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Shaka_Khan
12-30-2006, 17:56
Please share your experience on being dumped by someone you love. I asked someone out and she agreed. Unfortunately, I got nervous during the date, and I think I ruined the relationship. ~:mecry: Now I'm worried about how long I could make this relationship last. Please share your own story so that I don't feel alone.
rory_20_uk
12-30-2006, 19:11
Sorry to hear that. My stories are for me alone to know.
~:smoking:
Please share your experience on being dumped by someone you love. I asked someone out and she agreed. Unfortunately, I got nervous during the date, and I think I ruined the relationship. ~:mecry: Now I'm worried about how long I could make this relationship last. Please share your own story so that I don't feel alone.
You left she?Are you talking with she?
Samurai Waki
12-30-2006, 19:35
Be angry. Be obsessive. But eventually you'll get over it, move on, and find someone who compliments you better. Or perhaps you are overreacting.
I've been dumped...numerous times. And on occasion I've been the one doing the dumping. It sucks for both sides. You'll live buddy, crack open a cold beer, and do a little bit of reflecting, thats all the advice I can give you, because everyone deals with it differently.
CrossLOPER
12-31-2006, 07:09
Date if and only if you are completely drunk out of your mind. Are you even old enough to drink? Drinking is good....
What was thet opic?
Shaka_Khan
01-01-2007, 12:55
Sorry to hear that. My stories are for me alone to know.
~:smoking:
It will make you feel better if you share your stories with us.
You left she?Are you talking with she?
I'm still with her. I just don't know how long I can make the relationship last.
You'll live buddy, crack open a cold beer, and do a little bit of reflecting, thats all the advice I can give you, because everyone deals with it differently.
This thread is my own way of dealing with my fear of losing her.
Btw-could you share your reflections to us? Your experience will be helpful.
Date if and only if you are completely drunk out of your mind. Are you even old enough to drink? Drinking is good....
What was thet opic?
I was drunk at that time. We met at a wine bar.
Geoffrey S
01-01-2007, 13:22
It's the other side of things, but my girlfriend's unfounded tiresome worries about me ending the relationship are making me seriously consider doing just that. So bear in mind that precisely your fears may accelerate a process that doesn't have to be.
Shaka_Khan
01-01-2007, 13:36
Please improve my self-esteem. Say anything that'll help.
Please improve my self-esteem. Say anything that'll help.
Well, looking at your avatar, you have a full head of hair and good shoulders. And probably a nice disposition as well. :yes:
If there is any doubt, about her or the relationship, or any doubt.
END THE RELATIONSHIP NOW
There are many other women. A few billion I assume. There will be others to pleasure you and for you to pleasure. Emotions are fleeting, they end, one way or the other.
I'll repeat my advice again:
END THE RELATIONSHIP NOW
Life's too short to wallow in despair, soldier.
Banquo's Ghost
01-01-2007, 14:02
Please improve my self-esteem. Say anything that'll help.
It's quite difficult to comment when one does not know what happened between you to make you feel this way.
But the girl is still with you. That should go a long way to boost your self-esteem - you feel you made a mistake, and yet she still wants to see you.
Don't let worry overwhelm you. If the girl is worth this anxiety, she is worth fighting for. Buy flowers, take her for a real treat as a date - or (remembering that I'm as old as the hills and so flowers etc may not be your cup of tea, nor hers) whatever would show your strength of feeling for her - but not your dependence on her. Make her happy.
Things may not work out even then, but at least you will have tried. On the other hand, women just love to see you change for them, so making a mistake now and again is usually a good plan. As long as they know you'll make it up to them. What women seem to take a dim view of is indifference and anxious worry-warts.
Remember, it is the natural state of a man to be in the wrong. Always. Accept that and you will have happy relationships all your days.
:2thumbsup:
Rodion Romanovich
01-01-2007, 14:38
Please improve my self-esteem. Say anything that'll help.
Just a word of advice: if you feel you NEED a girl and can't live without her, you have fooled yourself. You will get over it rather quickly, but the time it takes to cure it depends on how many more mistakes you make after your first mistake. If your first mistake makes you desperate to compensate, the desire to compensate will fool you to make more mistakes, and cause a spiral leading to disaster. If you can't control yourself in front of her, contact her as anonymously as possible (letter, send a mobile phone message, or similar), and tell her that you can't see her for a while, make up some lie, and try to avoid her as much as you can. Always carefully scout out any rooms or streets you will pass through to make sure you won't run into her until you've thought through things. What you will eventually realize, is that what you did to her, whatever it was, isn't nearly as embarrassing as the fact that you did it out of false and dogmatic beliefs, and that your dogmatic behavior was reinforced by everything you saw in culture, art, music, movies etc. You will realize that life imitates art more than art imitates life, and that that is a bad thing, because what is beautiful in art is horrible in life, and what is great in life makes for quite boring art. You will realize that most young people end up in love with love itself, and not in a particular person of the opposite sex. You will realize that whatever method you used to measure how good a partner you were to her were all wrong, futile, and a result of a blind soul, leading you to act in ways that made you less and less desirable in her eyes every minute. Never listen to any words stating what a woman likes, especially not when uttered by a woman. Don't trust anyone except your own rationality in that matter - don't even trust your own heart. Just like King Lear felt most loved by the deceitful daughters and not the one that loved him. Don't think true love will grant you her, on the contrary try to eliminate true love because it's the only thing that can prevent you from getting her. And accept the truth that in civilization, striving for the women you desire most leads to ruin. Don't strive for the women you desire most, but for the women you think are easiest to get, and that you desire to enough degree that you can call them "acceptable". Not acceptable in the sense that you think they are cute and you could learn to desire them, but acceptable in the sense that they are so little desirable that they will be uncertain and weak enough to not become so much stronger than you that you can get blinded by your desire to them. And while you find that disappointing at first, you will sooner than you think deem it acceptable. In the end, you will probably, like most other people, end up not with the woman you desired, but the woman you accepted, lying to yourself that you truly desire her, and successfully fooling yourself that it is true. Love in the end becomes not desire, but logistics, establishment of an alliance, and cooperation to take care of the dishes. Or in the case of young lovers, the choice of a status symbol of the opposite sex to prove your manhood before other men - but if you desire status an uncertain love affair is worse than consolidating what you already hold. One alternative is to choose the opposite way - to learn to feel disgusted by the women you truly desire. A man can't get a woman if he really likes her, and you can solve that problem by either looking at women you don't like, or learn to not like the women you like. Art that states that only true love will grant a man a woman is the most dangerous poison of the soul that exists in this world, and should be avoided at all costs.
