Wow, just had a crazy conversation with the family

Regarding the Jews and Muslims, so this is very suited to the Back Room I think. Very odd, I was accused of being a humanist by my dad which is great cos I leapt on that statement and went 'Yes! I am a bloody humanist!', but still...

So, if I can recall correctly - My dad thinks Hitler was right in targetting the Jews, and equated their situation in Germany to the current situation with Moslems in Britain today, suggesting that British Moslems should be killed or expelled and their assets appropriated. I expressed my utter indignation at this to the point that the barman shouted out that he'd have to call the police if we continued - eek!

My sister is an evangelical Christian of persuadable morals and seems to think that the Moslems are out to create a Caliphate in her Yorkshire town. I have rather less-than-BNP morals, so the family didn't take too kindly when I suggested that they were perhaps stupid racists. I knew that my father had views aligned with the BNP when it came to Islam in the UK, but I had no idea he thought killing Jews was 'all right' if it meant the 'betterment' of the country in question..

So, has anyone else had to deal with relations who think they're right, despite their views being morally questionable and how did you deal with it? I've never had a barman threaten to call the police on me before (and I've never called my sister those names before either)! :o)

Just stand your ground, and don't compromise with anyone who advocates killing an entire ethnic group of people within your country. If it were to come down to war (which it bloody well won't) Say you'd fight them tooth and nail. If they have a problem with that, then they don't need to discuss it any further.

Uh, some elderly relations from South Africa, now deceased. They could be pretty awkward.

But nothing quite that extreme. They're your views, but don't allow them to distance you from your family. That's a painful direction that's really no fun to head off to.

Sorry. This will undoubtedly put a strain on things with the family. Intellectually and morally, of course, you are in the right -- but that won't make standing your ground any fun. Good luck to you.

I've got a sibling who defended Nazi Germany's invasion of Poland, to 'get back what was theirs' and lauded fascism as a means of government.
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Arguing with him is pointless - imagine the most stubborn, unwilling to change their opinion one iota poster here in the backroom and he's worse. If he gets it into his head that the sun is a blue cube, nothing will change his mind, including dragging him outside and forcing him to look at the sun.

Probably best just to let it go and not argue about it, if you want to stay close.

Crazed Rabbit

I had some arguments with my dad about the topic of muslims and terrorism and while we often started out flaming eachother I usually found out that we actually agree on most things. ~D

But politics shouldn't be a deviding factor, you can just agree to disagree and don't get too loud, try to make him feel bad about what he is thinking. Once he actually feels guilty, he should start giving in. :2thumbsup:
If you can't make him feel guilty, then I'm sorry for you, and him.

Another Moslem invasion thread? Where's Fragony?

The worst I've ever heard was from my uncle after World Cup 2006, really drunk:

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It's the Jews...th'm Jews...they why we always lose...

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Shhhh!

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Why is he driving?

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Thank God I've never had such a hateful relative.
My family is made up of actual Christians, you know, peace-advocating, tolerant, kind hearted people.

I have one truly extremist uncle. At my son's baptism, he interrupted the party by declaiming (loudly) about how America should be partitioned so that real patriots would not have to live in the same system as godless liberals. He also watches nothing but Fox news. Everybody should have a relative who lives on the political fringe; it's a handy reminder of the virtues of moderation.

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Another Moslem invasion thread? Where's Fragony?

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I understand that it is great fun to say, but if it are kudos you are craving for better get a webcam.

The worst i know of is my Grandfather, but it's only to be expected. He still thinks we have an Empire. He refers to the aborigines as "abbo's" and black people as "nignogs", just to state a few of the less distasteful things.

It's not that he has any problem with them, some of his best friends are black guys, it's just that he's stuck in the past when it comes to naming different races.

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The worst i know of is my Grandfather, but it's only to be expected. He still thinks we have an Empire. He refers to the aborigines as "abbo's" and black people as "nignogs", just to state a few of the less distasteful things.

It's not that he has any problem with them, some of his best friends are black guys, it's just that he's stuck in the past when it comes to naming different races.

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So?
If he is clearly not a racist and his friends know he's like that, who cares?
People who get all flustered by racial tags put too much stock in race full stop.

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The worst i know of is my Grandfather, but it's only to be expected. He still thinks we have an Empire. He refers to the aborigines as "abbo's" and black people as "nignogs", just to state a few of the less distasteful things.

It's not that he has any problem with them, some of his best friends are black guys, it's just that he's stuck in the past when it comes to naming different races.

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My English grandmother is kind of similar. She loves Jazz, Big Band Swing and Blues and calls black people 'negros'. Not because she means anything unpleasent by it, it's just that that's what she's always known them as.

