I feel down

[edyzmedieval]

*ranting included*

And I really don't know why.

This particular week I started liking a girl. She's really nice and looks good, and she's been single for the start of the year. The thing is, for some time, I lost my guts to ask a girl out. 2 years ago I had no problem but now I feel a sort of inhibited, preventing me from asking her out.

But I seriously don't know what happened to me in this time. I am a histrion, and sometimes I know it's annoying for some people, and I'm trying to change, but I'm still poked at for being like "gangsta" and trying to be cool. It's not trying to be cool, its just me, I am a very positive character and I rarely get angry on something (and when I do here comes the storm). Lately it's been a mild improvement, or so it seems to me, but still I am really upbeat. It might be because I haven't had a serious relationship so far, and it kind of hurts emotionally. It's really something new to me because I've never experienced something like this before and it shook my boat seriously.

It's not necessarily have to do with liking her or not. It's also the fact that I feel blank/void/lifeless and have no clear cut defined purpose on what to do. I have my own hobbies and I pursue them, and since I don't want to game/play games any more it sort of left a big blank which I seriously need to fill but that is like trying to fill a huge hole in a brick wall with cement - it will go but it looks really bad. My roommate who has a stable girlfriend tells me to change, not to act so "gangsta", basically change because you won't get far.

Maybe he is right about it, but I feel fine with myself, I don't see the need to change, except that it affects the social relationships I have.

They say that people now are totally different than when they are at 24-25 years old (right now its 16-17) but still, I don't know what to think or say about this matter.

Opinions? Helpful advice?
NOTE: I am histrionic and narcissistic. (yes, a DEADLY combination)

Thank you for taking it off my chest.

[Dimeola]

Women and your selfimage? I will honestly give ya the benefit of my 50 years of life. If i look back on all the ladies i was `in love` with or had the `hots for`....where are they now? They are gone and yet i still live. We tend to live in the moment without perspective. Love and lust breed great emotion and complete blindness and stupidity. Been there and done that many times.
Your heart will want what it will. Doesnt mean she is right and good for you. You will be afraid that if she doesnt return your emotion and feelings that you will be humiliated and die. you will not.
First of all plz understand that your worth doesnt revolve around what a lady thinks of you.We all think so at times, but its hormones and emotion and longing. Look at yourself honestly and just be yourself. be confident in the person you are. Dont live or die on what she or anyone else thinks. Women actually love confident and self-assured men. Do what you think is right in life and dont let the rest bother you. if someone else doesnt like that about you then they can F off.
Dont play games or be false. if you do really like this girl then take a chance and talk to her ...just like she were another human being. Let her have a chance to get to know you. If it doesnt work then another girl will come along.
Yea people grow and change, always try and grow for the better. Its hard to have a clear direction in life early on. So dont let it worry you. just look at life and try and see what you like and what interests you. i didnt find my art until late in life. You dont know what it has in store.
At this point its important to find become a good person....in zen there is a term called `sameness in bearing`...meaning to just be yourself in any situation. Workon that. You`ll be fine bro....lemme know if ya need anything else.
Cheers.

[pevergreen]

If you get involved with someone at our age, dont expect it to last forever.

I dont know man, it sounds like you need something, try some new stuff. Have you got a job?

I find getting into a good series of books, or playing games helps. But if no games, maybe books?

It'll all be ok

[HoreTore]

Well, if the nerves are the problem, alcohol is the best solution. Seriously. No, I'm not talking about getting the chick filthy drunk and raping her Just going out and getting drunk together.

Not that it matters though, in about 2,5 years she'll just tear out your heart and stomp on it, say that you'll can be friends but then canceling that appointment you've been looking forward to all week because you haven't seen her for two weeks now... She'll complain about not having the time, but she did have the time to get drunk twice in 3 days just a few days ago...

[edyzmedieval]

Well here's my problem! I always stuck out from the crowd because of my thoughts and my behaviour, a sort of anarhist, and because of that everyone's been poking at me. It can be everything you want, I still stand out. It's like a bright yellow flower in a huge mass of black flowers. No matter from where you view the field, that yellow flower is the first thing which gets in your eyes.

For example, today we had an assembly, and everyone stood down and stuff, apart from the teachers. I seriously didn't want to sit down because I was really like void and I really didn't care about what was going on. I was the only one standing up.

After the assembly finished, 4 guys were asking why did I stand up because I made a clown of myself.

I don't care a damned bit about what I did, but it affects the relationships around, and no girl will ever take me seriously.

