I seriously need some advice.

[Geoffrey S]

Seen some sensible words here, some less so. I certainly agree with those of Anders, Beirut, Don and Adrian. However, it's a tough situation and might not end well. Be prepared for that possibility, hard as that may seem.

I can only assume that you have been over this with close friends. If not, do so. Do take care of your mother, since the way you describe it it must also be a disappointment for her - perhaps treat her to a pleasant evening out or something of the sort.

I'm not convinced the .org is the best place for advise on matters like these - though if you must, I'd recommend PMing members whom you respect to at least structure your thoughts right now and filter out the less useful contributions of a public discussion.

And best of luck!