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1)Replace her birth control pills with sleeping pills. ~;)Quote:
1)She takes birth control pills
2)That's wrong
3)I hate kids.
2)It's not wrong if you mean it. ~:)
3)You put the kids up for adoption. Problem solved! :bow:
Now if you'll excuse me I'm gonna go get more drunk. :barrel:
@BKS: I'm trying to be funny, don't raise my warn level!
!BP! :wacky:
I wasn't going to warn you. That last, however, sounds like a challenge... :charge:Quote:
Originally Posted by Byzantine Prince
What i have read above, it seems to me that you really have strong feelings for each other.My only advice in that kind of situation is that if you really want to know the truth.Push her against the wall mentally.Be brutally honest about your feelings towards her.If that makes her to distance herself from you,then my friend.Its not worth it.This way you can be shure about the situation.This might hurt like hell,but then you know and you can go on with your life. :bow:
I told her I love her and why I do to the best of my understanding that words can convey anyway. And I don't like the idea of pushing her around. And thanks kagemusha :bow:Quote:
Originally Posted by kagemusha
Well come on. What happened, what did she say?
I told her that awhile ago before this happened, and she said that she loves me and that she still loves me. I am a part of her, a part which she wishes to be rid of but not yet.Quote:
Originally Posted by ColdKnight
Edit: Oddly, Saturday she seemed so certain so willing to move to change. Sunday, she didn't. I kind of wish she would make a decision, since the waiting in limbo is painful, but I may learn from that pain so it could be a good thing.
Hmm.... that is a very perplexing answer. A very hard one to decipher.
There's still the sleeping pills. Just sayin....... ~D
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but I may learn from that pain so it could be a good thing
It's hard to convey meaning in short posts (at least it is for me) but I think we are seeing (and saying) the same thing. With you she feels comfortable, maybe even encouraged, to let her tendencies prevail. She may be worried that if she changes then either her connection to you will be lost, or that you too will be changed, and she may not want to be responsible for that.Quote:
I don't think I bring out the 'interesting' in her life. For her her violent tendencies are the norm(at least some are). And they are rather subtle also and directed toward herself generally.
Ask yourself, and maybe ask her, if the connection between you is based on behavior or on the deeper feelings that drive behavior. The superficial can't survive the changes that are inevitable, the deeper feelings can be actually intensified through change.
ichi :bow:
I think I understand it. She loves the violent and destructive part of her, but she thinks that it isn't conductive to her future well being(for example she has always deliberately hurt the guys she's been with after awhile. I directly encourage this behavior, believe it or not). She said that being with her old boyfriend makes her very happy(although she also said he was being a jerk just before they broke up and in the interm was deliberately cruel to her), and that she wants to have a normal relationship at last(never mind what I think of normalness).Quote:
Originally Posted by ColdKnight
Sleeping pills put her out for days at a time....Quote:
There's still the sleeping pills. Just sayin.......
Yes, that is true, at least lately. She does feel that I don't oppose her violence, indeed in some cases I encourage it. And yes, she does feel that if she changes I will be lost(either the relationship is changed thus ruin or she lets go), but I don't think that she thinks that I too would change. That would I think be a surrenduring to society and to weakness and a betrayal of myself. NOTHING is worth the last in that series. Besides, she wishes that I don't change.Quote:
It's hard to convey meaning in short posts (at least it is for me) but I think we are seeing (and saying) the same thing. With you she feels comfortable, maybe even encouraged, to let her tendencies prevail. She may be worried that if she changes then either her connection to you will be lost, or that you too will be changed, and she may not want to be responsible for that.
I think that her eventual objective is to change those deeper feelings. If they survive, I think she thinks she will revert, or at least leave her old boyfriend in hopes of being with me.Quote:
Ask yourself, and maybe ask her, if the connection between you is based on behavior or on the deeper feelings that drive behavior. The superficial can't survive the changes that are inevitable, the deeper feelings can be actually intensified through change.
And thanks ichi, really. :bow:
Either way, Good luck man. Shit like this is tough, you just gotta hope for the best.
I'll say a prayre, if that makes any difference.
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Originally Posted by Kaiser of Arabia
Thanks Kaiser. I appreciate it.
She says she misses me.
Not a problem, Discovery. I just hope that everything works out.
I wish I could give better advice, but relationships isn't somthing I have too much experience with, all I can say is that in the end, you'll turn out stronger because of this, no matter how it works out.
Thanks for the support. I know I will, it hurts after all.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaiser of Arabia
maybe someday you'll come up to Brianhead to go 'boarding, we can hook upQuote:
And thanks ichi, really.
ichi :bow:
Thanks. I'll remember that. :bow:Quote:
Originally Posted by ichi
I wonder when was the last time I cried?
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=she_falls_softly
I'm not, at least I think that applies to me. I wish she would contact me. Now I don't know if I should remain silent hoping that she will contact me, or do it myself.Quote:
I appreciate your silence, I honestly do. It means the world to me that you are so willing to let go.