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ShadowKill
01-29-2001, 03:13
I came upon this while i was viewing my tribes2 forums and i thought this was a cool post that somone made. And after last night talking to someone in the tourny for a lil while i noticed that I do not agree totally with this guys view I did nor realize it but damn i have told you guys alot about myself the person i was talking to last night knew were my Ex-girl friend lived http://www.totalwar.org/ubb/biggrin.gif to most of the things about me I found it kind of nice(And scary http://www.totalwar.org/ubb/smile.gif to know someone actully reads what i say.

ANY WAY here is the post i found:
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Can you trust your teammates? This is a question I am sure a lot of you ask yourselves, but are you asking it in the right context? Sure, you can trust your team mate to do his/her job on the field or to show up for practices and maybe even add something special to the team. But a lot more is shared between team mates than just a game. Many times intimate details of a persons lives are given out to the people you consider friends online. Maybe you have never met in real life, maybe you have, but none the less, you have a strange bond with some people online.

In my personal experience I have quite a few people online that I consider friends. Some I have met in real life and others I have never seen before, but they all get the same treatment. I have shared information about my career, my schooling, my money troubles, my family issues and even my love life with people I have known for over 2 years now. How can you be sure you can trust these people with this information or that the information they give to you is honest and accurate? The answer is, you can't.

All of these questions came about quite recently when I found out that one of my old team mates, [Inq]LadyJade, was lying to everyone in Inquisition for over a fourteen month period. Many parts of Inq's lives are shared between the team. From many conversations, we found out a lot about LadyJade's life. That she was 17, an avid gamer, living in the midwest and every once in a while, some issue would come up that we would all discuss the options for. All in all, we were like a large, distant family. And then the day came when Jade was trying to get money for tuition and would have to sell her computer. Well rather than have that happen, many of the members chipped in and threw together their old parts to give Jade something that she could sell rather than her own system. Everything from network cards to CDRW's were sent. And all was happy again.

And that brings us to the present. Today, one of my old friends called LadyJade on the phone to see how things were going. He had never called before, but had the phone number. The parents picked up. He asked for Des (LJ's name), they said "Who?" and he explained who he was looking for. They explained that they had no daughters, but they did have a son who played Tribes often. And then the pieces fell together. LadyJade had for the past year and 2 months deceived everyone in the Tribes community into believing that he was a girl. The tuition? Fake. He just wanted money. LadyJade was even supposed to appear in the next Battle of the Sexes match, none of his team mates knew.... LadyJade is a man.

I was awe struck. How could I be lied to so easily? How could everyone fall under this ruse and not figure anything out? And then it hit me. We never really know who we are talking to when we begin our trek into the online universe. We share intimate moments of our lives with complete and total strangers. Don't get me wrong, I have met quite a few of the people behind the names and am friends with most. I am in no way saying that you should not share your lives with online friends, I am just stating that you should beware lest you begin talking to "Barbie" who is really Bob, a 45 year old inmate on the prison library computers.
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THE VIEWS EXPRESED IN THIS POST ARE NOT MY VIEW http://www.totalwar.org/ubb/biggrin.gif just to let you know always got to have a desclaimer



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Tenchimuyo
01-29-2001, 03:33
To trust or not to trust? That is the question.

Shiro
01-29-2001, 04:43
You should never confuse the online world and that of the real one. On the net, it is so easy to be decieved. For all I know, Tenchi could live in New Jersey! http://www.totalwar.org/ubb/biggrin.gif

[This message has been edited by Shiro (edited 01-28-2001).]

Hosakawa Tito
01-29-2001, 04:59
I believe it was P.T. Barnum that said there's a sucker born every minute.Hard to believe that people would send money etc. to someone they don't really know let alone actually met,but it happens.As long as there are naive people there will be predators to prey on them.Fool me once shame on you,fool me twice shame on me.
Tito

BakaGaijin
01-29-2001, 05:11
I love BB King. http://www.totalwar.org/ubb/wink.gif

ShadowKill
01-29-2001, 05:33
well most of the people over there in the Tribes community are closer then most i have seen in other games because they spend most of every day togther there clan are a tighter group because they have to be there so often becaus ethat game take a lil detitcation then this one were you are more often time fighting one vs one as opposed to how they have to have a working leadership and team based enviroment this is not the first time i have seen the guys over there helping out one of there teammate the best they can even if they had never met. most of the time it is a hppy happy joy joy thing and have heard very lil of this kind of thing. I personaly think it is nice to see people be able to become friends online even if they may never meet in real life hell i know there are a few that I would call friends and that is hard to do for me as i hardly ever consider most people friends.

ShaiHulud
01-29-2001, 11:44
Yah, it's hard to know what is or isn't true online...BTW, if anyone wants to conribute funds, I'm in need of a new Seeing-Eye dog. hehe

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Moriboy
02-03-2001, 03:25
It's easy to see your frustration Shadowkill, but perhaps this will ease your mind somewhat. None of us are immune to being decieved. Most decent human beings assume a stranger to be decent as well until proven otherwise. The alternative to that would be to walk through life wary and mistrustful of everyone. That comes with it's own sociological hazards too. Certainly "Lady Jade's" behavior was unethical, but that doesn't subtract one whit from the many fine gestures of help extended from the members of this forum. My hats off to everyone kind enough to help, regardless of the recipients character. Don't sweat the occasional wanker. Try not to expose your "flank" to someone you don't know, but smile and greet him as a friend nevertheless. Happy Happy Joy Joy!

TomisamaRA
02-03-2001, 07:22
You go Moriboy! Keep the faith (in each other), it's worth it http://www.totalwar.org/ubb/smile.gif

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[This message has been edited by TomisamaRA (edited 02-03-2001).]

solypsist
02-03-2001, 10:31
to be honest to those who may think otherwise, I'm not really a Samurai-Regent, I only play one on the internet. In "real life" I am a simple and humble art instructor at a college (dating students is like shooting fish in a barrel) in Boulder.
just making sure I don't mislead anyone http://www.totalwar.org/ubb/biggrin.gif

leoknite
02-03-2001, 13:07
hey I am a 26 year old stripper who loves shogun and need to pay for a breast job, so I am selling my comp and everything else, unless someone wants to help me *wink*, I promise to send the final conclusion to all of you who pitch in! HAHAHAHAHAHAH!

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Heims30
02-03-2001, 13:55
Just so you all know, I don't have anything to give, so don't ask for anything. If you want to send though, just let me know. http://www.totalwar.org/ubb/smile.gif