I agree with Bopa in that PC is just going a bit too overboard. There are people who use such names with malice and intent to offend but people such as my grandmother aren't in that category.

As to the opening post, my Dutch grandfather is someone who I respect immensely and I have always gotten on well with him. We do however disagree on one point, which is Maori claims to land and the treaty of Waitangi. He considers Maori wanting their land back as the same as what he saw in Indonesia and thinks it's just a few extremists who are playing the government to take as much as they can. I've tried explaining to him about it but it's like trying to draw blood from rocks :wall:.

So we disagree on that point but we still get on really well, despite his mildly imperialistic views. Just don't end up hating each other over it, after my grandfather realised I was not going to agree with him we just changed the subject and it never had the slightest affect on our relationship.

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A few years after my parents married, politics were banned from family events. My fathers side are evangelical conservatives, my mothers side are die-hard commies. It's a shame I wasn't around to see the carnage...

My sister fell in the trap once though, on the topic of gay marriage... It wasn't pretty...

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I understand that it is great fun to say, but if it are kudos you are craving for better get a webcam.

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You're right, that wasn't fair or nice at all. I'm sorry.

As per your suggestion for a web cam, I'm afraid I'm not fit to be a cam whore. :shame:

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Regarding the Jews and Muslims, so this is very suited to the Back Room I think. Very odd, I was accused of being a humanist by my dad which is great cos I leapt on that statement and went 'Yes! I am a bloody humanist!', but still...

So, if I can recall correctly - My dad thinks Hitler was right in targetting the Jews, and equated their situation in Germany to the current situation with Moslems in Britain today, suggesting that British Moslems should be killed or expelled and their assets appropriated. I expressed my utter indignation at this to the point that the barman shouted out that he'd have to call the police if we continued - eek!

My sister is an evangelical Christian of persuadable morals and seems to think that the Moslems are out to create a Caliphate in her Yorkshire town. I have rather less-than-BNP morals, so the family didn't take too kindly when I suggested that they were perhaps stupid racists. I knew that my father had views aligned with the BNP when it came to Islam in the UK, but I had no idea he thought killing Jews was 'all right' if it meant the 'betterment' of the country in question..

So, has anyone else had to deal with relations who think they're right, despite their views being morally questionable and how did you deal with it? I've never had a barman threaten to call the police on me before (and I've never called my sister those names before either)! :o)

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May I ask if their sentiments are common in England? I find them somewhat surprising. Here in America, we tend to think of fascism and the holocost as something that is/was horrific.

I'm shocked that people would actually consider rounding up everyone of a certain race/creed/religion and have them deported or killed. That's a very "uncivilized" concept (no offense to your family).

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I'm shocked that people would actually consider rounding up everyone of a certain race/creed/religion and have them deported or killed. That's a very "uncivilized" concept (no offense to your family).

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It's unfortunately not very uncommon among european nationalists.

My upper middleclass master of science father sometimes say things like that to, but he likes jews and hates muslims (want to expell them or shoot them). I don't take those empty threats seriously, and neither should I. He is a good man.

My uncle is a damn funny guy. When he is drunk on a familymeeting, he sometimes takes me away and starts talking, in this man-to-man voice, how muslims shall not be trusted, and that they can invite you to a dinner just to stab you in the back. :laugh4:

I don't want Islam in Sweden, but violence is not the answer. :drama1:

Generally my family is very accepting of all races (Italian Grandpa and Irish Grandma, supposedly the two groups hated each others guts way back when:boxing: )and religions (agnostic Father and Catholic mother). But my dad seems to have a very set view of the middle east... and how it should be a smoldering wasteland of nuclear debris. I try to explain how those are people too, how most aren't terrorists, and how Europe and America were the people who screwed up the middle east in the first place. but he still harbors unconditional disdain... oh well.

Happily enough, no, not in the sense of racism or nazism. The biggest run-ins I've had with relatives is when they've revealed themselves as supporters to my team's rivals.

My grandmother can be a little suspicious about Fins though, always blaming them when something goes bad (a little pet peeve of her's is the Swedish former hockey player Tommy Salo, whom she has repeated times called "a Finnish agent"), and she's not on too nice terms with Russians either. More than once she's warned me that at any time we may see Russians marching down on us. But she's 90 or 91 years old, so I can forgive her for that. She's actually quite amusing when she talks of that, especially how she's so rigidly set in the belief that Finnish people are really not to trust. :)

My brother can be a pain when it comes to morals, though. More than once has he gone and awoken our parents to complain about how I, and I actually quote here with no alteration except translation: "don't respect other people's wish to sleep". :laugh4:

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Regarding the Jews and Muslims, so this is very suited to the Back Room I think. Very odd, I was accused of being a humanist by my dad which is great cos I leapt on that statement and went 'Yes! I am a bloody humanist!', but still...

