Leaving school

**Vuk** · 05-07-2008, 02:44

Caius, please that what I say as advice from a friend. School can be hard, esp if you have people bullying you. Honestly though, the very best thing you can do is stay in school. When you are being bullied it is hard to know what to do, but the best advice I can give you is to not let them see if you are scared of them and get the authorities involved. Bullies count on people being afraid of them and afraid of being made fun of for going to the authorities. Do not let them scare you.
I hope for the best Cauis and I genuinely hope that you stay in school and continue with a good career.

Vuk

**Whacker** · 05-07-2008, 03:25

Caius, you are a good kid

1. Do NOT give up. Period. Do NOT QUIT SCHOOL. PERIOD.

2. What kind of bullying? Have they threatened you with physical force, or actually used physical force on you? Is this more "social" bullying? Is it one person or many?

3. Talk to your parents first. Your parents should ALWAYS support you, period. I remember I had a few problems with this also when I was much younger, and my parents were rabid and tenacious in their support. Get them involved, and have them help you. They can involve the school leadership, police, etc... whomever is needed to help.

4. Strongly consider taking a martial art. No joke, this was one of the first things my dad made me do (in addition to all the other stuff my parents did) when they found out about it. Find a good school that will teach you actual self defense and application, not just how to do katas and those showy jump/flip kicks (which are utterly useless in a real fight) and is a "belt factory". It'll teach you how to defend yourself, get you in (better) shape, and most important of all it'll give you a sense of self-confidence. Just don't let it go to your head and don't go looking for fights. The purpose of strength is to help and provide support for yourself and others, not as a tool to climb over or beat on weaker people. You're a good kid, you already knew that anyway. A good school will teach you that force is a last resort and always try to resolve situations honorably, but if you have to fight then by god let em have it.

Best of luck

**Samurai Waki** · 05-07-2008, 04:11

Depends on which country you live in, if you live outside of the US, I'd say stick with it. If you live in the US however, you are quite literally wasting your time (I quit. Got my GED and quickly got accepted into UCLA) American Highschools are a laughably a joke at best. However, I can't stress this to you enough, it takes motivation, I don't want to hear about you dilly dallying around, and not taking yourself towards higher pursuits and living in your parents basement until your 40 years old. It takes some real cojones to quit out of school and be able to be successful, but its a worthwhile adventure to piss your parents off.

**Mikeus Caesar** · 05-07-2008, 08:35

Only quit school/stop bothering with education if you have a definitive plan beforehand. I've only gone ahead with not doing any more education (much to the annoyance of my parents) because i have plans for my future.

**Xehh II** · 05-07-2008, 08:58

I left school when I was 16, best decision of my whole life, got to spend a year relaxing then I enrolled in a hospo course, doing what I love, I couldn't ask for a better outcome.
I used to get bullied all the time too, I just fought back, but I don't think that's a good idea, schools seem to think fighting back is worse than the actual bullying, especially when you break a bullies face.
Quiting school is good!

**Raz** · 05-07-2008, 09:42

Bullying... Eh, find a way to handle it and persevere for the rest of your education. Having the words "DID NOT COMPLETE HIGH SCHOOL EDUCATION" is kinda bad on a job application - Maybe just don't write it in upper-case, but still.... (edit:) Unless you have plans for say an apprenticeship, or some form of specialised extended education. E.g. electrician, car mechanic.

If all else fails, hit the gym, train ya muscles, then head one-on-one with your bullyier. Fight him. Win, then take it a touch too far by kicking him while he is down. You will be expelled, he would've learnt a lesson, your parents will understand why you lashed out, you would've dealt with the bullying PLUS left school PLUS people will remember you as the Kung-Fu Master who went down in a blaze of glory.
And I'm serious, this is real advice, no joke.

**Samurai Waki** · 05-07-2008, 09:49

Originally Posted by Raz

Bullying... Eh, find a way to handle it and persevere for the rest of your education. Having the words "DID NOT COMPLETE HIGH SCHOOL EDUCATION" is kinda bad on a job application - Maybe just don't write it in upper-case, but still....

Perhaps this is the case in many other places, but as long as you get your equivalent in the US you can legally put yourself in as a Highschool graduate. Excepting the Marines, who for whatever reason will only take Highschool graduates, despite the pressure put on them from the other military branches, simply because they have no problem getting equivalent degreed recruits while the marine corps is suffering quite severely right now. And I never quite got the reasoning behind this either, if I had my equivalent and could be an Apache pilot, why on earth can't I be a Jarhead?