Banquo's Ghost
01-01-2007, 15:50
Legio, it's sad that you have come to this rather cynical conclusion so early in life, but I can assure you that it is possible to find real and reciprocal love.
I've been lucky to have loved and been loved, and been hurt by it too. At the time, the hurt often felt overwhelming - now, the experiences are fundamental to my character and to my profession as a writer. I'm married to a wonderful woman whom I know I both love and desire - I doubt if I would be the man she loves without my previous pain.
You're right to note that sometimes what we most desire is not necessarily what will be best for us, but wrong to think this makes it impossible to find love. True love has a habit of surprising us.
Like every other opportunity in life, you just have to be receptive to the possibility.
Samurai Waki
01-01-2007, 18:56
The greatest love you'll have ever found, will be when your not looking for it. Thats my experience anyways. I've been on... god at least 20 dates, just hoping that somewhere in the shuffle would be the right person. Most of them were right for me in some degree, but somehow none of the relationships, once engaged didn't feel right. The ones that really love you, will not make an effort to point out your flaws, they don't expect you to give them the world, and certainly they'll forgive you if you make a fumble on a date. A decent person would give you the benefit of the doubt, and not pass judgement even if you do make a mistake, because we all have at one point or another, and even getting drunk on a date isn't the most gregious of errors.
Rodion Romanovich
01-01-2007, 19:28
On the contrary it's a conclusion that gives hope and strength. Realizing the causes of failure in love and how it is connected to the shape of society and culture. Love in our civilization has become a strange combination of two seldom compatible things - organization of a household maintenance team, and sexual attraction - things that gives the partner finding problem another dimension, and severely restricts the options of partner you have. Many good relationships based on sexual attraction fail because the couple can't organize living together, and many men and women end up being abused as income-bringers to a partner they feel an obligation to help, while the other part is cheating on them and betraying them, often eventually leaving a lonely mother or father to bring up their children as if their children would be a piece of dirt. The only attempts the civilization has done to allow a separation of income and sexual attraction were cultures such as that of the hippies, involving problematic family situations with people cheating on each others to the left and right and abusing partners who would bring an income to them in the manner I described above, creating a quite disgusting situation for some who had to suffer both a broken heart, betrayal and backstabbing at the same time, and further humiliation and fear due to the fact that they had no method whatsoever of getting out of the hell that their situation was, and it also resulted in a wave of increase in the spreading of STDs, which is the black death of our days.
I think it gives a lot of hope and insight to realize how society structure and culture screws up love, just as society structure and culture can screw up survival with wars and genocides. It brings back self-esteem to those who have been victims of the many horrors of civilization. It's both a good basis for developing survival strategies within such a society form, and a good basis for political philosophy to solve the problems in society. It also makes you realize that many who made you suffer made you suffer out of stupidity and ignorance, and not out of deliberate malevolence, and that factors which they couldn't control forced them into certain ways of acting.
If you apply a historical perspective it becomes even more clear how society and culture repeatedly screws up love in different ways. Most people have actually been able to stand living in such societies and many eventually even got used to their situation in the end, but still the injustice and suffering is seldom entirely forgotten. Examples:
- sex slaves exposed to various forms of sadistic pleasures of an usually bored master who needed extreme forms of sex to be happy
- priests and nobles at times having a right to have either the first intercourse with the woman in a newly married couple, or just sex with any of their subjects they wanted to
- people being able to acquire power and money by semi-criminal behavior managing to steal women from men who were much more righteous and loving because those men had less money
- poor people having trouble surviving and thus being forced to "sell" their prettiest daughter to the rich in order to survive. Only very good-looking daughters were possible to sell to the rich.
- women being mass-raped in wars
- Goethe's "the sufferings of the young Werther" making huge amounts of young men commit suicide over unhappy love
- ideals at many times forcing men to fight with lethal weapons (rather than by hands) over women, resulting in much unnecessary death
- people using temptations and promises of sex to get what they want, but then betray the victim at the last minute
- bosses forcing subjects of the opposite sex have sex in order to get any chance at all of career
- people being forced by globalization and ruthless forms of taxation to move across countries, losing contact with each other and forcing many relationships to an end
- many quite decent people not getting any partners ending up with prostitutes, and demand for prostitutes ends up causing trafficking and other forms of suffering
etc.
As you can see, civilization doesn't exactly have a record of promoting happy, stable relations and true love, and it also doesn't really promote a fair and natural judgement of who should get who as partner - rather cruelty, backstabbing, brainwashing and random events in the end decide who you end up with in most cases, and uncertainty and taboo makes people who should really love each other fear making contact, or make some end up marrying the first one who actually asks, rather than the one they would most of all want to be asked by, because fear prevents those who should from asking.
There is hope, and it lies in the ability to change society to solve the problems. Or meeting a woman with the same insights who by realizing these things can compensate for them, so they become as if they didn't exist.
Strike For The South
01-01-2007, 23:08
@ Shaka- Buck up dude. One mistake never ruins anything and if it did you just go out and look for a better one.
@Legio- Thats sad. I mean of course youre gonna get knocked back a few times but thats what makes it fun! Everyone has a someone, you just need to throw your ancedtoal evidence out the window and go for it!
At the OP - there are no such things as mistakes mate - there is only experience. The only mistake would be not to learn from an experience.
To the dudes not understanding Legios position
Romantic love is complete delusion - its BS - its fluffy idealistic tripe draped over obsession. And like he says if you ever want to have a long lasting relationship that doesnt end tragically - youll forget about romatic love - romeo and juliet anyone
Romantic love is lying to yourself and being in love with the image of your perfect partner - inside your own head.
Real love as Legio rightly says is about partnership and having a long lived relationship with another human being - despite all their idiosyncricies (sp?)
And for that you can take all the romantic fog (flowers and singing under windows and generally acting like a fool) out of your eyes and work hard on compromise, sacrifice, equality, giving and recieving.
real love - is a deeper thing
having dinner ready when your partners working all week,
tidying up despite you feeling that you should be able to live like a pig, holding them when they are frietened - despite if you think the fear is rational or not,
protecting them from the stupidity of others and your own,
smiling for them even when you feel like crying,
learning not to pee all over the toilet floor - cause someones gunna have to clean it up - probably you (same goes for skid marks),
having to visit her family when you had a M2TW mega session planned - and smiling about it,
learning that you (singular) no longer exists - there is only you (pleural) now
theres no obsession clouded vision
its loving someone despite the surficial things of life - like physical appearance, wealth/poverty , bodily excretions, etc etc - in real love none of this matters
its never pretty
its not exciting
alot of times its not even fun
this from a man who is happily married - happy because both of us have given up any delusions about what society tells us love is supposed to be and concentrated on one single idea - its me and her forever - sickness or health, young or old, wealthy or poor - the world and its skindeep BS are only relevent to the extent of how it impacts on our life together
If there is any doubt, about her or the relationship, or any doubt.
