The "I got dumped" thread.

[HoreTore]

Because I just did.

2,5 years, love of my life, etc etc.

Got the message at 14:24. I'm dumped. She no longer wants to live with me. I thought things were clearing up. She left this morning, to go home to her mother. She said it was to get away a little. I thought it was primarily the stress from exams and such she had to get away from, and that she would come back. But she won't.

Now I never get to hold her hand again. Never ever cuddle up beside her again. I'm scared. Of the future, of living without her.

She was everything to me. She is everything to me.

[Andres]

That's sad news HoreTore

A relationship of 2,5 years and apparently allready in the stadium of living together... I feel for you.

Is there still a chance that things will work out or is the break-up permanent?

Anyway, if you need an ear or a hug, we're here for you

[naut]

That sucks. The only thing I can think of is this.

[HoreTore]

Moved in with her desember 2006. Got together with her in oktober 2005. Heh, I got together with her the day after my footie team won the league.

Yesterday, they lost 2-1....

She says she's no longer ready for a relationship... She says things may be different in a year or two. But I doubt that will ever happen.

Right now, I feel like the worlds biggest dick. Because I thought things were going ok. Sure, the last months haven't been anything like the first months with her. But I thought it was just a phase. That we'd sort it out. But instead of doing that, I'm sitting here crying my eyes out...

[Fragony]

Sorry to hear that hope it works out for you. Love is the sweetest way to die.

[HoreTore]

It's been 3,5 hours now, and I'm torn... One part of me wants to hurt her and make her feel as bad as I do, the other part knows that she already does and wants to make her happy again.

We're communicating by sms. I could call her, but I know I wouldn't be able to say a word...

I feel very abandoned and alone now... I have done that for a while, actually, but I haven't been able to make her understand that... Instead, I have closed myself almost completely... Which has led to frustration, and I've taken it out on her... No wonder her feelings for me have disappeared.

[Husar]

Man, that's bad.

I'm sorry for you, don't know what to say but I hope you'll be fine however it works out.

[rajpoot]

When I got out of a relationship, I did nothing for a week but listen to sad dreary songs and mope around the house. But after the week, I realised that I was young and I had long to live and I could not cry away the rest of my days for someone who did not wish to be with me, when the right time comes, she'll come back, till then I just have to wait patiently, for we can all afford to wait.

My case wasn't like your's we hadn't been that long into the relation, but I loved her, and always will.

But she wanted a break, she said she didn't want anything from me any longer, it rent my heart, but i have faith, she'll come back, someday, she will.
Take heart, be strong.

[Fragony]

How did you manage to not do something extremily stupid since 2005 that would make 3 1/2 hour seem long???

[Kagemusha]

Damn. Im sorry to hear that m8. It will leave a scar, but eventually you will heal and when you are there, there will be other roses in the garden for you. Right now there surely isnt anything that makes you feel completely alright, but my advice is to spoil yourself rotten, do anything you like to do or buy something which you have wanted for long time. It wont remedy the situation, but will hopefully distract you a bit from this bad turn of events.

[HoreTore]

Heh. Someone call the doctors, wenting your feelings to total strangers on a gaming forum actually does make you feel a bit better...

Though, still a trainwreck... At least the spontaneous crying has stopped for a while...

[Samurai Waki]

Two Words: Road Trip. You need to get away from it for awhile, get your head settled, listen to angry but upbeat music (Punk) Usually suffices. Get outdoors, just do anything to get away from the somber environment of a place where you had your heart broken. It'll take awhile mate, you will cry, be angry, be remorseful, and then one day you'll wake up and it won't matter as much anymore, and then next day and thereafter it will matter less and less. And then one day you will realize that you forgot about all the good things you had together, and that will make you sad, but it will give you resolve that you deserve somebody, or something out of life that deserves you.

[HoreTore]

Well, fortunately, I'll be forced to move back to mommy, who lives a good hour away from here and on the other side of a fjord(an ugly one, not one of those you've heard about)...

[Caius]

If you have friends, visit them. If you are very confident, tell them your problem. They will understand you.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Feelings are for the weak!

Just play some TW, or watch a good film, nothing beats being brain-dead in front of a screen when you're feeling crap.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

And on a related note, I told mine that I'm going to leave her if she doesn't improve her attitude to me quickly, because for the last month or so it's been pretty bad.

[Caius]

And on a related note, I told mine that I'm going to leave her if she doesn't improve her attitude to me quickly, because for the last month or so it's been pretty bad.

Is there some reason for that?

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

Is there some reason for that?

None that I've seen - nothing changed in that time, really.

[Samurai Waki]

A woman can mold a man to her liking, a man must accept his woman for who she is.

[Craterus]

And on a related note, I told mine that I'm going to leave her if she doesn't improve her attitude to me quickly, because for the last month or so it's been pretty bad.

I don't think that will end well.

[Papewaio]

A woman can mold a man to her liking, a man must accept his woman for who she is.

For the win.

[Caius]

I don't think that will end well.

I don't like it also, I have the feeling that wont change.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

I don't think that will end well.

I'm having doubts too, or I wouldn't have told her what I told her. I'm hoping there was something bad that happened that she didn't tell me about or something, but I doubt it.

[Ice]

God damn this thread is depressing.

My best wishes to you, Horetore. Getting dumped, especially by surprise, is such a terrible thing. I've gone through exactly what you are going through right now. Listen to most of the posters, this will pass and get less painful with time, although you will probably always have a spot for her. Good luck man.

[pevergreen]

A woman can mold a man to her liking, a man must accept his woman for who she is.

I disagree. Gf and I have changed each other quite a bit. She no longer goes out partying and drinking.

Best way to get over female problems IMO:

We're sitting in Ventrilo, playing some dota.
We're pushing and we're owning, with the opponents we're toying.
We're sitting in Ventrilo, playing some dota.
Running around creeping, the opponents we're sleeping.

Works for me.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

We're sitting in Ventrilo, playing some dota.
We're pushing and we're owning, with the opponents we're toying.
We're sitting in Ventrilo, playing some dota.
Running around creeping, the opponents we're sleeping.

One of those guilty pleasures of life.

[Ice]

I disagree. Gf and I have changed each other quite a bit. She no longer goes out partying and drinking.

::cocks pistol::

[Beirut]

HoreTore,

My man, you're going to have to suffer like all of us have. It's a part of life and utterly unavoidable. Drink beer, talk to your friends, visit your mom, read a book, watch a movie, do anything that will rescue your mood if only for a moment. Those moments add up. You'll live through this, you might not want to, but you will.

Besides, in a few weeks/months/(preferably not) years, you'll be rounding third base with that honey from the coffee shop.

You're only 21, the highs and lows of your love live have barely begun.

[pevergreen]

::cocks pistol::

I hope you've got a permit for that weapon

We are both under 18, so while its not illegal for her to drink, I am strongly against anyone under 18 drinking.

Queensland has some screwed up laws.

Now

[Good Ship Chuckle]

Feelings are for the weak!

Just play some TW, or watch a good film, nothing beats being brain-dead in front of a screen when you're feeling crap.

Lol!!!! That's exactly what I was thinking he should do. Honestly, what better way to cheer yourself up than conquering the world?