View Full Version : Rhyfhylwyr Style Girl Problems
Rhyfelwyr
10-26-2011, 01:14
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johnhughthom
10-26-2011, 02:44
Small talk with girls = forget about the fact they are girls. Females are human just like a male, I think, so there is no real need to talk to them in a special way.
Important stuff, we don't need another religious nutjob in Belfast.
Even more important stuff, you aren't thinking about living in Tigers Bay?
Centurion1
10-26-2011, 04:54
just talk, smile alot, be confident, ask questions which leads to you not having to talk as much....
a completely inoffensive name
10-26-2011, 07:20
Hit the gym, delete your facebook and lawyer up.
just talk, smile alot, be confident, ask questions which leads to you not having to talk as much....
If you dunno what to say, do what he said, ask questions, which hopefully will lead to more topics.
Someone reading -> What are you reading? Any good? How come you're reading it? Etc.
Someone looking a little down/offbeat -> Bad day? How come? I'm heading to <insert location> wanna tag along?
Doing their make-up on the bus/train -> Hey, <insert big grin> can I borrow some? (sarcasm lol) <insert banter/small talk>
Just look for queues in behaviour/appearance that can lead to topics of discussion.
If you are not feeling confident with small talk with eligible women start out talking to random non-threatening people in public, just engage in small talk questions to build up your confidence and ability. Tbh, conversationalism:
The reason that there are so few good conversationalists is that most people are thinking about what they are going to say and not about what the others are saying. - Rochefoucauld
Just listen.
Small talk with girls = forget about the fact they are girls. Females are human just like a male, I think, so there is no real need to talk to them in a special way.
Yes.
Important stuff, we don't need another religious nutjob in Belfast.
YES.
Peasant Phill
10-26-2011, 11:10
If you are not feeling confident with small talk with eligible women start out talking to random non-threatening people in public, just engage in small talk questions to build up your confidence and ability.
That's it. Just make small talk with everyone and once in a while you'll end up flirting with a nice girl.
It's something you'll have to force yourself to do but it'll pay off. (take it from someone with experience in the matter).
Major Robert Dump
10-26-2011, 13:28
Politely invite her to your place for dinner, but throw in the caveat that since you are religious the most she can expect on night 1 is a dry hump.
Rhyfelwyr
10-26-2011, 14:28
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ELITEofWARMANGINGERYBREADMEN88
10-26-2011, 21:50
Even though I always think it's the best to have a long good convo with a attractive single girl, it is better to make small talk then not talk at all. At least you can come across friendly. Like today, I again was spoken to by this red head next to me. Did we speak long ? No, not as much as last week or I would have liked, but we still spoke. I'm the only guy in the class she speaks to anyhow so there you go.
Talk to the girl/s! :laugh4::laugh4::2thumbsup::2thumbsup:
Centurion1
10-26-2011, 22:10
I don't think they would be very impressed if I acted the way I do around other guys.
tangent in spoilers...
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Nah, I was there a couple of months back and even I can see its declined. Apparently it used to be a nice area but most of my family there have moved.
I'm not a very observant person though. I mean what sort of thing could you pick up on if you're just serving someone like in the OP?
Plus I think if I just talked to random girls with the sort of things you suggest I think I would just come across as srsly creepy.
its not creepy if they initiate and you accelerate the seriousness of the questions if her interest is piqued and she is responsive.
also you just need to like go to a bar and try it out there.
I mean what sort of thing could you pick up on if you're just serving someone like in the OP?
"Come here often?"
Rhyfelwyr
10-27-2011, 14:21
"Come here often?"
*facepalm*
That's how much of an idiot I am.
Scienter
10-27-2011, 20:00
Small talk with girls = forget about the fact they are girls. Females are human just like a male, I think, so there is no real need to talk to them in a special way.
:yes: Also, try to find stuff you have in common to talk about more. Books? Movies? Travel? Have the same kind of pet?
I interpret small talk as introductory stuff to find out if you have something in common with another person. You say your religion is a "problem," how so? Your religion is really important to you, but it's not your entire identity, right? Get to know her, and later if you find you your beliefs don't match up, cross that bridge when you come to it. Religion is definitely a heavy topic to bring up with someone you don't know very well unless it's an absolute deal breaker for you, in which case maybe you should.
