccups.

[Strike For The South]

Will probably just meet up on campus and then go for lunch or something.

Man, I've no idea what I'm doing...

Ask her out somewhere and don't stuter when you do it

[naut]

Will probably just meet up on campus and then go for lunch or something.

Man, I've no idea what I'm doing...
https://img836.imageshack.us/img836/3966/firstdate.jpg

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[Scienter]

So I was talking to her after the exam and in the end I asked for her number... and got it!

Yay! :cool:

[Louis VI the Fat]

Have you got a nurse outfit?This text, this weekend. Well Friday or Saturday, not Sunday afternoon.

Next Saturday night, you text her from a bar you are with friends. Or from someplace else where it looks as if you've got a life, contrary to digital evidence to the contrary, which is only known to us. Tell her to come over. Then do your thing.

[Strike For The South]

Well...

I asked about meeting up later next week but she said she will be in Newcastle. So I said maybe another time then (or something like that), and she said she would be back next Saturday night and I should send her a text then.

Just remmeber this will be the only woman whomever pays you any sort of romantic attention

DONT SCREW IT UP

[Rhyfelwyr]

What the hell am I supposed to make of this I don't know. Everything is ***** cryptic.

[a completely inoffensive name]

Remember to follow these tips I learned in middle school:

1. Prepping. Make sure you have sprayed at least 1-2 cans of Axe body spray on your body. This will cover up the stench of failure and Mountain Dew Game Fuel you spilled on your shirt while playing Call of Duty 8: The same thing as last time warfare 4.

2. Mid game. As any hardcore gamer will tell you, a good start is key and a good clutch at the finish is what makes you pro, but the mid game is where the game is decided. Don't let her talk so much, because once she starts talking for more than 5 minutes your "paying attention" will just start looking like a creeper stare. Make sure you talk about 75% of the time and a lot so she knows how cool you are.

3. Don't show emotion. Women like men. Not boys. If you show emotion like a 5 year old, she wont roll with you. If she is sad, put on your poker face. If she is angry, put on your poker face. If she is happy, put on your poker face.

4. Lastly, make sure you look like you are in control of your life. While on your date, always make it a point to obviously look at other women as they walk by. This will show how little you need her. Women dont like it when guys get all clingy and dependent. Makes you look weak. Checking out all the other girls will introduce a competitive nature in her. The free market works wonders, and by having her think there is more demand (other women) than there is supply (your body) she will be wanting you even more and willing to pay a higher price for it. I just learned all this in my AP Econ class so you dont have to double check me cuz I got a C+. I would have gotten a B but that jerk Mr. Carmona didn't let me turn in my project late.

SO there you go. You should be fine now as long as you stick to those rules.

[Hosakawa Tito]

Just be yourself. Trying to be someone you're not won't work for long, if at all.

[Prussian to the Iron]

Remember to follow these tips I learned in middle school:

1. Prepping. Make sure you have sprayed at least 1-2 cans of Axe body spray on your body. This will cover up the stench of failure and Mountain Dew Game Fuel you spilled on your shirt while playing Call of Duty 8: The same thing as last time warfare 4.

2. Mid game. As any hardcore gamer will tell you, a good start is key and a good clutch at the finish is what makes you pro, but the mid game is where the game is decided. Don't let her talk so much, because once she starts talking for more than 5 minutes your "paying attention" will just start looking like a creeper stare. Make sure you talk about 75% of the time and a lot so she knows how cool you are.

3. Don't show emotion. Women like men. Not boys. If you show emotion like a 5 year old, she wont roll with you. If she is sad, put on your poker face. If she is angry, put on your poker face. If she is happy, put on your poker face.

4. Lastly, make sure you look like you are in control of your life. While on your date, always make it a point to obviously look at other women as they walk by. This will show how little you need her. Women dont like it when guys get all clingy and dependent. Makes you look weak. Checking out all the other girls will introduce a competitive nature in her. The free market works wonders, and by having her think there is more demand (other women) than there is supply (your body) she will be wanting you even more and willing to pay a higher price for it. I just learned all this in my AP Econ class so you dont have to double check me cuz I got a C+. I would have gotten a B but that jerk Mr. Carmona didn't let me turn in my project late.

