need advice about gals

Actually re reading my post makes me feel sick, man i got it bad............. :laugh4:

Planning is good - it helps you examine and set priorities, and chart a path to a target. But remember to not stick to it too rigidly...."No plan survives first contact with the target". Keep the plan in mind, but be ready to wing it also.

No, I am definitely of the improvise school of thought here. You need a first sentence and/or excuse to talk to her at all, and you need an idea what you want to ask her to do (stop that sniggering in the Netherlands). Thats all.

Also if I may suggest ask her to do something that's not too hard work to start with. If you are a bit nervous, and think that maybe you could be witty and amusing for say half an hour tops, and after that you are worried, then go for a coffee (there's your half hour) and a movie (blessed silence, and something to talk about after). Go for a meal and you've got to make conversation for hours.

My advice is you DON'T need your mates, not if they were anything like my mates anyway.

And no disrespect and even noting that her Dad is in the Navy but I would tone down all the military stuff. Anyway, you should be asking her what she likes to do and how she feels about XYZ (Girls love questions about how they feel about things. ) Like I say, make her do the work. If you are asking her loads of sensible open ended questions and getting nothing but yes/no answers, then its a blow out anyway. You won't be able to turn it around no matter how brilliant your views on the demise of the big gun warship are.

Oh and by the way if she says something you don't agree with in response to your brilliant questioning do try to say "Yes I hadn't quite thought of it like that but don't you think..." rather than just telling her she's dumb. Even if she is dumb. ESPECIALLY if she is dumb.

Ask her out just do it. If she says no then just move on. If someone cant except someone for what they really are then theres no point doing it. In other words just go for it and be yourself !

well before you ask her, take some flowers, aka roses, to give her when you ask her out. Let her now were is going to be and who's paying ~D

but most important, if this girl likes you for being yourself, then be yourself, and yeah flirt a bit too.

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Originally Posted by AggonyKing

well before you ask her, take some flowers, aka roses, to give her when you ask her out. Let her now were is going to be and who's paying ~D

but most important, if this girl likes you for being yourself, then be yourself, and yeah flirt a bit too.

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ayy my friend, great plan ~D Unless you get slapped in the face straight off the bat ~;) happened to one of my friends...I nearly died of laughter

Oh well, just ask...find something you both like and just get on with it :charge:

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Originally Posted by ah_dut

ayy my friend, great plan ~D Unless you get slapped in the face straight off the bat ~;) happened to one of my friends...I nearly died of laughter

Oh well, just ask...find something you both like and just get on with it :charge:

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yeah but I mean this kind of flirt "beautifull dress you're wearing today" "I really like that perfume" and "Your eyes are as beutifull as roses" yadayadadada ~D

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Originally Posted by Beirut

At the same time as you are asking her out, appear interested but not anxious. Almost as if you had a second date ready in case she says no.

If she says no, smile and just say, "Ok, but I hope you don't mind if I ask you again." Turn around, walk away and don't go anywhere near her for at least a week. Next time you see her, don't ask. Just smile, say hi, and leave like you have something to do. The next time you see her, gauge her reaction to you and decide if it feels right to ask again. Don't rush it!

If she says no again, smile, say something like "Too bad, I was looking forward to it. Oh well, take care." and walk away. Smile a warm friendly "too bad for you baby 'cause I'm fabulous" smile. Again, make a point of not seeing her again for at least another week. Never make her feel cornered or stalked.

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I can't lie, much more idiotic approaches worked on me as a high schooler. Go with Beirut.

Confidence is the best thing for "courting" lol.. go for it! :grin3: Good Luck! :laugh4:

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Originally Posted by Fragony

Kapo if you are a healthy young individual you couldn't care less about smart, cute and all these things that are supposed to be important. You want to get laid, and couldn't care less if it was her sister or even her mother. Be a jerk, They love that. When you finally say something nice she will think that all that jerkiness is just a facade and that you are in fact a caring person. Ha! A certain level of cynism is critical if you want to play.

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don't listen to him Capo he is just jealous because he never had a date

oke be subtle, nice and a gentlemen but not too much cuz they'll think you're a big slimeball, most of all be yourself don't do or say things that later on you can't fullfil.
also be funny and relaxed.

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Originally Posted by Proletariat

I can't lie, much more idiotic approaches worked on me as a high schooler. Go with Beirut.

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yeah do listen to beirut that was very good info

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Originally Posted by Proletariat

I can't lie, much more idiotic approaches worked on me as a high schooler. Go with Beirut.

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Oh alright, Kaiser, go with Beirut. Follow plan A to Z and if she doesn't play along and sees right through you, just throw a tantrum and hit her over the head with your handbag or high heels. She'll spank your butt before the entire restaurant and she'll wear the pants for the rest of your relationship.

Either that, or you give her the full Kaiser and show her you don't play games. Get under her skin, make her laugh uncontrollably, works wonders.

I can't say anything other than good luck. My history with girls is abysmal. But you obviously have a lot more confidence than me, which is deffiently a good start.

surely the easiest and most painless way is to get hideously but happily drunk (it also helps if you get her drunk) and forget about it in the morning?

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Originally Posted by Scurvy

surely the easiest and most painless way is to get hideously but happily drunk (it also helps if you get her drunk) and forget about it in the morning?