Rhyfelwyr
10-27-2011, 23:35
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a completely inoffensive name
10-27-2011, 23:56
Sounds like you already know what is wrong with you. Go read books, travel somewhere and get a pet.
In fact, that is now my new standard for relationship advice. Read some books, travel somewhere and get a pet.
TheLastDays
10-28-2011, 11:23
Remove the pet and I agree.
InsaneApache
10-28-2011, 11:27
What type of pet? To where shall he travel to? Which book?
The poster who said that girls are people too got it. Although when you get married, you sometimes wonder!:laugh4:
Peasant Phill
10-28-2011, 11:36
What type of pet? To where shall he travel to? Which book?
A goldfish, to Swansea, the twillight sage.
Easy as pie
InsaneApache
10-28-2011, 13:33
You see I'd have plumped for a hamster, Barnsley and William and the moon rocket.
What type of pet? To where shall he travel to? Which book?
A cat. As far from home as one can manage. Discworld.
What am I to do!?
I would not worry about the born again Christian bit. I would imagine the fact that you are not looking for a sexual encounter is probably a plus in starting a relationship - being too forward too soon is likely to scare off most girls.
A related point is that maybe the best way to start a relationship is not to go looking for it. It may be like happiness - the best way to achieve it, is not to pursue it. Engage in lots of activities in church, work, other interests etc and you will meet women, make friendships and one thing will naturally lead to another. If you interact with the opposite sex in common activities, you will be able to talk about those things and not the small talk, which will come anyway during the quieter moments.
Another tip is the value of altruism: I think most people will respond strongly if you do something kind for them, perhaps especially women looking for a man. Showing consideration, a small service, a birthday gift or whatever may signal the start of something. And if it doesn't, will probably make you feel good about yourself anyway.
Paltmull
10-28-2011, 14:20
What type of pet? To where shall he travel to? Which book?
An ant farm, Slough, and this Wikipedia article (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Municipalities_of_Slovenia) about the municipalities of Slovenia.
A cat. As far from home as one can manage. Discworld.
Yes, get a cat, the international symbol and mascot for loneliness. :laugh4:
Yes, get a cat, the international symbol and mascot for loneliness. :laugh4:
Cats are nice.
Sasaki Kojiro
10-28-2011, 18:07
I suggest reading more, for example some of the work of famous philosophers (http://www.theabsolute.net/misogyny/onwomen.html). That could give you something to talk about.
Strike For The South
10-28-2011, 18:42
Remember
They are just people, as insecure as you
Just talk
Centurion1
10-28-2011, 23:26
Remember
They are just people, as insecure as you
Just talk
more so.
johnhughthom
10-28-2011, 23:29
Remember
They are just people, as insecure as you
Just talk
:inquisitive:
Oh talk. I thought you said stalk.
Rhyfelwyr
10-29-2011, 01:31
Its not a confidence thing I am just very boring and not good at keeping a conversation going.
johnhughthom
10-29-2011, 01:37
Its not a confidence thing I am just very boring and not good at keeping a conversation going.
Is it actually the fact you are boring, or that you find what most girls talk about boring?
InsaneApache
10-29-2011, 02:11
Its not a confidence thing I am just very boring and not good at keeping a conversation going.
This. :2thumbsup:
:laugh4:
Good 'supreme being' lad, you're more of a fogey than I am and I'm 30 years older than yea!
Grow up man.
:creep:
Rhyfelwyr
10-29-2011, 13:47
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Drunk Clown
10-29-2011, 13:55
Why don't you just force yourself to keep the conversation going. Certainly there's something you can talk about. Is it so hard to ask something and go on from that point?
Ja'chyra
10-29-2011, 17:31
Politely invite her to your place for dinner, but throw in the caveat that since you are religious the most she can expect on night 1 is a dry hump.
You sound like DD-lite
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You just need to man up, that or drink. Oh and never forget that it's just a woman and you're not supposed to know what they are thinking or mean or why they do anything.
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