END THE RELATIONSHIP NOW
There are many other women. A few billion I assume. There will be others to pleasure you and for you to pleasure. Emotions are fleeting, they end, one way or the other.
I'll repeat my advice again:
END THE RELATIONSHIP NOW
Life's too short to wallow in despair, soldier.
I think that doesnt help he, Sinan.
yesdachi
01-02-2007, 17:43
Here I sit broken hearted, paid a dime and only farted.
It is the only thing I could think of that involved heart break that might also make you feel better.
Evil_Maniac From Mars
01-02-2007, 18:46
Sinan, I really must disagree. If Shaka really does like her, then from my experiences he should try to keep her. The only way he should end it because of the current situation is if all it is causing is pain.
I'm not sure how well that came across. I'm sure you can figure out what I mean, if my English wasn't clear enough.
Obviously she likes him enough to have stayed with him, even after he has done something which he believes to have been a mistake.
That's worth something.
Shaka_Khan
01-03-2007, 04:56
She is quite sensitive, but above all, she is ultra-conservative. She makes the Victorian Age look like the Age of Hippies. I met her three times so far, and she still wouldn't let me hold her hand. I feel like I'm at a minefield.
Anyway, so far so good. We call each other often. ~:thumb:
so tell us what your big mistake was.....
carn....
carn...
Shaka_Khan
01-03-2007, 06:39
On the first day I met her, part of my brain shut down. I forgot things and didn't know what to say. Now I have longer conversations with her, but sometimes I'm at a loss for words even after a long conversation. Yesterday, I held her hand, but she said that that was a way a guy would try to take advantage of her. Overall, I'm excited about her, and frightened of her at the same time.
Strike For The South
01-03-2007, 06:42
Slow and steady wins the race
On the first day I met her, part of my brain shut down. I forgot things and didn't know what to say. Now I have longer conversations with her, but sometimes I'm at a loss for words even after a long conversation. Yesterday, I held her hand, but she said that that was a way a guy would try to take advantage of her. Overall, I'm excited about her, and frightened of her at the same time.
Whaaaat ... is that all
I thought it was going to be something juicy like over at BF2s.com I was reading about this dude... [..] thread worms :oops: :laugh4: :laugh4: :laugh4: :laugh4: :laugh4:
now thats a mistake
InsaneApache
01-03-2007, 11:59
That's put me off my spaghetti dinner. :sweatdrop:
Please improve my self-esteem. Say anything that'll help.
Just remember that you are unique, like everybody else.
On the first day I met her, part of my brain shut down. I forgot things and didn't know what to say.....
That's perfectly normal when you are attracted to someone. :beam:
Rodion Romanovich
01-03-2007, 19:19
Just remember that you are unique, like everybody else.
:laugh4:
lancelot
01-03-2007, 21:03
Yesterday, I held her hand, but she said that that was a way a guy would try to take advantage of her.
WTF???? Im no expert with women but if a woman (or indeed anybody) thinks that- they need their head examined! Big time!
I suppose age might be an issue here (as i dont know yours) but if anything over 13 years old...she sounds like a mental.
I think you should be worried for different reasons.
Better? :2thumbsup:
Yesterday, I held her hand, but she said that that was a way a guy would try to take advantage of her. Overall, I'm excited about her, and frightened of her at the same time.
She would not be out of place in a medieval convent by all accounts! Holding hands, is taking advantage? Sorry but, how old are the two of you? :inquisitive:
-Edit: Nevermind I checked your profile, assuming it's correct, but how old is she?
Lorenzo_H
01-03-2007, 22:55
This thread, ironically, has made me feel very good about my life. I'm elated. I'm glad that I've never "poured my heart out" so to speak, for anyone in my life so far. I've seen the damage it does to people's character, self esteem and happiness. But I'm young, and not very experienced. I too will feel the urge one day, and I will have to deal with it like everyone else.
My sympathies though, for all those who are feeling depressed in any way.
Remember, above all, that you have a friend in Jesus. He loves you, even when it seems that others don't.
They killed my hair!
THEY KILLED MY HAIR!
I loved that hair.
Banquo's Ghost
01-03-2007, 23:40
She would not be out of place in a medieval convent by all accounts! Holding hands, is taking advantage?
Surely the wish of a young girl to be careful and take things slowly is not a circumstance for ridicule? I find it rather refreshing to hear of a girl who is not drinking herself into insensibility and licentiousness.
(Now there's a word I bet you young fellas don't hear very often. :grin:)
Her views deserve respect, even if they seem out of line with the majority.
(What I really need now to finish, is a grumpy old man smiley, shaking a stick :wink3: )
The way outlandish conservatism behaves is just too alien for an average Scandinavian to fathom.
You actually consider that one date is equal to a relationship? As in boyfriend/girlfriend, we are a pair now?
Alright I will stop here as this is beyond my horizon… I should educate myself.
IrishArmenian
01-04-2007, 03:23
Date women who
A) Are thick skinned
B) Witty
C) Like to Drink
D) If you are sober, look for a bit of physical attraction.
That is how I got my wife. If all the insults and jabs we threw at each other were used by a "normal" couple, we'd have been divorced about 6 years ago, when we met.
Banquo, you are telling that to someone (me) who lives in a culture where a kiss is considered a greeting. How is that taking advantage of?
West=Prudes?
Banquo's Ghost
01-04-2007, 10:18
Banquo, you are telling that to someone (me) who lives in a culture where a kiss is considered a greeting. How is that taking advantage of?
West=Prudes?
Not at all. I'm just saying that someone who sets clear rules, even if they seem old fashioned in these more "enlightened" days, should not be the subject of mild derision. Holding hands is a clear sign of intimacy between friends. Rather too many young men assume that the next step should be bed.
In a society where relationships are often expected to result in sex very early, it may be a sensible choice to keep things friendly and non-physical early on. She may also be religious, and is following her moral guidelines.
If I were her father, I would be very proud. It would save me having to get the shotgun out every time she had a boyfriend. :beam:
Real love as Legio rightly says is about partnership and having a long lived relationship with another human being - despite all their idiosyncricies (sp?)