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GReatest laugh ever, last weekend, one of my mates was going to ask a girl out, but as he was making his way to her through a crowded pub, someone mushed him and he spilled half a pint of strong black Guiness all over her! ~:cheers: ~D

Talk about the dangers of alcohol. My mate still doesnt want to talk about it ~D

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Originally Posted by AggonyKing

yeah but I mean this kind of flirt "beautifull dress you're wearing today" "I really like that perfume" and "Your eyes are as beutifull as roses" yadayadadada ~D

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Don't even go down the perfume road. It brings such.....evil (but funny)....memories.......

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Originally Posted by AdrianII

Oh alright, Kaiser, go with Beirut. Follow plan A to Z and if she doesn't play along and sees right through you, just throw a tantrum and hit her over the head with your handbag or high heels. She'll spank your butt before the entire restaurant and she'll wear the pants for the rest of your relationship.

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I think Beirut's approach is good because it is so obvious, besides we have a saying (you probably know) that roughly translates to 'he who persists wins'. I've seen it happen before when guys tried to woe a girl for nearly a year before they caved, and they're still together now, a few years alter.

But getting drunk is a much easier way though, I started my relationship that way ~:cheers:

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Get under her skin.

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He already said that wasn't his intention...

And Capo 4"10' ? How old is she ?

15 a year older then me.
And Frag...


A mans life is in phases, which in turn are in phases. The era before a man turns like 24 consists of being a baby, then a small child, then a horny bastard (usually Hight Scholl Years lol) and then normal maturness. I passed the horny bastard stage about.. 2 years ago. I really couldn't care less about gettin laid (and since I turned down a perfect oppertunity, ie some chick asked me to screw her brains out, it's apperent I've moved on), I must not be healty!

Run! Run away before you lose your soul to her.
People don't grow old because of their genes. It's because of so much stress and depression from the suffering of their lives.

Hey, I'd rather lose my soul to her than anyone else.
Except for maybe Jesus and the Saints, but that's a different story.

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Originally Posted by AdrianII

Oh alright, Kaiser, go with Beirut. Follow plan A to Z and if she doesn't play along and sees right through you, just throw a tantrum and hit her over the head with your handbag or high heels. She'll spank your butt before the entire restaurant and she'll wear the pants for the rest of your relationship.

Either that, or you give her the full Kaiser and show her you don't play games. Get under her skin, make her laugh uncontrollably, works wonders.

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Well, yeah. That's why I recommend Beirut's method for during high school.

:gring:

oh and Adrian there is NO WAY I will take off my pants while in public areas. Thank you.

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I really couldn't care less about gettin laid (and since I turned down a perfect oppertunity, ie some chick asked me to screw her brains out, it's apperent I've moved on), I must not be healty!

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Two things you never hear on a deathbed:

"I wish I'd spent more time at the office" and "I wish I slept with fewer women".

Take my career advice, young dudes. Find out where the good looking women go, and go there too. Trust me on this. Even if it means working in advertising (have you SEEN advertising girls? Wow.)

Not terribly helpful to Capo's problem right now, sorry.

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I think Beirut's approach is good because it is so obvious, besides we have a saying (you probably know) that roughly translates to 'he who persists wins'

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This too is true though you have to know the difference between persistance and stalking.

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Originally Posted by Kaiser of Arabia

oh and Adrian there is NO WAY I will take off my pants while in public areas. Thank you.

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If she plays it right you won't even notice. ~D
But that's in case you're playing games, which you shouldn't. By the age of 17 most girls are sick and tired of their own 'hard to get' and 'what'll my friends say' games, they want the real thing. That's why they have been turning to older men through the ages.

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Originally Posted by Kaiser of Arabia

15 a year older then me.

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Thank god for that, i was hoping you weren't 30 or something, but I guess that rules out the get her drunk approach ~D

What???? It's a perfectly valid tactic and always works for me.

Seriously though, I never have a plan, the only advice I would give is make her laugh, if you can do that then your more than halfway there. I can still make my wife laugh after 6 years, and no Beirut not when I'm naked ~:eek: , when I can't do that anymore will be the day to call it quits.

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Kaiser of Arabia
I really couldn't care less about gettin laid (and since I turned down a perfect oppertunity, ie some chick asked me to screw her brains out, it's apperent I've moved on), I must not be healty!

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Ah, the innocence and idealism of the young, it won't last my friend.

I have to agree with King Edward's approach. Nothing like getting drunk and being a bit of an ass. Worked for me!

Course, the best thing is to be devasatingly handsome, disarmingly witty, outrageously rich... and, well - you get the idea. Pity I'm not those... people laugh at me though.

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Originally Posted by Kaiser of Arabia

15 a year older then me.
And Frag...


A mans life is in phases, which in turn are in phases. The era before a man turns like 24 consists of being a baby, then a small child, then a horny bastard (usually Hight Scholl Years lol) and then normal maturness. I passed the horny bastard stage about.. 2 years ago. I really couldn't care less about gettin laid (and since I turned down a perfect oppertunity, ie some chick asked me to screw her brains out, it's apperent I've moved on), I must not be healty!

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One very serious thing...this will never happen to me unless I date a dwarf due to the fact I am 5 inches shorter than you (yes people my height do exist outta nursery Kapo) But try not to appear intimadating at all, you have virtually a foot or more in height so you'll naturally appear domineering without trying (unless you're BKS at 6 foot and weigh less than I can bench press)

One other thing dude...smile ~D ~D ~D :duel:

Be pleasant, be kind, be horny. :bow: