Hooahguy
01-23-2012, 14:43
Wow, I cant believe that Im actually making a relationship thread. What has this world come to? :no:
Alright so the story starts in freshman year of highschool, something like 5 years ago, if my math is correct.
I went into the year having a crush on this one girl, but the crush subsided halfway through the year.
In the second semester of the year I befriended another girl and we became pretty good friends. I ended up asking her to our schools awards banquet (closest thing we had to prom) and she said yes. We became a bit closer and I found that I really liked her. So I asked her out for real over the summer, and she said no. Our friendship foundered for sophomore year, but it picked up again in Junior year since we were in band elective together (she played bass, I played guitar). Though roughly 3 months into the year she entered a relationship with another guy. I used to be good friends with this guy but for some reason he made it his mission to disrupt any conversations I was having with this girl, no matter how innocent they were. So that ruined my relationship with her first boyfriend. They broke up two months later for reasons neither of them will say.
She entered another relationship with some guy from a different state in the summer after junior year. It was long distance, so he wasnt there to break up our conversations, so that was good.
Being a supportive friend, I let this guy stay at my house when he came to visit during winter break of senior year. Besides being an :daisy: to me he didnt even have the courtesy to say thank you to my family when he left. I probably should have known since all her friends who have met her boyfriend told me that he was a jerk.
Anyhow, I didnt want to tell her how everyone thinks her boyfriend is a real jerk since I didnt want to ruin my friendship with her. So we kept talking and texting and enjoying each other's company for the rest of the year. We've become quite close friends since then, and we've come to each other with problems before.
So now we get to this year. So we are both in Israel. We still talk, mostly on the phone now because texting is really expensive. Though over the course of all this, Ive begun to have serious feelings for this girl. She probably has figured out by now but hasnt said anything since she figures that I wont make a move since she has a boyfriend. And shes right, to a point.
We see each other pretty regularly and we talk and hang out, though the one thing that is puzzling me the most right now is the way she hugs me when we see each other: she hugs me the same way she hugs her boyfriend. Now, with every other guy she either doesnt hug or hugs in that neutral way that girls have for their guy friends that they are only friends with. So clearly Im somewhat special to her.
So Im pretty torn right now. On one hand, I respect her enough to not want to interfere with her relationship, even if the guy is an :daisy:. But she seems pretty happy, and I know that I should be happy for her.
On the other hand, Im pretty sure Im in love. I have never felt so strongly about any girl before in my almost 20 years of existence. Ive tried to put her out of my mind because I know she is in a relationship, but to no avail, I cant stop thinking about her.
So I have no idea what to do. Im telling myself to wait a year, see what happens. Also I dont know if I will still love her after a year. Maybe I will, maybe I wont. And for all I know, in college they might break up (they are going to the same college) and Ill have my chance then, but I know that holding myself down cant be good for me.
Alright so the story starts in freshman year of highschool, something like 5 years ago, if my math is correct.
I went into the year having a crush on this one girl, but the crush subsided halfway through the year.
In the second semester of the year I befriended another girl and we became pretty good friends. I ended up asking her to our schools awards banquet (closest thing we had to prom) and she said yes. We became a bit closer and I found that I really liked her. So I asked her out for real over the summer, and she said no. Our friendship foundered for sophomore year, but it picked up again in Junior year since we were in band elective together (she played bass, I played guitar). Though roughly 3 months into the year she entered a relationship with another guy. I used to be good friends with this guy but for some reason he made it his mission to disrupt any conversations I was having with this girl, no matter how innocent they were. So that ruined my relationship with her first boyfriend. They broke up two months later for reasons neither of them will say.
She entered another relationship with some guy from a different state in the summer after junior year. It was long distance, so he wasnt there to break up our conversations, so that was good.
Being a supportive friend, I let this guy stay at my house when he came to visit during winter break of senior year. Besides being an :daisy: to me he didnt even have the courtesy to say thank you to my family when he left. I probably should have known since all her friends who have met her boyfriend told me that he was a jerk.
Anyhow, I didnt want to tell her how everyone thinks her boyfriend is a real jerk since I didnt want to ruin my friendship with her. So we kept talking and texting and enjoying each other's company for the rest of the year. We've become quite close friends since then, and we've come to each other with problems before.
So now we get to this year. So we are both in Israel. We still talk, mostly on the phone now because texting is really expensive. Though over the course of all this, Ive begun to have serious feelings for this girl. She probably has figured out by now but hasnt said anything since she figures that I wont make a move since she has a boyfriend. And shes right, to a point.
We see each other pretty regularly and we talk and hang out, though the one thing that is puzzling me the most right now is the way she hugs me when we see each other: she hugs me the same way she hugs her boyfriend. Now, with every other guy she either doesnt hug or hugs in that neutral way that girls have for their guy friends that they are only friends with. So clearly Im somewhat special to her.
So Im pretty torn right now. On one hand, I respect her enough to not want to interfere with her relationship, even if the guy is an :daisy:. But she seems pretty happy, and I know that I should be happy for her.
On the other hand, Im pretty sure Im in love. I have never felt so strongly about any girl before in my almost 20 years of existence. Ive tried to put her out of my mind because I know she is in a relationship, but to no avail, I cant stop thinking about her.
So I have no idea what to do. Im telling myself to wait a year, see what happens. Also I dont know if I will still love her after a year. Maybe I will, maybe I wont. And for all I know, in college they might break up (they are going to the same college) and Ill have my chance then, but I know that holding myself down cant be good for me.