SO there you go. You should be fine now as long as you stick to those rules.

This is so win right now.

[A Nerd]

If the girl likes you based on observation and interaction before a date was set up, one would assume it was based on sincerity of character, especially the observation part which I assume was done in class. Therefore this must be continued to ensure success, in my opinion. To act like you are not might be unappealing if that is not what she was interested in the first place. To act unlike yourself in contrast to what you are in sincerity will look pompous. Unless you are pompous in general and that is what she likes. The OP doesn't seem that way though thur reading his posts.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Heh. But I'm not even a gamer. Plus I never said anything about changing myself.

[Marshall Louis-Nicolas Davout]

You my friend have just got the women!

[A Nerd]

Welcome to the Frontroom Takeda! :) I think that Rhyfelwr will do well.

[Rhyfelwyr]

idk I don't feel overly optimistic right now. Why the hell would she give me her number. If she jsut says text back.

Maybe she is really away and I am being stupid, jsut the whole text thign. but BAH!

[Tuuvi]

idk I don't feel overly optimistic right now. Why the hell would she give me her number. If she jsut says text back.

Maybe she is really away and I am being stupid, jsut the whole text thign. but BAH!

Dude I think you're reading too much into it. Just text her on Saturday like she told you too, she was probably telling the truth about being away.


I think I'm the same way you are when it comes to girls. There's this girl I've been good friends with for a couple years and after a while I really started to like her, so I asked her if she wanted to go out when school is done. She said yes, but then when we set the date she said she would invite her twin sister, and all this other stuff happened, so I keep thinking OH NO WHAT IF SHE DOESN'T REALLY WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME WHAT AM I GOING TO DO WHY DID SHE SAY YES IN THE FIRST PLACE or when I go talk to her she might be quiet because she's tired or whatever reason and the first thing that pops into my head is CRAP SHE'S MAD AT ME BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T REALLY WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME :dizzy2: I've realized that I just need to stop. Stop worrying about it, stop over analyzing, stop being insecure and thinking I've done something wrong when I obviously haven't. I just need to go with the flow and see how it turns out.

So my advice to you is stop thinking about it, be patient and be persistent (but not stalker persistent :laugh4:). If she really is just making excuses and trying to blow you off well that's her fault not yours she needs to learn to be straight up with you if she wants to get you off her back.

I'm supposed to go see Pirates of the Carribbean with that girl in a week and a half or so and then we'll see if my advice is any good. :laugh:

[Motep]

If it's a ploy, it's a ploy. Worrying about it won't change the fact. As Chuchip said, just roll with it and hope for the best.

[Viking]

idk I don't feel overly optimistic right now. Why the hell would she give me her number. If she jsut says text back.

Maybe she is really away and I am being stupid, jsut the whole text thign. but BAH!

Well well. Happy thinking.

[Strike For The South]

idk I don't feel overly optimistic right now. Why the hell would she give me her number. If she jsut says text back.

Maybe she is really away and I am being stupid, jsut the whole text thign. but BAH!

DONT WORRY ABOUT IT. SHE IS JUST A GIRL

I DON'T KNOW HOW ELSE I CAN REITERATE THIS

[Rhyfelwyr]

I feel like I can't be bothered with this anymore, starting to wonder if I should even bother texting...

[Prussian to the Iron]

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_QCcMTHCBJ4c/TR2d1kXK2FI/AAAAAAAAEaQ/FuuOv09suHE/s1600/Disregard%2BFemales%252C%2BAcquire%2BCurrency.jpg

[naut]

I feel like I can't be bothered with this anymore, starting to wonder if I should even bother texting...
Just text her darn it.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Sometimes women are avoiding you, sometimes they aren't.

What I find frustrating is the lack of communication when they are actually busy, it makes it hard to tell.

So you have to just hope for the best. Being a man means taking all the crap.

[Hosakawa Tito]

Text her and find out. You can't let yourself get too high or too low when you hardly know her.

[Csargo]

I agree with the previous three posters. I'd say you don't have much to lose by just texting her.

[MajorFreak]

what the heck is a girl doing without a cell for 3 weeks....is she a barbarian or something?

[Strike For The South]

Y U worry so much>

[Louis VI the Fat]

If ur not gonna will u at least give us her number? I still wanna ask her about all that 'help it seems to be malfunctioning nurse can you please check if it still works does this mean I need a full body checkup'.

[Rhyfelwyr]

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[InsaneApache]

Mate, you'll know when a girl wants to be with you. Eye contact, inadvertent touching, a nice smile etc. Trust me.

[naut]

I'm glad I have this experience because in future I will keep things straightforward and be more decisive without things dragging on into this confusion. It's nice to put a lid on all this crap.
:bow:


Mate, you'll know when a girl wants to be with you. Eye contact, inadvertent touching, a nice smile etc. Trust me.
Oh. Yes. Indeed.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Mate, you'll know when a girl wants to be with you. Eye contact, inadvertent touching, a nice smile etc. Trust me.

If only it was that simple. Some girls can be more touchy-feely than others and it can give people the wrong idea, especially if you are like me and there's something about you that means most people wouldn't touch you with a bargepole.

[Louis VI the Fat]

Final update...

Well I text and said how was your trip, she said yeah great. So I asked if she was free to meet up later in the week, and she took a while to respond, and replied she has a boyfriend but would be ok to meet up as friends.

I'm not really that bothered, the thing felt like it was petering out anyway. There's been too much "is there isn't there" crap with girls of late. If you consider how long this story has been, and the one from a past thread (girl from work, the boss thinks just recently we have a "thing", although she has a boyfriend, but nothing is going to be happening there).

I'm glad I have this experience because in future I will keep things straightforward and be more decisive without things dragging on into this confusion. It's nice to put a lid on all this crap.

Anyway, how would you reply to her last message without being rude, since I dont really want to go down the road of being just friends, its not like I really know her anyway?

EDIT: nm, just said "ah ok thats cool see you aruond"

Bah!Ah, that's too bad.


Should you reply to her message anyway? All is basically said and done now, no? For all euphemisms and all, you were into this girl for a romantic relationship, not friends. She knows this, and told you no. Not much more to be said, no? A friendly chat if you see her in real life, sure. But is there a need for more awkward texting back-and-forth?



Also, go to Ibiza this summer! Get some mates together and find some hot British girls in heat on some beach, looking for some pinky burned rosbif to hook up with.
Don't complicate it too much. Go to the right place, where they are all British, all your age, and all looking for sex. Offer yourself to all of them. Sooner or later one of them will be up for it.

[Subotan]

I'm glad I have this experience because in future I will keep things straightforward and be more decisive without things dragging on into this confusion. It's nice to put a lid on all this crap.
Exactly the right attitude! If you have the mind of an economist, think of it as creative destruction :yes:

[Rhyfelwyr]

Should you reply to her message anyway? All is basically said and done now, no? For all euphemisms and all, you were into this girl for a romantic relationship, not friends. She knows this, and told you no. Not much more to be said, no? A friendly chat if you see her in real life, sure. But is there a need for more awkward texting back-and-forth?

Yeah, well I finished off with that text saying "ok thats cool see you around", so thats that, nothing too awkward.

What makes it frustrating is I know that if you remember the story here, about a year ago I'm 99% sure she was interested in that way. But I guess I didn't act and must have appeared to shrug her off. Well, at least I will not make that mistake again.


Also, go to Ibiza this summer! Get some mates together and find some hot British girls in heat on some beach, looking for some pinky burned rosbif to hook up with.
Don't complicate it too much. Go to the right place, where they are all British, all your age, and all looking for sex. Offer yourself to all of them. Sooner or later one of them will be up for it.

You know I'm still a God-fearing soul, part of me might be tempted to do that (guess which part) but I know its not my thing really.

[InsaneApache]

Also, go to Ibiza this summer! Get some mates together and find some hot British girls in heat on some beach, looking for some pinky burned rosbif to hook up with.
Don't complicate it too much. Go to the right place, where they are all British, all your age, and all looking for sex. Offer yourself to all of them. Sooner or later one of them will be up for it.

