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And heavily. I feel so bad, that nothing is going on for me at the moment. I have a bad cold momentarily, and recently I got a 4 out of 7 in history test. (mind you, it's a bad mark) And I've been spewing a lot of mean comments lately. :no:
Any help you can give?
Concentrate on things that make you happy.
Like the weather, it's just starting to get good.
Friends, good people like here on the org can make you feel better.
Alternatively an immersive game, if you really get into a gameworld, it can make you forget lots of things.
Have a cup of tea. Be mellow. And take comfort in the knowledge that someone you dislike is probably suffering more than you are at the moment.
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Originally Posted by Husar
Argeed.
Spend as much time at .org as you can and Eat Cashews and Milk :beam: :yes:
I just read your other "*****" and I can understand why you feel the way you do. I can't really understand them. Now I see it's more than just that. However don't feel sad, a nice freindly guy like you, even in bad moments. I know that all the frontroomers agree that your that guy. And I'm certain a lot of your real life freinds think the same. And with so many people behind you, you shouldn't fear. You should, like everyone should, smile. You have more reasons too, than you might think.
(Language - Beirut)
Edit: Sorry Beirut. I forgot to use them Asterisks.
I agree with Moros, you have to be of the guys with the best intentions on this forum. If we were to take a poll, I am sure that everyone would agree with that.
Just study more ~D
j/k
Just go out, relax from school.
just need to chill out and have some fun the lows make the highs all the better
drink beer (the only solution)
but what happens when your drunk is the only con to this pro solution.
~D
seriously, if u can consume alcohol, but not too much.
Go pick a fight on strong looking dude and get bashed up..
Thats what my dad told me to do when I was depressed.
Try something new and diffrent I suppose. Try break out of ordinary things and do something wierd (Try Shouting Haka, Dancing Butou, Spining and jumping around your back yard.Make sure you put your full effort in though)
If none of that works.. Watch a FMP fummofu (anime)
So true. :beam: Find a video on youtube that makes you laugh, watch it a lot :beam:Quote:
Originally Posted by Beirut
Bad idea.Quote:
Originally Posted by Boyar Son
The reasons are not doing quite well as I hoped to, as the change of educational systems has turned me with the bum to the sun and the face to the ground. My average is only 5.2 out of 7 (yes, that is quite bad for my standards) for the first marking period. And I got a bad mark at history just after I came back from vacation, to start the next marking period. (this week).
Plus other personal issues. Plus, I'm in love with someone.
The alternance makes me crumble. I have to fight with myself first...
My advice is to find something to take your mind off of being depressed. The more you think about it the worse it gets(at least that is the case with me).
Also, can we be of any help with your love life?
Be happy because you aren't alone. I have at least 6 major exams tommorrow which I don't know the material for!
To quote yourself:Quote:
Originally Posted by edyzmedieval
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Originally Posted by edyzmedieval
Exercise. Long and slow is best, running or biking a long distance. You'll get the endorphins and the associated benefits of physical activity, plus it'll make you tired enough to sleep well and worry free for a night. It's amazing how much a good night's sleep can help.
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It's been going on for the past week. I think one of the causes was seeing my parents during the vacation, and now I have to wait another 2 months to see them again.
:cry:
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Originally Posted by edyzmedieval
Why they send you to boarding school anyhow?
If you can at your school, just get absorbed in a PC game. Like when alcoholics get drunk to forget about their problems, sitting like a brain-dead moron in front of a screen works just as well - you're just 100% in the game.
But doing this too often can cause other problems, hence my other thread here.
Is it boarding school thats causing your problems anyway? Presumably the point in going there is for a good education, but if its making your marks worse there's not much point in going.
Actually that thing with the marks worse - it was the first marking period, to adapt myself. I expected some bad grades, but not that bad.
They sent me to a boarding school for better education, which I 100% agree that this solution has been wonderful. I do lots of different stuff which I was unable to do back at home. The only problem is the fact that I am away from home. First month wasn't hard, but as it goes on, it gets harder and harder. I just have to relent and get on, because I like it very much here, apart from the huge distance from home.
My dad said - "You like it but you dont."
I do this all the time. Your mind doesnt work. Play some FIFA games you have, and win with your favourite team.Quote:
Like when alcoholics get drunk to forget about their problems, sitting like a brain-dead moron in front of a screen works just as well - you're just 100% in the game.