And for that you can take all the romantic fog (flowers and singing under windows and generally acting like a fool) out of your eyes and work hard on compromise, sacrifice, equality, giving and recieving.
real love - is a deeper thing
having dinner ready when your partners working all week,
tidying up despite you feeling that you should be able to live like a pig, holding them when they are frietened - despite if you think the fear is rational or not,
protecting them from the stupidity of others and your own,
smiling for them even when you feel like crying,
learning not to pee all over the toilet floor - cause someones gunna have to clean it up - probably you (same goes for skid marks),
having to visit her family when you had a M2TW mega session planned - and smiling about it,
learning that you (singular) no longer exists - there is only you (pleural) now
theres no obsession clouded vision
its loving someone despite the surficial things of life - like physical appearance, wealth/poverty , bodily excretions, etc etc - in real love none of this matters
its never pretty
its not exciting
alot of times its not even fun
this from a man who is happily married - happy because both of us have given up any delusions about what society tells us love is supposed to be and concentrated on one single idea - its me and her forever - sickness or health, young or old, wealthy or poor - the world and its skindeep BS are only relevent to the extent of how it impacts on our life together
Ah, the wisdom of the married man :bow:
You forgot to add: "Watching "Beauty and the Nerd" with her, pretending you like the program, instead of playing M2TW". GAH!! Television makers! Put them on the stake and burn them ! GAH ! On the other hand, she has to sacrifice herself too sometimes: go out twice a week at 7.00 AM running with your husband who for once remembered something you said: "I am too fat, I want to exercise. We should do some sport together" That'll teach her! Beauty and the Nerd. GAH !
Surely the wish of a young girl to be careful and take things slowly is not a circumstance for ridicule? I find it rather refreshing to hear of a girl who is not drinking herself into insensibility and licentiousness.
You've got a point there. There was an office trainee that worked over here last year. She was 16 years old. Apparently she had been with a live in lover since the age of 14 and both living under her parents roof. At the time when she was working here she was texting and phoning a string of boyfriends. She was sacked last year, because she didn't do a whole lot. Now she is apparently on the dole and, quite predictably, up the duff. This girl is probably one extreme, the young lady in question here is probably the other. The solution is a happy medium, but safely below the red line on the slapperometer.
(What I really need now to finish, is a grumpy old man smiley, shaking a stick :wink3: )
Get one on order, and get one of those "miserable git waving rolled up copy of Daily Mail" smileys as well. We need one of those urgently. :laugh4:
@ Shaka_Khan
Rainy day, rain all day
Ain't no use in gettin' uptight
Just let it groove its own way
Let it drain your worries away yeah
Lay back and groove on a rainy day hey
Lay back and dream on a rainy day
@ Banquo's Ghost
show your strength of feeling for her - but not your dependence on her.
That, and all of your advice, is great advice.
:bow:
@ Yunus Dogus
:bow:
@ LegioXXXUlpiaVictrix
On the contrary it's a conclusion that gives hope and strength. Realizing the causes of failure in love and how it is connected to the shape of society and culture. Love in our civilization has become a strange combination of two seldom compatible things - organization of a household maintenance team, and sexual attraction - things that gives the partner finding problem another dimension, and severely restricts the options of partner you have. Many good relationships based on sexual attraction fail because the couple can't organize living together, and many men and women end up being abused as income-bringers to a partner they feel an obligation to help, while the other part is cheating on them and betraying them, often eventually leaving a lonely mother or father to bring up their children as if their children would be a piece of dirt. The only attempts the civilization has done to allow a separation of income and sexual attraction were cultures such as that of the hippies, involving problematic family situations with people cheating on each others to the left and right and abusing partners who would bring an income to them in the manner I described above, creating a quite disgusting situation for some who had to suffer both a broken heart, betrayal and backstabbing at the same time, and further humiliation and fear due to the fact that they had no method whatsoever of getting out of the hell that their situation was, and it also resulted in a wave of increase in the spreading of STDs, which is the black death of our days.
I understand where you coming from. Fair call in all honesty.
or make some end up marrying the first one who actually asks, rather than the one they would most of all want to be asked by, because fear prevents those who should from asking.
I know all about that (not in a marriage sense though, just a dating sense). :shame:
But ... I can only echo the words of SFTS (and others).
Thats sad. I mean of course youre gonna get knocked back a few times but thats what makes it fun! Everyone has a someone, you just need to throw your ancedtoal evidence out the window and go for it!
@ Andres, you truly are TheCunning. :laugh4:
@ IrishArmenian
A) Are thick skinned
B) Witty
C) Like to Drink
D) If you are sober, look for a bit of physical attraction.
You and I think alike, but IMHO they have to be smart too (but being witty usually means they are).
@ Caravel, that girl sounds like a Breezer slut too me. :no:
@ Fragony
Just remember that you are unique, like everybody else.
No one more unique than you. ~;) :yes: :laugh4:
@ Banquo's Ghost (again)
Surely the wish of a young girl to be careful and take things slowly is not a circumstance for ridicule? I find it rather refreshing to hear of a girl who is not drinking herself into insensibility and licentiousness.
[...]
Holding hands is a clear sign of intimacy between friends. Rather too many young men assume that the next step should be bed.
In a society where relationships are often expected to result in sex very early, it may be a sensible choice to keep things friendly and non-physical early on. She may also be religious, and is following her moral guidelines.
I wish my friends would hear such wisdom as this.
(Now there's a word I bet you young fellas don't hear very often. )
Yes your right; I never hear or see any antonyms such as personal restraint or moral perseverance being observed nor practised
Finally, in my limited experience (only 16 years) I have found just what Wakizashi said, it comes when least expected. And you all speak of desire, I find it works like respect; as in both benefactors must have it for it to truly work.
Its a problem got a wife and play your games.
I'll be single at the moment.
Long live the modding!
Thats the reason why i am still single
IrishArmenian
01-04-2007, 17:20
It would save me having to get the shotgun out every time she had a boyfriend. :beam:
I would do that just for fun.
Samurai Waki
01-04-2007, 18:57
I'm going to commit both of my girls to the nunnery :laugh4:
If in the future I have a male heir, he'll be playing on the other side of the fence.
You forgot to add: "Watching "Beauty and the Nerd" with her, pretending you like the program, instead of playing M2TW". GAH!! Television makers! Put them on the stake and burn them ! GAH ! On the other hand, she has to sacrifice herself too sometimes: go out twice a week at 7.00 AM running with your husband who for once remembered something you said: "I am too fat, I want to exercise. We should do some sport together" That'll teach her! Beauty and the Nerd. GAH !
Andres - you truely understand
now if you'll excuse me I promised to go on a bike ride around the river because my wife felt 'we' werent getting enough excersize :laugh4: :laugh4:
AntiochusIII
01-05-2007, 13:15
I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.
I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness. :balloon2:
I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.
I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness. :balloon2:
Well at 17 you've got plenty of time for that. It may be that your life is occupied with other pursuits?
