Scoial Issues (from the Tavern)

[makkyo]

This has been posted in the Tavern... but in need ne members to comment on this as well.

Here goes.... I need as many opinions as possible before making my final decision about the following:
I, being the ladies-man that I am ;) , have a particularly nasty problem concerning boyfriend/ girlfriend type stuff. While I was at the movies the other day (Day after Tomorrow by the way) I made out with a friend of mine. You would all say to me, Go Amkkyo or something like that.... but you shouldn't. She (very blonde and skinny by the way) recently broke up with an other fren of mine and I believe is on the rebound so to speak. All would be fine with that, as I believe that just earned me a girlfriend, but there is another I like/ love (or whatever). In my opinion, she is better looking as well as us being friends since the 5th grade. Beign a good christain girl, she will definately disaprove with what I did and our friendship may be in danger, as well as the fact me and her became closer and closer over this year. Before she comes back on vacation (from Vegas) I need to figure out what to do. Should I just keep the girlfriend that I have (who is very physical) and possibly loose the friendship of one of my best friends, or should I break up (though we never actually asked eachother out) with the blonde girl and try to make things good with my other friend (and hopefully become boyfriend/ gilfriend later)?
I know this is sad that I am expressing my social issues like this to you all, but I'm desprate and need as many opinions as possible.

[Armchair Athlete]

I think you should keep the girlfriend you already have and forget about the other friend, she may not necessarily go out with you anyway so IMHO its not worth taking the risk. Chicks like to jerk guys around and have guys like them, even if they dont like them back (even Christian chicks, don't ask me how I found that one out....) so its possible that if you break up with your sort of girlfriend now for the other she may never actually want to go out, but still want you to like her. There, hope that made sense

[shakaka36]

keep the girl you have AND go after the other one, sure you'll get found out eventually, but thats tomorrows problem

[zelda12]

This is gonna sound corney but follow your heart. As if you like your friend as much as you say you'll kick yourself for a long time if you lose her cos you went with the other one.

[Kommodus]

Well, I'm certainly not very qualified to offer advice on this, but maybe you should think about what the two relationships really mean. Is your relationship with the blonde girl based on physical attraction and/or her being on the rebound, or is there potential for a deeper, more real and intimate connection? Are you in it because you truly care about her and want to give, or are you more interested in what you can get from her? Will the relationship ultimately be mutually satisfying to both of you, or will you end up disappointed? Will you regret not taking a chance with the girl who is one of your best friends, and possibly losing the friendship?

If your relationship with the blonde girl is a real and meaningful one with long-term potential, there's probably no need to throw it away. However, I would advise against settling; you seem young, and you shouldn't think that your current girlfriend is the only one you'll ever have. To tell you the truth, your own post contained indications that deep inside, you know what the right thing to do is. Consider what's best for you and both girls in the long term.

[Kaiser of Arabia]

Keep the one in Vegas, you obviously like her more.
Who give a flying f*ck about the skinny blonde, she can find anther guy.
And I think your friend is more important than his ex.
-Capo

[Maedhros]

I think you know who you want. This is why you are worried about what Vegas girl thinks about what happened in the theater.

Your real issue is your feelings of guilt regarding what you did while the world was ending around you. Under the circumstances, you could blame you.

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If you REALLY want to keep Vegas, and you know she will find out, the best policy is honesty. Play up the god thing, christian girls usually fall for it. (trust me) Of course that isn't consistent with the honest strategy.

Or, in the short term the safer road would be to go for coffee with skinny before vegas comes home and make sure you guys are both ok with being friends. This will help settle your guilt, and might stop Vegas from discovering how bad you have been while she was off in sin city.