:2thumbsup::laugh4::sweatdrop: Again wise words from the fat frog. :laugh4:

[ELITEofWARMANGINGERYBREADMEN88]

All the women at my school got boyfriends even though most are them got them when they in high school and guess what happens when the one goes to college and the other doesn't? The break up!! :laugh:

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Yeah, well I finished off with that text saying "ok thats cool see you around", so thats that, nothing too awkward.

What makes it frustrating is I know that if you remember the story here, about a year ago I'm 99% sure she was interested in that way. But I guess I didn't act and must have appeared to shrug her off. Well, at least I will not make that mistake again.

There's probably some truth in that, I think one of the girls here was interested in me, and that was reciprocated - but I didn't act and now she seems to have gone cold.

[naut]

but I didn't act and now she seems to have gone cold.
Microwave on high for 1 minute.

[Strike For The South]

Meh, and so it goes

[Subotan]

No great man was ever indecisive

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Microwave on high for 1 minute.

Well, see, she's been on three continents in the last six weeks and before that we were all worrying about the UG's and their exams, and I was in Cambridge...

So I see Rhy's problem, hard to tell.

No. I am not starting my own thread :tongue:

[Rhyfelwyr]

No. I am not starting my own thread :tongue:

You know you want to!

I will give you advice (lol)!

[Strike For The South]

START IT

I mean their are only like 30 million more women in the UK

And theirs gotta be at least 5 million sheep

I'm not saying they are option A, I'm just saying they haven't been taken off the table

[Rhyfelwyr]

The problem is even if there are 30 million women that doesn't help me much in my situation.

At least at Uni you see other girls your own age. I spoke to about one guy my whole time at Uni (lol), but there were a fair few times where girls came and talked to me and I could have made something of it. For example in one class a Polish girl started sitting next to me, and outside of class once she came and was talking to me and being nice and smiling etc, and was saying bla bla bla and said yeah we will be in the same class next semester isn't that good (or something like that), and I justed sort of grunted "aye" as I do. My social skills used to be so bad it is actually comical to think of it. I was just so oblivious theres an element of Charlie Sheen winning about it.

Anyway, I've long ago forgotten the point I was making, so there you go.

WAIT: OK, my point was that at least in the past I have these chances even if I ruin it. As I did similarly with the girl in the current thread about a year ago before I pull my head out my arse.

But now I can never meet girls. Because besides work/gym, I don't do anyhting and there isn't really anything to do. I don't have the sort of mates that 'go out'. I never got involved at Uni so I've never been to fancy places in Glasgow, people here I know just hang around local places, which are the kind of pubs filled with Rab C Nesbitt (http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q=rab%20c%20nesbitt&um=1&ie=UTF-8&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&biw=1003&bih=622) type characters. This place is generally a dump and I've barely ever left it, the only club is one where someone got murdered outside a couple of weeks ago...

So I'm stuck in a bit of a rut. It might be fine for Strike or PVC in university enviromnents, but what am I supposed to do with my shitfest of a life?

[Louis VI the Fat]

Ah, man. I'm trying to send you hot advice by PM but your inbox appears to be full.

[Strike For The South]

What the hell?!?!?!?! I never got wimmenz advice?

I never took French lovers to be this selfish :angry:

~;)

And Rhy, just keep talking eventually someone will like what you have to say

[Husar]

I wouldn't listen to advice from people with many failed relationships.
Obviously what they use to do leads to failure.
I'm not a fan of a trial and error approach to relationships.

And I don't see why you can't keep her as a friend, on one hand you don't know how long her current relationship will hold, on the other hand she can get you in contact with her girlfriends, maybe there's a really nice one among them. Not to forget that having female friends isn't a bad thing either way, they see things different from men and can give you a different perspective on some things.

[a completely inoffensive name]

All the women at my school got boyfriends even though most are them got them when they in high school and guess what happens when the one goes to college and the other doesn't? The break up!! :laugh:

Not for all of them...

[Rhyfelwyr]

And Rhy, just keep talking eventually someone will like what you have to say

Probably I am too tired by what do you mean by this?