[pevergreen]

Someone will admire you for what you do. It might take some time, but someone will.

[HoreTore]

I don't care a damned bit about what I did, but it affects the relationships around, and no girl will ever take me seriously.

Fact of life:

Women are different. Not everyone wants everything taken seriously. I recommend https://youtube.com/watch?v=Tqf9PuKi63E

[Rhyfelwyr]

For example, today we had an assembly, and everyone stood down and stuff, apart from the teachers. I seriously didn't want to sit down because I was really like void and I really didn't care about what was going on. I was the only one standing up.

After the assembly finished, 4 guys were asking why did I stand up because I made a clown of myself.

I don't care a damned bit about what I did, but it affects the relationships around, and no girl will ever take me seriously.

So sit down next time...

Seriosly though, if you used to be fine with such things then you have probably just worked yourself up. Just calm down, put it in perspective, then go talk to her. That's all you need to do...

[Ice]

After being here in the frontroom for as long as I have, and experiencing in a way the topic at hand, I have to the conclusion that women account for much of the sadness and anger expressed here.

You have my sympathies.

[edyzmedieval]

After being here in the frontroom for as long as I have, and experiencing in a way the topic at hand, I have to the conclusion that women account for much of the sadness and anger expressed here.

You have my sympathies.

You can talk. Today you just celebrated 3 year of Orgahing. My 3 years will be on the 25th.

I thank Dutch_guy for lifting my spirits. He reminded me that there are other people in life which are much better than the ones you encounter every day.

But still, I feel void/blank now. It seems that even though I make friends easily for the past 2-3 years because of my outgoing behaviour and stuff I've been poked at and this brings you down.

[SwordsMaster]

You can talk. Today you just celebrated 3 year of Orgahing. My 3 years will be on the 25th.

I thank Dutch_guy for lifting my spirits. He reminded me that there are other people in life which are much better than the ones you encounter every day.

But still, I feel void/blank now. It seems that even though I make friends easily for the past 2-3 years because of my outgoing behaviour and stuff I've been poked at and this brings you down.

Dude, really, stop whining. "I'm feeling down because i stand out and noone will ever like me." Come on. With that attitude, you're probably right. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if you like yourself. If the answer is yes, then go out and do stuff. If the answer is no, you have problems you won't solve on this forum.

Go join a gym. There's nothing like a 120 kg bar hovering over you to snap you out of your depression.

[Meneldil]

Well, if the nerves are the problem, alcohol is the best solution. Seriously. No, I'm not talking about getting the chick filthy drunk and raping her Just going out and getting drunk together.

Not that it matters though, in about 2,5 years she'll just tear out your heart and stomp on it, say that you'll can be friends but then canceling that appointment you've been looking forward to all week because you haven't seen her for two weeks now... She'll complain about not having the time, but she did have the time to get drunk twice in 3 days just a few days ago...

This man speaks truth.

[Ice]

You can talk. Today you just celebrated 3 year of Orgahing. My 3 years will be on the 25th.

Wow, no kidding, it has been 3 years. I didn't even realize that. Thanks!

[Dimeola]

while everything you do may not seem appropriate you are not a follower and you are a free thinker. Just dont be a slave to doing things different just for its own sake. Thats as much a slave as following the rules for rules sake. People like you can grow into the greatest thinkers, artists, and entertainers. because you push the envelope.

[Csargo]

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=yjnvSQuv-H4

If you like yourself, then it doesn't matter what other people think.

[Geoffrey S]

Bloody hell. I have had it with these whiny topics asking for life-advice. Not just this one, but come on, there must be better places to vent.

[Csargo]

Then why did you post? No one is forcing you to read it.

[HoreTore]

Bloody hell. I have had it with these whiny topics asking for life-advice. Not just this one, but come on, there must be better places to vent.

Bah, we're all strangers here, and the tone is friendly; it's the perfect place to went.

[Geoffrey S]

Then why did you post? No one is forcing you to read it.

Because as far as I'm concerned the best advice is to do something. Nobody here can help someone with their specific problem(s) - all that can be provided is false confidence.

If someone really wants to sort out a problem, they should do it. But these depressive threads serve no purpose except to whine and complain, solve nothing, and frankly I'm sick of it. I know enough people in the direct vicinity who can moan endlessly, but when push comes to shove don't actually do anything to help themselves, thankyouverymuch.

But perhaps some people do get a kick out of dishing out hollow, disney-esque advice. I don't know.