I'm seventeen and haven't been head over heels in love (or a crush) in years.
I feel heartless, which is the worst of broken-heartedness. :balloon2:
I'm in the same situation.
IrishArmenian
01-06-2007, 03:01
Well at 17 you've got plenty of time for that. It may be that your life is occupied with other pursuits?
At 17, I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend (which DID happen, and now I have this ball and chain), I was chasing... well, *****.
Del Arroyo
01-06-2007, 04:04
I dunno about women. For me it all used to be about comforting my insecurities. Then I met one girl who really loved me and that pretty much took care of my insecurities.
Problem was I wasn't all that crazy about her, but when I dumped her she just wouldn't go away, and I didn't really have to heart to just keep turning her away, so now really my question is should you marry someone comfortable and loving and who, though there is great sexual chemistry, really doesn't light your fire... or should you hold out for someone who makes you feel all those exciting falling-in-love feelings?
It kills me. I can't bear to break her heart, but at the same time I can't help but feeling there is someone else out there for me. Not that there's a lot of opportunity to meet that person either where I'm at or the places I'll be going over the next two or three years. And she is far, far away. So really this is all sort of idle speculation.
IrishArmenian
01-06-2007, 05:12
Are you married now?
Yes. It has yet to get too bad, seeing as it was 6 months ago.
Yes. It has yet to get too bad, seeing as it was 6 months ago.
My condolences.
Philippus Flavius Homovallumus
01-06-2007, 23:27
I dunno about women. For me it all used to be about comforting my insecurities. Then I met one girl who really loved me and that pretty much took care of my insecurities.
Problem was I wasn't all that crazy about her, but when I dumped her she just wouldn't go away, and I didn't really have to heart to just keep turning her away, so now really my question is should you marry someone comfortable and loving and who, though there is great sexual chemistry, really doesn't light your fire... or should you hold out for someone who makes you feel all those exciting falling-in-love feelings?
It kills me. I can't bear to break her heart, but at the same time I can't help but feeling there is someone else out there for me. Not that there's a lot of opportunity to meet that person either where I'm at or the places I'll be going over the next two or three years. And she is far, far away. So really this is all sort of idle speculation.
Do you care for her? If you do then you're in love, because all it is is a combination of attraction and caring. You might have passed through the lovy-dovy phase already and not realised it.
Me, I developed a crush on a girl at 14, we developed a friendship, unfortunately at the same time I fell in love with her. By the time I was 16 my brain had turned off to all other women, I could barely speak and my backbone had become a pile of jelly, I'd do anything for her. Worse, my infatuation was an open secret but every time I tried to tell her how I felt she would turn the conversation.
Predictably it ended badly, I had an emotional breakdown, went a bit nuts, confessed everything very publically and I have niether seen nor spoken to her for three and a half years. She said she needed space, which is code for "leave me alone you freak."
Anyway, it took me about three months to put myself back together and I am now a far grimmer and less romantic person. I also haven't been able to develope a real attraction to another woman since.
What do you think its better.
Live with parents
Live alone
Live with a wife
Strike For The South
01-09-2007, 00:40
Live were youre most happiest.
:gah: I want to live alone, but im living with parents.
Live with the parents
Nah thats like this adult infant thing - no freedom - and any girl will run screaming from a grown man still under his Mommys apron. I lived with my parents till 17 - leaving was the best thing I couldve done as far as my development into a man
Live alone
did this for a while, and it still holds attraction, every time I feel I wish I could not bother to cook and clean. problem with it is you can become a bit self orientated - you like things a certain way, and it gets harder and harder to learn to share or change. also you can become a bit cut off and stop going out and mixing, cause your so much nicer than those people you used to call friends, and besides your not alone youve got you, yourself, and I to keep you company and your cat, Mr tinkles, to kkep you company. Seen a couple of friends get alot fatter and well see a lot less of them now (their choice) .
Live with wife
again your life is not your own, this is my current status, it allows me some me time (not with kids - if you have them), not as much as Id like but then theres no quiet silence when the tv/radio gets turned off either.
As the SftS above said whatever makes you happy, but beware of the pitfalls of the first two. Because they seem ideal till you wake up 45, fat, and single, and wish it were not so.
no freedom
Agreed.Always happens the same thing.
Strike For The South
01-09-2007, 04:05
If you liv ewith your folks when your younger the lasses wont run away. Now if youre still attached to them then mabye
Live were youre most happiest.
:yes:
EDIT: This topic leads me to share to things regarding women I find:
I am more scared of what I might gain than loss (seems odd I know :shrug:)
And I hate it when chicks are surrounded by their friends (or parents for that matter :wall:), it makes talking to them so GAH! damn hard.
Del Arroyo
01-09-2007, 16:34
Meh. There are a lot of places in the world where its totally normal for children to live with their parents until they are married. They are either in their parent's family home, or away at school, or they are in their own new family home.
In alot of ways this is less wasteful.
doc_bean
01-09-2007, 17:05
Ah love, such a difficult subject. I remember the last time I was really in love (with my current gf) I just felt sick most of the time (really, it was love, not something I ate). Not as bad as a crush I had before that though, my brain would literally short circuit at times, and I literally couldn't think of anything besides her. Good thing love fades.
Now I'm in a relationship were most of the early love has faded, and we now have a 'mature' relationship which is more about caring for eachother and consideration than whatever romantic crap you do when your first in love (yes, there is still sex).
I don't agree with the poster who said that if you have any doubts you should bail. In any mature relationship people are going to have doubts, eternal love like in the movies is just an illusion, a relationship is a bumpy road. You have to decide whether or not the relationship is worth the 'discomfort'. Only then can/do you really chose for a relationship with a person.
That said, it's often indeed better to call it quits, certainly when you're still very young. Have some fun with it, get some life experience.
To those who feel they have lost the ability to love: are you sure it isn't about hormones that have settled down a bit ? Everything is more intense when you're young and they're racing through your body.
Oh, and to the OP, if you really want this girl than just for it, if it works out then it works out, if it doesn't, it doesn't. At least you can say you tried.
It's almost always better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't.
Meh. There are a lot of places in the world where its totally normal for children to live with their parents until they are married. They are either in their parent's family home, or away at school, or they are in their own new family home.
In alot of ways this is less wasteful.
In some places it is normal for people to live with their parents even after they are married. It's all about setting boundaries I suppose. I know a 60+ year old woman who had a successful business and *still* lets herself be ruled by her mother (she's a lesbian, her mother doesn't approve, ugly story really). Sometimes moving out doesn't even solve the problem.
