Badmouthing?

[Lemur]

I find that taking down about people you know is a habit that feeds on itself. I know some folks excuse it as "blowing off steam," but in my experience it doesn't work that way. Negative talk leads to more negative talk, not a clearing of the air.

In RL I try not to say anything when I'm unhappy with someone. It does no good to jabber about it. I follow the dog trainer rules -- ignore behavior you dislike, praise behavior you want. Amazing how well it works on people.