Or the latest NBA game you have. I started a new Dynasty Mode recently as the Kings, fantasy draft and all that stuff. Worked out pretty well and it's good for taking my mind off things. Like homework.
I think we all have mental problems here. Inca who I'm quoting has a thread here about how bad things are going for him, I've got a thread going to give tips on how to bury my head in a PC for longer, and I'm writing all this in a thread entitled "Depressed".Quote:
Originally Posted by Garcilaso de la Vega el Inca
Welcome to the tavern!~:cheers:
Not to mention the Aussie drama playing out in my Ideas for A First Date thread.
Your father has discovered a whole new kind of logic, hasn't he? ~;)Quote:
Originally Posted by edyzmedieval
So this is more of homesick rather then depression is it?
Try getting fully in to school activities with your friend. Make your self at home. Write your boarding life on blog or something and make sure you stay connected with your family.
And yea... Check out our Aussie drama on the ideas of first date thread.. and laugh at us fools:laugh4:
People say so quikly that they are depressed when they are feeling a little down. Good friend of mine had a depression, no fun at all took him years to recover, lose use of the word kinda annoys me, it's a terrible thing.
Not a bad idea if you miss your familiy. It will let you vent your stories and your familiy can comment on them in their own time and pace. Unless you keep checking for comments and feel even more lonely if they do not reply on each entry.Quote:
Try getting fully in to school activities with your friend. Make your self at home. Write your boarding life on blog or something and make sure you stay connected with your family.
And I wouldn't play video games to avoid reality. It is only a quick fix and it doesn't make you feel better in the long run. (at least it doesn't work for me).
Cheers, :medievalcheers:
Rob
Well I dont have a reputation for being a positive influence and to be blunt the advice so far has been less then inspiring. Sure, just chill.... :no:Quote:
Originally Posted by edyzmedieval
apparantly you cant, and whats worse is negative feelings are generally encouraged to be forgotten or surpressed, or glossed over. I think if you ask most people for advice your going to get the same crap, no matter the venue.
However there is the notion that you could infact embrace the engative emotions and somehow use these to comprise a positive response. It takes a level of maturity to be able to envoke this type of response and maybe you arent there yet but depression and sadness are a breadth away from anger, and anger when channeled properly is an effective tool.
You bombed by your standards and your depressed, shouldnt you be angry with yourself for failing to achieve the outcome your set? If the answer is yes then you need to channel this emotional response into a postive outcome by focusing on the next exam and channelling this energy to study for it.
Your in love with someone? again, a trap when asking advice. What do you think the majority will say ? "your young you will learn from it and grow" how about looking in the mirror and assessing yourself honestly and asking "physically am I appealing?" or "what do I think this woman wants?" and set about addressing the answers.
Depression is acceptable and natural, but dwelling on is not. Given the fact your are percieved to be one of the nicest people in the frontroom, perhaps its time to step out of the comfort zone, buck the trend and embrace some of the negative energy and get angry and formulate a plan of action.
Disclaimer: Please bare in mind, my opinion is mine alone and not meant to discredit any posters here on thier tact of advice.
good luck mate
:medievalcheers:
That is some very good advice Odin. :2thumbsup:Quote:
Originally Posted by Odin
You Love Someone? How old are you again,My age (15?)? No Offense, but should wait couple years before you start dating :yes:
Tell your Familiy to get MSN or something. Then on the weekends, go on Messnger and chat with them. If you got a Webcam, that be good to :yes:
I disagree. It's good to learn about things early on.Quote:
Originally Posted by {BHC}KingWarman888
Wow, one of the soundest piecest of advice I could ever get. Somehow, even before I read your post, it happened something similar.Quote:
Originally Posted by Odin
Basketball match for my school team. Very excited and nervous to enter the game. But coupled with a state of depression and homesickness, it got very bad. The coach took me off (he said to me to tie my shoe laces first! yeah, the referee told me that 2 times). I calmed down, got myself composed, and in the next 2 minutes, I knocked down a 3 pointer, and delivered 3 assists for my team. Before that, I just couldn't get it going, and my defence was totally useless. My team mates where making fun of me because I was like running everywhere and couldn't defend properly. The result? Knocking down that 3 pointer made me really relaxed, actually relieved some serious burden - I raged after like wolf (yeah, this is what happens when you watch too much NBA).