Too bad society places so much emphasis on 'my house, my rules', which means most people are desperate to move out at 18 (or earlier), even if there is still love and a connection, people just need (emotional) space to grow.
It's almost always better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't.
:bow: (Said by the Butthole Surfers in one of their songs IIRC)
Anyone who has ever contracted mystery meat making you piss needles will tell you that it simply isn't true :embarassed:
doc_bean
01-10-2007, 14:45
Anyone who has ever contracted mystery meat making you piss needles will tell you that it simply isn't true :embarassed:
ALMOST always.
It's an excuse for taking a chance, not for being stupid :laugh4:
AntiochusIII
01-10-2007, 14:55
:bow: (Said by the Butthole Surfers in one of their songs IIRC)I'd make an exception for having sex in a balloon for that statement.
Which leads to another point, some people probably think their relationships are equivalent to having sex in a balloon.
:)
It's an excuse for taking a chance, not for being stupid :laugh4:
Well chances are that I am stupid. And I once shot myselve in the eye with a condom, that must be god saying to stop trying.
I'd make an exception for having sex in a balloon for that statement.
Okay, right.
And I once shot myselve in the eye with a condom, that must be god saying to stop trying.
:laugh4:
Shaka_Khan
01-11-2007, 05:05
I'm still scared of her. :hide:
IrishArmenian
01-11-2007, 05:12
Ah love, such a difficult subject. I remember the last time I was really in love (with my current gf) I just felt sick most of the time (really, it was love, not something I ate). Not as bad as a crush I had before that though, my brain would literally short circuit at times, and I literally couldn't think of anything besides her. Good thing love fades.
Due to the fact that my wife and I have terrible Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, we never had that problem.
Don't be scared, Shaka. "What do you do when fear looks at you in the eye? You spit in his face and tell him to go to hell!"--Family saying.
I'm still scared of her.
Understandable, but buck up, breath deep and stand tall.
Shaka_Khan
01-11-2007, 06:10
Understandable, but buck up, breath deep and stand tall.
Ok. I will.
Well, looking at your avatar, you have a full head of hair and good shoulders. And probably a nice disposition as well. :yes:
Just remember that you are unique, like everybody else.
Thanks. When in doubt, I read what you say, and I feel fine.
~:mecry:
:sweatdrop:
~:mecry:
I have to admit; she has made me into a very pathetic man.
Ah the pain. :shame: I'm feeling some pain right now. :bigcry:
To make a long story short I really liked a girl, but she never would go out with me for some reason or another and then one day she moved away. After a while the pain went away and I figured I'de never have to see her again. Well guess what I thought wrong. She moved back here now, but hopefully I'm over her, but you never know. :bigcry:
Rodion Romanovich
01-12-2007, 10:36
New name Csar? :yes: ~:)
New name Csar? :yes: ~:)
Thnx for pointing that out Legio :bow:
I was wondering, who's that Ichigo guy? Those sigs sound familiar, I'm sure I have seen the "vote Sasaki" thingies once before, I've seen that avatar everywhere on this board, but who the **** is that guy?
I almost said "welcome back Ichigo"... :embarassed:
Major Robert Dump
01-12-2007, 12:53
I had sex with a balloon once
At 17, I wasn't really looking for a girlfriend (which DID happen, and now I have this ball and chain), I was chasing... well, *****.
You often find it when you're not looking for it. I ended up getting married when I was younger to a girl I met at college. That went badly wrong, in too many ways to list, she had issues and was very paranoid so we had to separate and divorce after about two years of trying to live together. After that I opted for the single life. This didn't go to plan either, and while on my travels in foreign parts some years later, I met my second wife, whom I am still with. I like being with her, but not the married part, that was her idea. Marriage doesn't really interest me. Don't get me wrong I'm loyal but I hate the imprisoned feeling. I'm not religious so it's just a piece of paper. Almost every day I still yearn for freedom, thinking of the places I could go and see. Nowadays I simply don't have the available funds for this. Once you're married you never seem to stop paying out. :wall:
New name Csar? :yes: ~:)
Yep. Figured I needed a change.
Strike For The South
01-13-2007, 01:13
I had sex with a balloon once
Only once?
It's almost always better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't.
:yes:
And I once shot myselve in the eye with a condom, that must be god saying to stop trying.
:laugh4:
You often find it when you're not looking for it.
so true.... although that can be a good thing
very sad topic :no:
I had sex with a balloon once
:no:
I fall in love with someone...who lives very very far.GAH!
What pain, what pain.
Hmm, what I can say is that I'll probably won't ever have my heart broken again... truly, to have your heart broken, one must have one first, and throughout time I have none left (or very very little). Nope, what I have left is an engine instead of a heart, and black oil 'stead of red blood, and an organic CPU-like device in my head 'stead of a human brain. That's what things, figuratively speaking, can do to a suffering person (not just love, btw).
Sometimes I'm so cold, negative, or sarcastic, that when somebody offers me flowers, I ask where the coffin is that goes with them :P or a reply like "Thanks, thanks very much. Now I'm still missing a coffin..... and my corpse."
If that ain't negative, I don't know what is :P
doc_bean
01-20-2007, 16:40
ARGH !!!
Not me that's broken hearted but I feel like venting:
A friend of mine recently broke up with his girlfriend of about 2 years, just before the holidays. He was one of my best friends a few years ago, but then he got a job and moved back with his parents and I continued studying, so I haven't seen him in a long time. Still, when i recently thought about who my real friends were his name was on the list (on a side note: i really should see these people I call friends more often, damn).
He met the girl through a mutual friend of ours, who also happens to be my girlfriends brother. He's been terribly heart broken since she broke up with him. He asked me if I wanted to go out tonight (is there a way to say that without making it sound gay btw ?) and I had to decline, and i'm feeling really guilty about that now.
The reason I *had* to decline ? The guy who introduced them to eachother (my brother in law, as we sometimes jokingly put it) seems to be going after his ex, and he didn't waste any time either. I know that if I saw my friend I'd end up telling this OR feeling really guilty about keeping this from him. If I'd tell him I'm not sure what would happen, he'd probably be even more depressed, might get mad at the other guy and have me totally between a rock and a hard place.
Other people's love lives are so complicated :no:
Philippus Flavius Homovallumus
01-21-2007, 14:15
Doc, rule of thumb:
Do the honourable thing. Tell the friend who isn't trying to jump into his mate's ex's pants what's going on. The other guy doesn't deserve a second of your time, even if he is your girlfriend'd brother.
Tell your gf what you're going to do and why. She may not like it but she should be able to appreciate why it should be done if she herself is worth it.
Doc, rule of thumb:
Do the honourable thing. Tell the friend who isn't trying to jump into his mate's ex's pants what's going on. The other guy doesn't deserve a second of your time, even if he is your girlfriend'd brother.
