I seriously need some advice.

[Louis VI the Fat]

I think you're screwed. If he's a deadbeat - he's a deadbeat. Nothing you can do about it except learn to deal with it. You just have to differentiate between your sister and him. Be nice to her, be useless with him.

As for pounding him; you can't lay a hand on him as long as he doesn't lay a hand on anyone in your family first. You might win the battle but you'd lose the war.

I still say Frags aims for this bloke's kneecaps.


Hey, what's the point of venting, eh? It's to talk nonsense with your mates about ripping somebody's head off with your bare hands and sucking out his brains through his eyesockets. Not with the intent of doing it, but just to vent. And be heard. That way, you can keep your cool in real life and do the sensible thing.

[Marius Dynamite]

Take him out for a pint and let him know how things go down in your family.

P.S. If they are married and having a child, your too late.. he knows how things go down... his way.

[Spartan198]

Are you confident that your sister's safe with this guy? That didn't seem to come up,and this kind of stress can have a bad effect on a pregnant woman.

Anyway,this guy sounds like a real lowlife,and I've found the best way to deal with that kind of person is to be direct. Not rude or violent,just direct. Try to stay as calm as possible and don't let your anger cloud your words. Frankly,if the guy's as immature as you say,he may just break down and start crying about it. My sister's ex-boyfriend was just like that and did the exact same thing when I set him straight for telling my grandmother to shut up.

But I would agree that you do try talking to your sister about it first,though,and attempt to let her try to settle the situation (the reason I inquired as to whether you thought she was safe around the guy).

[Fragony]

Well sis got baby, going to the hospital in a few hours, useless git pretty much useless to her but I probably would have as well. It's not a bad guy he's just useless but if the sis is happy so am I.