How wrong is it to fall in love with a girl who has a boyfriend...

[Abokasee]

You seem to have hit the nail on the head

[Mete Han]

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I should watch my back closer in the streets.
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you know I did not mean anything like that...

[Mete Han]

All is fair in love and war, even if the saying is no longer true in the second case.

Just make sure you consider the price you'll pay for your actions, if you're willing to accept that, go for it. Life is short, try to make it interesting.

I mean what kind of price? What could happen even in the worst case? Both she and her boy are perfect strangers. I mean I am speaking hypothetically for I guess won't do anything rash. In the worst scenario she would not talk to me again.. well, that is actually very bad!!!

[Vladimir]

You could get your camel beat, or stabbed.

[Mouzafphaerre]

you know I did not mean anything like that...

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Better safe than sorry...
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[doc_bean]

I mean what kind of price? What could happen even in the worst case? Both she and her boy are perfect strangers. I mean I am speaking hypothetically for I guess won't do anything rash. In the worst scenario she would not talk to me again.. well, that is actually very bad!!!

Well then the price seems pretty low, go for it !

[Craterus]

If you were to go for it, what exactly is your plan?

[LeftEyeNine]

If you were to go for it, what exactly is your plan?

- Good morning
- Hey..
- Eat me.

[Veho Nex]

Women are... in my best experience... something that wraps around you like a snake and forces everything from you. Why not be an above the average man and believe that until the moment you believe you are contempt women were put on this earth for mans enjoyment.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

[Mouzafphaerre]

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[Mete Han]

Well then the price seems pretty low, go for it !

I still don't get it? Do you think like I am going to have a conscience problem, no way. No body cared about me when my heart was broken. The only reason I ain't going for it immediately is the fact that probably it won't work.

[Mete Han]

If you were to go for it, what exactly is your plan?

Well, you see I met her in order to help her with some project. Actually my boss asked me to help her. That was monday evening. Later she started to completely ignore me. Maybe she must be asking herself how wrong is it to manipulate people with her beauty to get what she wants and then walk away?

The plan? There is no plan until I meet her again. the probability that she is enjoying her relationship actually ties my hands. After all I can't dig into that matter with emails or on the phone. And I cant force her to meet me since this is her project and she decides if she wants help or not.

I think I am going to find another one in order to overcome this fixation.

What would your plan be?

[Craterus]

I think I am going to find another one in order to overcome this fixation.

I'd say that's a pretty good plan.

However, if you're desperate to have this one, my plan would be to just be friendly when you're working with her. That's about all you can do. Especially considering you only just met her, she's already involved (to some extent, I gather?) and she doesn't seem to have shown any interest.

If you think she did show some interest then maybe it's worth doing something more drastic. But I'd say you can just be a friend for now and see what happens.

[LeftEyeNine]

No body cared about me when my heart was broken.

So you think the same negligence is valid for you too ?

That's something like the common story: "I used to be such a lovefool for a girl once. She just dumped me. And I've understood that I have to act like a bastard ever after and now girls are only means of sex for me"

If you have a "way" that can be manipulated at the very first misfortune, just give up that way from the very beginning. Weak.

It doesn't mean that you should hit back for no one had cared about you when you had a heart break once.

That's way behind what I call "having principles". My 2 cents though. Have good luck hunting.

[Ravencroft]

Don't man. There's someone other than she who's better.

Plus , like what they say, cheaters will cheat on you too.

[Mete Han]

okay it is wrong to cheat. on the other hand she said she wants to meet me tommorow and she invited me to her place. It is kinda hard but I will try repress the rush. after all she probably doesnt have any intentions for she is kind of naive. but then when a man thinks that a girl is naive then it means he is doomed to suffer. women are very effective in deception.

what the hell am I getting myself into?

[Martok]

what the hell am I getting myself into?

You're one of but millions of men who have uttered this question, my friend (and you certainly won't be the last).

All you can really do is play it by ear and see what happens (if anything). Perhaps her intentions truly are innocent, but it's probably best to be wary unless/until that actually proves to be the case.

[LeftEyeNine]

on the other hand she said she wants to meet me tommorow and she invited me to her place

A girl who has a boyfriend invites you over to her place. Will it be "them" over there or only two of you?

The latter way, the girl will be a short adventure of yours.

[Husar]

but then when a man thinks that a girl is naive then it means he is doomed to suffer.

That's got less to do with girls being doomed and a lot more with men being evil.

[Mete Han]

A girl who has a boyfriend invites you over to her place. Will it be "them" over there or only two of you?

I think she said that only her room mate will be there. and you are a dj right? just please dont talk about this on air okay please?

[LeftEyeNine]

It's been months I quit that job, MH, no worries.

But seeing you have shared this with thousands, I don't see what you are up to.

[Mete Han]

It's been months I quit that job, MH, no worries.

But seeing you have shared this with thousands, I don't see what you are up to.

It is very unlikely that she is a Guild member. Also, I trust the Guild in a way. Actually there are no girls in the Guild, right? I mean look at the posts about love and you know what. I told only one person about my conflict and fixation out of the cyber......

[Don Corleone]

All depends on whether the boyfriend is a friend of yours or not. You can't break the guy code, but if he ain't one of your friends, all's fair in love and war... just be prepared to take a beating if he's bigger, crazier or better at fighting than you.

As for her being loose, I'm with Tribesman. Pro-slut since 1981...

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

Actually there are no girls in the Guild, right?

A fair few for a gaming forum, actually.

All depends on whether the boyfriend is a friend of yours or not. You can't break the guy code, but if he ain't one of your friends, all's fair in love and war... just be prepared to take a beating if he's bigger, crazier or better at fighting than you.

Pay attention to these words. If anyone tried that on me, there wouldn't be very much left of him.

It comes down to your morals, Mete.

As for her being loose, I'm with Tribesman. Pro-slut since 1981...

I'm telling your wife.

[Papewaio]

As for her being loose, I'm with Tribesman. Pro-slut since 1981...

Or another way 'Marry your mistress before you find your wife.'

[Mete Han]

Pay attention to these words. If anyone tried that on me, there wouldn't be very much left of him.

at the end it turned out that I did not do anything stupid, when the rush came I controled it. She came over to my place instead. Another important thing is that I almost forgot what she looked like until she came over and I saw her again. Which means that all my agony was caused because of my fixation. Okay I though she was more beautiful the first time I met her and now even though I think she is less beautiful but still very... I told her that I really admire her self esteem and trusting charactere and that her boy is very lucky...

but I did not make a single move for which I am very proud because it is really difficult to control it when yoyu like someone so much. And it would be wrong if I did.

she said we should have dinner sometime and should see each other apart from the work. And I know she did not mean anything naughty.

I like her, respect her relationship and I am free of the fixation and the obsession now.

but I still have the chance and maybe some day.....

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

Good for you, in my opinion. She will probably become more and more attractive to you over the next little while, and then it'll go away, more or less (this is from a past experience - not saying it's always true). It's quite possible to stay good friends with her, and your infatuation (I don't know a better word for that) will probably die down over that time, or at least be suppressed. On the other hand, if she breaks up with him, go for it, no matter if you still get the "OMG" feeling when you see her or not.

[Mouzafphaerre]

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Lurk in the shadows and snap when the time is right (the other guy is gone).
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[Craterus]

I think this thread is cursed.