It's unavoidable when it's unavoidable. Each set of circumstances is different and specific. If I can walk away from a situation without engaging in violence, then it's avoidable. If I cannot, then it's unavoidable.Quote:
Originally Posted by Raz
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It's unavoidable when it's unavoidable. Each set of circumstances is different and specific. If I can walk away from a situation without engaging in violence, then it's avoidable. If I cannot, then it's unavoidable.Quote:
Originally Posted by Raz
I thought you carried a massive axe everywhere you went? How do you resist? :inquisitive:Quote:
Originally Posted by Beirut
I'm old enough and (barely) wise enough to know the true evils of violence. I find the idea of hurting another person for reasons of ego to be a shameful and shallow and often cowardly act. If someone wants to impress me with how tough they are, they can show me how well they work, how well they deal with responsibility, and how well they keep their word.Quote:
Originally Posted by Caledonian Rhyfelwyr
I'm having a beer and I have the time, so I'll tell you a story (I might have told it before) about a guy who "bullied" me at work. At the log yard, we had these two twins working for us, both were a good 6'2", pretty big and pretty tough. Half French/Half Irish. One of the guys was (mostly) ok, the other wasn't. The nasty guy was a real bar fighter and big mouth, he liked to bump into me in the yard when he walked past me, and he'd always make comments, like "Where's your purse?" or "Oh, you're using the woman's tools." Stuff like that. In a fight with this guy, I would have come off badly, I'm sure.
One day he did something, I don't remember what, and I had enough. I went over to a pile of pine logs we used for the houses, picked out a decent sized piece, maybe seven feet long and about a foot across. I put it on my shoulder, and walked up the small hill in the yard ,down the hill, across the yard (maybe 200') and back. (At this point the rest of the guys have come over to watch.) When I got back, I dropped the log at the guy's feet and said, "Until you do that, you're my *****."
Well, the guy picked up the log and put it on his shoulder, turned beet red, walked up the small hill, back down, and dropped the log and nearly collapsed. Now my buddy comes over, says "There's nothing Beirut can do that I can't." He picks up the log, up the hill, down the hill, across the yard and back.. Then my boss does it. Then my other buddy does it except on the way back across the yard he jogs with the log. This guy is tough. By this time we barely notice that the big bar fighting tough guy has gotten in his car and left. He never bugged me after that.
In a fight I'm sure I would have gotten the worst of it, but as a worker, I could leave him in the dust five times over. I'm not sure what the moarl is here other than fighting isn't everything, and bullies can be put in their place without violence.
How are the sambo schools in Argentina?Quote:
Originally Posted by Whacker
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75gw...eature=related
Who needs Vin Diesel when you have students of those kinds of school?Quote:
Originally Posted by Evil_Maniac From Mars
/grabs coat
Well the dirty fighting is more of a last resort than anything, when you get to the point that your getting your face punched in anyway, and when it gets to the point that you could be the one walking away with the injury....
Yes! :wry:Quote:
Originally Posted by Beirut
Hey man, if you can't beat him at his game, then force him with his pride to contest against you in a game you're better at!
wow, I've never heard anyone say 'read Marx if you are being bullied' :clown:
My advice is use you friends. Try to stay close to them and if they are decent friends they will stand up for you, especially if they are pretty big. If you are physically bullied then it is a problem and you should either tell someone or fight back if you are confident enough you can deter them without serious injury to you or the bully. Throughout my school years I have avoided fights due to the fact that I don't want to get in trouble rather than scared I'll get hurt, but I have never hesitated to use force when I am certain it is necessary.
Marx presents one of the most easily understood explorations of power dynamics in groups and societies. Yeah, you aren't going to solve a bully issue by banding together with like minded proletariats, but boiled down to it's essence bullies are a social problem in the same way class exploitation is a social problem. :yes: :book:
:egypt:
I was like that, though not specifically with long-term bullying issues. I was never really scared of having a scuffle, but I lived in fear of doing the slightest thing wrong that could get me in trouble. :shrug:Quote:
Originally Posted by Elite Ferret