Tell your gf what you're going to do and why. She may not like it but she should be able to appreciate why it should be done if she herself is worth it.
I disagree
for the following reasons
1. He already said he hadnt seen the guy in a while - chances are you were prolly gunna lose touch with this guy - different lives growing apart. So in the long term in will hurt you less not to tell this guy anything.
2. Its none of his business - if this chick dropped him for another guy - then she was going to drop him 'fullstop', if it wasnt for the brother in law - then it woulda been someone else. For all he knows the friend couldve been a jerk toward her, and deserved it.
3. Blood is thicker than water - even blood in law - you said it yourself - chances are this guy will be your brother in law one day - best start by looking out for your kin. Mates are mates, blood is more than mates. And no your GF will not understand if you side with your mate over her brother - particularly if shes close to her brother.
my 5c - sometimes when relationships break up - the friends are forced to choose sides - sometimes the friends politc - ends up differently to how it began. If you didnt rush to console the guy, chances are you were thinking of cutting him lose already - sad but sounds inevitable to me. Better than damaging the relationship with your future brother.
edit: I couldve sworn this post didnt have this many typos when i firts read it..... is there such a thing as a naughty post fairy that adds typos to your posts when your not looking!!!
Marshal Murat
01-22-2007, 02:49
Argh, I hate my problem. Conundrum?
I like a girl, and we enjoy talking about stuff (politics, my third love after military history, I digress) making snide jokes about said stuff, and I enjoy talking to her, don't know about visa versa. I feel really bad about helping her with homework, just because I've got the concept of 'under your own steam'.
However, the massive stumbling block is that she already has a boyfriend. They like each other (duh), and they seem to enjoy being together.
Now, I have a split idea on the situation. One side says 'go all in' and ask her to cheat on aforementioned boyfriend, go to movies, and let life roll on. The other says to just give up, and to stop helping her with her homework.
:help:
Argh, I hate my problem. Conundrum?
I like a girl, and we enjoy talking about stuff (politics, my third love after military history, I digress) making snide jokes about said stuff, and I enjoy talking to her, don't know about visa versa. I feel really bad about helping her with homework, just because I've got the concept of 'under your own steam'.
However, the massive stumbling block is that she already has a boyfriend. They like each other (duh), and they seem to enjoy being together.
Now, I have a split idea on the situation. One side says 'go all in' and ask her to cheat on aforementioned boyfriend, go to movies, and let life roll on. The other says to just give up, and to stop helping her with her homework.
:help:
I dunno dude sounds like your one of her 'friends' - in which case you dont have a cinders chance in snow of being any more than that.
Either way you dont want to be 'one' of this girls so called guy 'friends' if you want it to be more
the other possibility is shes keeping you online out of interest for you.
my advice would be:
tell her your starting to have feelings for her and therefore - it wouldnt be fair for you to continue helping her with her homework - because you you couldnt be with her and true to youself at the same time.
this will cause either of 2 consequences
1. She will go 'ewww' and distance herself from you - in which case you have your answer and dont have to waste anymore time helping her with homework
2. She will drop said BF and start hanging out with you
either way you avoid the undesirable position of 'endless holding of candle' - which imo should be avoided at all costs
I just saw this thread now, and I hope your doing better by this time. It sucks, I know... oh do I. I know this hardly helps now, but you will get over it. It just takes a time, which is various depending on the situation. I'm sorry you are in pain, I'll just say again, it will go away. I know it can suck.
ARGH !!!
Not me that's broken hearted but I feel like venting:
A friend of mine recently broke up with his girlfriend of about 2 years, just before the holidays. He was one of my best friends a few years ago, but then he got a job and moved back with his parents and I continued studying, so I haven't seen him in a long time. Still, when i recently thought about who my real friends were his name was on the list (on a side note: i really should see these people I call friends more often, damn).
He met the girl through a mutual friend of ours, who also happens to be my girlfriends brother. He's been terribly heart broken since she broke up with him. He asked me if I wanted to go out tonight (is there a way to say that without making it sound gay btw ?) and I had to decline, and i'm feeling really guilty about that now.
The reason I *had* to decline ? The guy who introduced them to eachother (my brother in law, as we sometimes jokingly put it) seems to be going after his ex, and he didn't waste any time either. I know that if I saw my friend I'd end up telling this OR feeling really guilty about keeping this from him. If I'd tell him I'm not sure what would happen, he'd probably be even more depressed, might get mad at the other guy and have me totally between a rock and a hard place.
Other people's love lives are so complicated :no:
Yes, I know what you mean. Big Big BIG pain in the ass sometimes.
Marshal Murat
01-22-2007, 04:38
Wow I actually feel better about myself.
And kinda weird about soliciting advice from people whose only relation is a game.
I think I'll get over it.
:dizzy2:
doc_bean
01-22-2007, 11:17
Argh, I hate my problem. Conundrum?
I like a girl, and we enjoy talking about stuff (politics, my third love after military history, I digress) making snide jokes about said stuff, and I enjoy talking to her, don't know about visa versa. I feel really bad about helping her with homework, just because I've got the concept of 'under your own steam'.
However, the massive stumbling block is that she already has a boyfriend. They like each other (duh), and they seem to enjoy being together.
Now, I have a split idea on the situation. One side says 'go all in' and ask her to cheat on aforementioned boyfriend, go to movies, and let life roll on. The other says to just give up, and to stop helping her with her homework.
:help:
My advice: leave her.
I had a friend in a somewhat similar situation, he did push on and eventually got the girl. Sounds nice doesn't it ? Not entirely. It took her a long while to make up her mind since she already had a boyfriend, and when searching her own feelings she 'cheated' on her boyfriend (they didn't have sex at that point afaik). Now, the problem with cheating seems to be that the first time is the hardest. My friend has to watch out a lot of times that she doesn't get too drunk and winds up flirting with other men (and more), there's just not enough trust in the relationship.
My advice: don't open the floodgates.
doc_bean
01-22-2007, 11:26
I disagree
for the following reasons
1. He already said he hadnt seen the guy in a while - chances are you were prolly gunna lose touch with this guy - different lives growing apart. So in the long term in will hurt you less not to tell this guy anything.
2. Its none of his business - if this chick dropped him for another guy - then she was going to drop him 'fullstop', if it wasnt for the brother in law - then it woulda been someone else. For all he knows the friend couldve been a jerk toward her, and deserved it.
