Ok hosting games nos But how...

This is about shogun total war warlord edition multiplayer de-syncronisation.

Ok im able to host games now using fakeserv2
(great program btw had been riping my hair out trying to get game to play over a vpn without using udp's)

But after chosing our armies and geting in to the game.
the game informs me.
"player name has gone out of sync and has been droped"
then i click begin battle and instantly win.
ping between us is on avarage 10ms.- 110ms
and we both use cable/adsl. All fire walls and routers are configured properly.

Is this a ttl problem with my dsl modem cos i can easily change that.

or is there a cfg or ini file for shogun total war warlord edition that i can edit so the game no longer says were out of sync.

(both games are patched exactly same and enter game but then 1 gets droped)

Any :help: with this problem would be greatfully received
Thanx.

P.s
Ii have shogun total war / and rome total war and i think
Shogun total war is the best out of the serize,
Is medievil more like rome total war or shogun total war?