Some people start dating at 13 and still don't know how to keep a partner at 45, so while your statement holds true in some situations, it's not necessarily true concerning relationships.Quote:
Originally Posted by Craterus
I like the beer opinion, some "Doctors" say that Alcohol will only perpetuate Depression, but when you tank an ale, it's probably the best form of depression you can have.
you like the NBA eh? Then you know who Michael Jordan is. Jordan for all his gifts physically was mentally ahead of his contemporaries, why? Simply because he could take a small matter and make it a point of motivation. This is essentially the tool I advise you to attempt to develop. Small jests, perceived inconsideration, knowing offensives are all catalysts for either depression and lowering self esteem, or anger and a channelled positive outcome.Quote:
Originally Posted by edyzmedieval
This isnt full proof, but its a self sufficent strategy thats success or failure is based on your ability to execute the guidelines and implelement. Thus it is a perpetual life habit that can be very rewarding albeit not main stream or generally applied by most. Your example is evidence of your ability to execute the appropriate mindset, finding ways to take this application into other facets of your life is a noble venture.
Don't listen to him Edzy, drown out your sorrows!
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Oh if you are stuck on your school work im sure one of us should be able to help you.. We got a wonderful bunch of both modern and ancient historian around here. (Dont make them do the whole thing though:inquisitive: )
Good luck!:beam:
It is never too early to start dating. When I was 13 all I could think about was Starwars though :beam:
When I was 13 I only had basketballs in my mind. Actual basketballs, the other "basketballs"...I call them airbags. :beam:
When I was 13 I...I...I didn't have much in my mind...
Well, no. I'd certainly raise hell and become a full-blown Moral Conservative if for example my nine-years-old sister dates (fortunately she doesn't).Quote:
Originally Posted by Fragony
In fact, I'd probably murder the unfortunate boy. Or pedophile. Whatever.
When I was 13...I was in love though. :shy:
A strange sensation between my lifting apparatus... could it be...that I got stabbed? In the Kingdom of peace and love out of all places?
Wow. At first I was thinking "Embrace the power of the dark side." but ended up misty-eyed. To hell with depression. Either enjoy it or turn it into something useful. Depression is actually the result of overstimulation in a part of the brain. Find a way to redirect that energy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Odin
Your first thought was closer to accurate. Negative feelings are not welcomed avenues of conducting ones affairs in popular culture. "chill" or "do something you like" are often that remedies offered.Quote:
Originally Posted by Vladimir
However embracing negative thoughts and understanding thier cause is a task that can be channelled for a positive outcome. I have become enraged over small percieved breaches of social ettiquette, but its never an external process, its an internal gift.
As an example, you are cut off when driving and get really angry at the other driver. Do you sulk? Chase them? or head to your destination determined to complete a task there with the channeled energy? I chose the later, but it takes time and discipline to achieve.
Embrace the power of all sides, just dont suppress the dark parts those are often vastly embelished internally and negatively processed externally.
Give credit to Odin. His advice is invaluable, and actually made me channel on the things I love.
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I'm not actually depressed now, I feel quite well, but I ruined a conversation with a girl that I like by being waaay too direct, as is often in the case of most of my talking. I'm not used to hiding behind the bush, I always speak straightforward.
But this is ruining my chances. Any tips for better "playing"?
Tell her that you're sorry and didn't mean to hurt her. Something like: "I love you baby but you make me so mad." I use Ike Turner as a role model for dealing with women; it's actually quite effective. :afro:
The thing is, we're not together, I don't know if she likes me, we're just friends that's all. She claims that she doesn't like anyone now.
If I would have gotten it easier on her, I might have gotten some more "play". But now, I get nothing and even bad thoughts from her about me(possibly).
My adive about depression is valid here as well. Negative social situations can be turned into positive outward outcomes when the internal process dosent dwell on the circumstances.Quote:
Originally Posted by edyzmedieval
Basically, you take this negative and channel the energy into Basketball or something else thats going to get you a positive reenforcement. Women come and go, dont dwell to much on just one.
cheer up mate...
all this depression of late... it starts to appear even my twisted happy world... than things are going wrong... we must fight it...