3. Blood is thicker than water - even blood in law - you said it yourself - chances are this guy will be your brother in law one day - best start by looking out for your kin. Mates are mates, blood is more than mates. And no your GF will not understand if you side with your mate over her brother - particularly if shes close to her brother.
my 5c - sometimes when relationships break up - the friends are forced to choose sides - sometimes the friends politc - ends up differently to how it began. If you didnt rush to console the guy, chances are you were thinking of cutting him lose already - sad but sounds inevitable to me. Better than damaging the relationship with your future brother.
edit: I couldve sworn this post didnt have this many typos when i firts read it..... is there such a thing as a naughty post fairy that adds typos to your posts when your not looking!!!
Well, there's another issue, which both complicates matters and makes it easier. I talked about this with the gf and she doesn't think her brother will ever truly hook up with her. He seems to be trying (though the man is so closed you never really know what he's doing) but the feeling probably isn't mutual. She just wants a friend.
This makes it harder because in the end I'll probably end up with two unhappy friends. This makes it easier, because if I wait until I tell my other friend and if they didn't hook up he probably won't feel to bad about it. He'll probably say something about how it's natural everyone would want to hook up with such a great woman (yes, currently he's that bad).
So I'm glad I bought myself some time. I'll see how it turns out in a few weeks...
Philippus Flavius Homovallumus
01-22-2007, 14:00
Argh, I hate my problem. Conundrum?
I like a girl, and we enjoy talking about stuff (politics, my third love after military history, I digress) making snide jokes about said stuff, and I enjoy talking to her, don't know about visa versa. I feel really bad about helping her with homework, just because I've got the concept of 'under your own steam'.
However, the massive stumbling block is that she already has a boyfriend. They like each other (duh), and they seem to enjoy being together.
Now, I have a split idea on the situation. One side says 'go all in' and ask her to cheat on aforementioned boyfriend, go to movies, and let life roll on. The other says to just give up, and to stop helping her with her homework.
:help:
Been in almost that exact situation, if you want to see the worst case scenario look back a few pages at my confession.
Be honest with her, but tell her that you can't ask her to cheat. She'll either ditch the boyfriend or she won't if she doesn't make some space and go find someone else.
Wow I actually feel better about myself.
And kinda weird about soliciting advice from people whose only relation is a game.
I think I'll get over it.
:dizzy2:
Well, we, the wargamers are not robots, with lack of feelings.
I dont think you should stop talking with she.The fact if you fall in love of she doesnt mean you should send to the thrash all the good time you have talked with she.
Well, we, the wargamers are not robots, with lack of feelings.
I dont think you should stop talking with she.The fact if you fall in love of she doesnt mean you should send to the thrash all the good time you have talked with she.
*goes into Shakesperian mode*
IF YOU CUT US - DO WE NOT BLEED !!!!!
sorry couldnt resist :whip:
*goes into Roman mode*
IF YOY CUT US - WE ARE GOING TO UNLEASH THE HELL!!
:grin:
Gah!I still in love who lives abroad.That really sucks
dude
my sympathies
long distance relationship = life of denial & self flaggelation = endless torment of living hell = sucks
dude
my sympathies
long distance relationship = life of denial & self flaggelation = endless torment of living hell = sucks
I know.
What can I do?
Patriarch of Constantinople
01-23-2007, 05:40
I know.
What can I do?
Does Argentina have women?
normally I would say these things are doomed (long dist rel)
but Im a very cynical old man
not knowing you or her I wont address this at your relationship but relationships in general
in general
1 year is tough for a married couple although not impossible
I have seen a friend do 1 year from his GF but they were the exception and I guess they always had a plan to get together and get married once his study was finished.
normally I would say for bf/gf - 3 months and the cracks will start to show (depending on how long you knew each other before you parted)
arguments over the phone.
paranoia about what the other person doing/feeling.
mixed communications/messages.
living your life on hold.
feeling estranged from your partner.
Im a big fan for living in the moment and enjoying the here and now, if you find each other again one day - fantastic - if not well you wont have spent ? long holding a candle for the other, which when you do finally get back together may not work - because youve both grown apart.
and if you are holding a flame - just make sure its not in vain.
hey that rhymes - Im a poet :yes:
Does Argentina have women?
Argentinian women are beauty.
Fisherking
01-23-2007, 19:10
If I were her father, I would be very proud. It would save me having to get the shotgun out every time she had a boyfriend. :beam:
ROFLOL!!! I actually did that…sat in my chair and cleaned my gun…But my favourite was one evening I cam home…from a military exercise in uniform (full field kit) and the four boys talking to my youngest daughter took off running…. Thank the all that they are now over 21 and one is married.
ICantSpellDawg
01-24-2007, 00:29
i find it easier to have no respect for anyone and say what you'd like, when you'd like. People flock to the strong (both the weak and the would be strong)
who is the king of your castle? everyone would kill to be the queen. no worries
Think of it this way (helped me):
If you didn't break up that girl, then none of the good stuff since would have happened, and you'd have missed out. Be that parties, other girls, opportunities or chances you wouldn't have taken.
Marshal Murat
01-24-2007, 00:38
Earlier in the year I like another girl, asked her out, went on a date, and then she stopped talking to me.
I didn't know what happened. It was just nothing. She didn't speak to me, call me, anything.
Then I tried to figure out what was wrong.
I have to say the silent treatment is terribly effective...
The end result is that I now know who she is, but don't speak to her, and have realized what an insane sort of person I was to like her.
I'm glad she stopped talking to me.
The end result is that I now know who she is, but don't speak to her, and have realized what an insane sort of person I was to like her.
You cant control your feelings, dont you?
I just saw this thread now, and I hope your doing better by this time. It sucks, I know... oh do I. I know this hardly helps now, but you will get over it. It just takes a time, which is various depending on the situation. I'm sorry you are in pain, I'll just say again, it will go away. I know it can suck.
Not when it pops up again outta no where.:dizzy2: :bigcry:
Not when it pops up again outta no where.:dizzy2: :bigcry:
It happens, Csar. Not much you can do about it without being immature. The feeling fades eventually, and you learn some nice TOUGH life lessons.
It happens, Csar. Not much you can do about it without being immature. The feeling fades eventually, and you learn some nice TOUGH life lessons.
It wouldn't be so bad if she would actually acknowledge my existence. And I kind prepared myself to never see her again and then she pops up outta no where. It just sucks. :bigcry: :thumbsdown:
Girls aren't worth being worked up over. You guys need hobbies or something.
Marshal Murat
01-24-2007, 04:49
You cant control your feelings, dont you?
That is a double negative.
Girls aren't worth being worked up over. You guys need hobbies or something.
No need to be harsh Gore.:bigcry:
Girls aren't worth being worked up over. You guys need hobbies or something.
I ahve one.We all have one here.
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