So, if I can recall correctly - My dad thinks Hitler was right in targetting the Jews, and equated their situation in Germany to the current situation with Moslems in Britain today, suggesting that British Moslems should be killed or expelled and their assets appropriated. I expressed my utter indignation at this to the point that the barman shouted out that he'd have to call the police if we continued - eek!

My sister is an evangelical Christian of persuadable morals and seems to think that the Moslems are out to create a Caliphate in her Yorkshire town. I have rather less-than-BNP morals, so the family didn't take too kindly when I suggested that they were perhaps stupid racists. I knew that my father had views aligned with the BNP when it came to Islam in the UK, but I had no idea he thought killing Jews was 'all right' if it meant the 'betterment' of the country in question..

So, has anyone else had to deal with relations who think they're right, despite their views being morally questionable and how did you deal with it? I've never had a barman threaten to call the police on me before (and I've never called my sister those names before either)! :o)

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hmm my humble opinion is that when debating with someone with strong opinions it is best to remain incredably calm whatever they say. That way you can show how much their opinions are fueled by emotion rather then cold logic.

Also if they realy are christians they won't have a logical leg to stand on, all you need to do is quote:

Galatians 3:28 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)

Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society
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''28There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.''

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/...&context=verse

Im accepting of all races but I do think Im better thab you

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May I ask if their sentiments are common in England? I find them somewhat surprising. Here in America, we tend to think of fascism and the holocost as something that is/was horrific.

I'm shocked that people would actually consider rounding up everyone of a certain race/creed/religion and have them deported or killed. That's a very "uncivilized" concept (no offense to your family).

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No, they would be classed as "beyond the pale" my father is predudiced against non Westerners but it's worth pointing out that he's been all over the world and seen pretty much every colour and creed close up. I don't agree with the entireity of his analysis but his opinions do come from experience and they're not really severe.

To respond to the OP: It's worth remembering that all devout Muslims do in fact want to create a worldwide House of Islam in exactly the same way as most Christians would like to see everyone Christian. The only questions you need to ask are if you think it's likely and if it's a bad thing.

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My English grandmother is kind of similar. She loves Jazz, Big Band Swing and Blues and calls black people 'negros'. Not because she means anything unpleasent by it, it's just that that's what she's always known them as.

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Just as an aside, what would you call 'them' instead? I frequently use and have heard in use similar terms in Holland when referring to black friends without offense being taken; obviously not to strangers, but in the same sense as other distinguishing characteristics are used for other friends.

None of my kin have expressed racist or "unacceptable" views, at least not to my face. Though an old school friend who I encountered a few days ago has taken on board Neo-Nazi ethics since last we saw each other (about two years ago). Ejit even wears an SS badge on his collar. ~:rolleyes:

As far as family go, it's quite the reverse. They're mostly militant liberals.

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My English grandmother is kind of similar. She loves Jazz, Big Band Swing and Blues and calls black people 'negros'. Not because she means anything unpleasent by it, it's just that that's what she's always known them as.

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To the best of my knowledge, "negro" was not coined as a derogatory term. It derives from nigrum, the Latin word for black. It was the acceptable word for black people until the late 1960s. It's not offensive, just old-fashioned.

Still Lemur, I think most blacks in the USA would not take kindly to being called 'negro'.

Crazed Rabbit

I suspect most black people are sensible enough not to take umbrage at an 80-year-old granny saying how much she loves negro jazz, frankly. Times change, and we all make allowances for older folks.

Admittedly, it would be borderline creepy to hear a college student using the term. In much the same way it would be strange to hear a kid talking about those sizzlin' flappers giving us the high hat. Now you're on the trolley!

My father is a closet Nazi. We've had several discussions about the Holocaust and Israel. While he doesn't doubt that 6 million Jews died in WW2, he contends that those deaths were from warfare and says ethnic groups of all kinds lost millions in the war. He's very pro-arab(they were on the Nazi side) and blames terrorism today on the Jews and Israel, much like the left wingers on this board. He's very smart and I can show him all kinds of "evidence" that he always has a rebuttal to.

However, he keeps his personal beliefs very personal and doesn't let it affect his business relations... kinda reminds me of one of those guys in that terrible Ben Affleck movie where Baltimore gets nuke with a swastika on the back of his watch.. :laugh4: