Using the new client ruler fix potential fix for a bit now all seems to be working great. Though there is a comment typo in the character traits file I think, that makes the family member trait visible when it should be hidden on line 37590, or is this how the entry is supposed to be.
Trait FamilyMember
Characters family
;Hidden
Level Family_Member
Description Hidden_desc
EffectsDescription Hidden_effects_desc
Threshold 1
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