How wrong is it to fall in love with a girl who has a boyfriend...

Alright. I see multiple ways out of this, but then again, I am a sleazy /b/tard.

Step 1. Continue to pretend to be used
Step 2. Turn it all back on her in public, embarrasing her so much she never tries to work with you again
Step 3. ???
Step 4. Profit

Thats if you want to turn it back on her, if you actually want to have a relationship with her, then either stop her using you, to establish equal footing, or continue being used, but slowly stop it, so she thinks she still has control and maybe she might eventually love you.

That is all in the frame of mind that she doesnt like you, if she does, potential score?

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Originally Posted by pevergreen

Alright. I see multiple ways out of this, but then again, I am a sleazy /b/tard.

Step 1. Continue to pretend to be used
Step 2. Turn it all back on her in public, embarrasing her so much she never tries to work with you again
Step 3. ???
Step 4. Profit

Thats if you want to turn it back on her, if you actually want to have a relationship with her, then either stop her using you, to establish equal footing, or continue being used, but slowly stop it, so she thinks she still has control and maybe she might eventually love you.

That is all in the frame of mind that she doesnt like you, if she does, potential score?

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I think she kinda likes me (as a future opportunity, maybe) but the problem is she has a boyfriend. She may not be able cope with dating another guy and feel like a slut. So I have to make her choose me over her boyfriend in her sub-conscious mind. But I don't have the chance to see her like everyday. And if I call her she will run away. If I wait for her to call there will be too much time in between and I will not have the impact I need in her sub-conscious mind.

pity she was sweet

Alright, I take it that you want to go after her?

There is no problem man, I did this exact thing with my girlfriend, and we've been going out for nigh half a year now.

Keep in contact any way you can, I had to use MSN. I saw her once, for 20 minutes before I started going out with her (the next time we met up, I posted in another thread about it...i might go read it again, was funny)

Organise the meetings around the work, over time, just prove to her that she doesnt really get anything from her current boyfriend, that someone else (you) offers a lot better things for her. You already care about her etc. I had some help, she only saw him once a week. Find the critical weakness in the relationship and exploit it. Bring him into shame any way you can.

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Originally Posted by pevergreen

Alright, I take it that you want to go after her?

There is no problem man, I did this exact thing with my girlfriend, and we've been going out for nigh half a year now.

Keep in contact any way you can, I had to use MSN. I saw her once, for 20 minutes before I started going out with her (the next time we met up, I posted in another thread about it...i might go read it again, was funny)

Organise the meetings around the work, over time, just prove to her that she doesnt really get anything from her current boyfriend, that someone else (you) offers a lot better things for her. You already care about her etc. I had some help, she only saw him once a week. Find the critical weakness in the relationship and exploit it. Bring him into shame any way you can.

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the thing is the first part of her project is over and the next due time is in september and there is no way I can see her for work now... But I don't know what to do. She really needs me for the rest of it but if I don't see her for that long I will stop liking her and I really thought it would be great going out with her. and the worst thing is even if I do go out with another girl when she calls I will start wanting her again unless of course I really like the other girl.

So she has the strings because she knows I like her...
But if did not tell her I liked her then maybe she wouldn't be interested in meeting me outside of the work thing.

At this point does she know you like her? Those last two lines confused me a bit.

Take her out as a friend, in groups if you have to. The problem with advice from the .org is the culture barrier. Something acceptle in Australia, would not be in Sweden etc.

I suggest talking it over with a close friend, if nothing else, you share the load.

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Originally Posted by pevergreen

At this point does she know you like her? Those last two lines confused me a bit.

Take her out as a friend, in groups if you have to. The problem with advice from the .org is the culture barrier. Something acceptle in Australia, would not be in Sweden etc.

I suggest talking it over with a close friend, if nothing else, you share the load.

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I told her she has a very lucky boy friend the second time we met when she came over to my place to work. But I told her while taking her back to her home for she was in big stress at my place. After that she started to avoid me until we met on friday.

My friends have contradicting opinions naturally.
I must be patient I guess....

Do you know the boyfriend personally?

If you do, back off.

But if you dont, either go for her, or wait it out, your choice. Waiting it out will probably cause you to stop liking her enough to think about it, but if you really like her now, give it a while, even before you start with anyone else.

Just my advice. :bow:

Im off to bed now, 4am and all.

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Originally Posted by pevergreen

Do you know the boyfriend personally?

If you do, back off.

But if you dont, either go for her, or wait it out, your choice. Waiting it out will probably cause you to stop liking her enough to think about it, but if you really like her now, give it a while, even before you start with anyone else.

Just my advice. :bow:

Im off to bed now, 4am and all.

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no i dont know him...

i should give it a while unless she makes a move.

If she has a boyfriend and she's seeing you like that, I don't know about how you do things in Turkey, but here, that would be practically cheating - some other male seeing my girlfriend like that. Does her boyfriend know?

I really don't think she's worth your time. :shrug:

I know someday you'll have a beautiful life,
I know you'll be a sun in somebody else's sky, but why
Why, why can't it be, why can't it be mine


I guess that's it... she is running away too badly and I can't seem to have the power to run after her. I guess I am too sensitive for such a selfish girl.

Well I guess it's a tradition in Turkey that breakups/failures need to be crowned with that famous part of Pearl Jam's Black. I had got the same thing.

Quick recovery, mate.

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Originally Posted by LeftEyeNine

Well I guess it's a tradition in Turkey that breakups/failures need to be crowned with that famous part of Pearl Jam's Black. I had got the same thing.

Quick recovery, mate.

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but it's a great song...

what the hell I will make her be the sun in my sky I just have to be more patient... I guess...