[edyzmedieval]

Worrying is like a rocking chair - it give you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere.

I needed the place to vent, that's why I came here. And as HT said, we're all strangers and we all vent here.

[Conradus]

If someone really wants to sort out a problem, they should do it. But these depressive threads serve no purpose except to whine and complain, solve nothing, and frankly I'm sick of it. I know enough people in the direct vicinity who can moan endlessly, but when push comes to shove don't actually do anything to help themselves, thankyouverymuch.

Which is exactly what you're doing now.
I think you're underestimating how good it can feel to just say what you have on your chest sometimes to total strangers. They might not give usefull advice, but you've been able to say it at least, and that helps putting everything in perspective and getting over it.

[pevergreen]

How true that is.

[Geoffrey S]

Which is exactly what you're doing now.
I think you're underestimating how good it can feel to just say what you have on your chest sometimes to total strangers. They might not give usefull advice, but you've been able to say it at least, and that helps putting everything in perspective and getting over it.

Oh, sure, convince yourself that people who know nothing about the real problems can give any meaningful advice. Heck, even Edyz in his opening post admitted it was a rant, and I see no need to accept yet another semi-emo rant.

I've said it before, and said it again. Only the person involved can solve it, possibly together with people in the direct neighborhood. All that can be offered here is hollow comfort, and seeking the necessary advice here is a complete waste of time when problems need solving.


(Un-Frontroomish comments - Beirut)

[LittleGrizzly]

I have to disagree Geoffrey, for one its good to just vent sometimes and as none of us are personally involved in his problems he can vent without annoying anyone and in complete confidence. Secondly there is good advice to be had sometimes, i mean noone has a cure all but people might have gone through a similar thing themself and can say what they did to remove the problem.

Im not a big fan of whining but it was there in the title, if you don't want to see whining don't enter a topic with a depressed face and the title I feel down, goto the I feel great topic for a pick me up.

[Caius]

Well, try to get her msn and start to talk. Or get drunk (looks like it would work) and go to talk with her.

[Beirut]

Bloody hell. I have had it with these whiny topics asking for life-advice. Not just this one, but come on, there must be better places to vent.

This is The Frontroom, where people chat with their buddies at the Org.

Deal with it.

[Beirut]

By the by, I came home after work to an office floor covered with the dog's breakfast, which seems to have erupted from every orifice in his body.

The next snotty post in this thread gets a virtual representation of my mood on their account.

[Craterus]

And what is that mood?

Do you want to talk about, Beirut? Cos here's the place.

[Beirut]

And what is that mood?

Do you want to talk about, Beirut? Cos here's the place.

Well...

Mrs. Beirut pulls up to the house just as me and the guy I work with are detaching the chipper in the driveway. While I'm getting my gear out of his pickup, she goes inside and then comes out of the house and tells me that the office floor is covered with poop and diarrhea and barf. I have as strong a stomach as the next guy, but this had me right at the edge. The room was pretty warm and the air was, shall we say, thick. And the deal is, if the dog does it, I deal with it.

But I'd rather clean up dog shmoop and barf than see people getting nasty with their fellow Orgsters who are feeling a might down. This is the Frontroom and friendliness will be enforced at axe point is required.

But other than that I had a good day and made good coin. Just very tired.

[SwordsMaster]

Well...

Mrs. Beirut pulls up to the house just as me and the guy I work with are detaching the chipper in the driveway. While I'm getting my gear out of his pickup, she goes inside and then comes out of the house and tells me that the office floor is covered with poop and diarrhea and barf. I have as strong a stomach as the next guy, but this had me right at the edge. The room was pretty warm and the air was, shall we say, thick. And the deal is, if the dog does it, I deal with it.

But I'd rather clean up dog shmoop and barf than see people getting nasty with their fellow Orgsters who are feeling a might down. This is the Frontroom and friendliness will be enforced at axe point is required.

But other than that I had a good day and made good coin. Just very tired.

I have a similar story.

After a night out, 2 mates were crashing at my place, on the floor. Gave them some bed linen and they got some cushions off the sofa. One of them was let's say more than socially drunk. Long story short, I wake up in the morning to see the both of them covered in vomit, which apparently the drunk guy doesn't even remember doing, since he accused the other guy when he woke up. They slept all night in that stuff!

The stench was so bad I just wrapped the linen into a ball, put it in a bag and binned the whole thing.

So... i guess the best thing to do in your situation is to burn the house down and build a new one? Best cleaning ever. Make sure you save the scotch though.