Quote Originally Posted by Mikeus Caesar
ITT: We rant, even though few people will bother reading it, about what sucks in our life right now. And who knows, maybe offer constructive criticism to each other and have everyone come out if it as better people. Or optionally the topic sinks to the bottom with 4 replies like all backroom threads do, at least the ones that aren't arguments about religion or who's culture has the bigger penis. Anyway, moving on...

The real world sucks. Having only been exposed to it for a while, i can safely say i am right. In the 3 months that i've been working, i've been reduced to a neurotic, shaky wreck from doing night shifts and not having a real sleeping schedule and drinking nothing but coffee and whisky. I have one friend in the world and she isn't available for the rest of the week. She's busy with uni work for the next few days and then is going away for the weekend with her family. My feet are cold. I have a runny nose. The neighbours don't like me. My job is tiring. Wait, moaned about that already. My parents keep telling me to move out. I can't find a better paying job that would allow me to have the financial resources to do so. The music i play isn't anywhere near depressing as i'd like it to be. The weather isn't what i would like it to be, it's just the same slightly over-cast sunny weather. I'm bored and fed up of the same things happening all the time. I'm fed up of only visiting the same websites. I'm fed up of every workshift being the same. I'm fed up of the TV being so mindless and dull.

It's really times like this that i'd just like to scream at my family to bugger off, and then get some stuff together, put on my coat and leave. I don't know where. Go camp in a forest for a few months, despite there being no forests within 100 miles of here. Just desert. So alternately i'd just want to leave and not return. Go somewhere that i can forget all of this. Forget my job, my pile of debts, my cold feet. Go somewhere i can be happy, do as i please and not have to worry about how i get to my midnight shift on a Sunday.

Give me $10000, a car and some clean clothes and i could go. Far off to a bigger city like Melbourne, or Sydney. Places where i can do something. Places where i can live happily far away from my damn family, away from my crap job, away from normal. Just run away.

Anyway, enough about me. Time for a few more people to moan, or comment on my moaning, and then it's straight to page 2.
What I have to offer is an alternative path to you're tale of woe. Now what I am about to say requires that you believe my personal reflections, I cant control that so if your not up for it dont bother to read on.

I am a materially successful person who has a decent amount of personal relationships that have evolved into good friends. The manner in which I obtained this was being an angry, cynical, never satisfied and unpleasant person. Effectively i have been able to turn situations that you describe as the catlyst for moaning into the outcome of prosperity.

It will require you to accept a couple of very important tenets:

1. You cant worry about things you cant control: This tenet is specifically designed to eliminate the burden of worrying about what other people think. This enables you to formulate your own ethical, moral code, which inturn allows you to assign the valuations for your own success (and failure).

2. There is only 1 thing you have 100% control over and that is yourself: Piggy backing off of tenet 1, this allows the individual to take responsibility for their own actions. This sets up the internal scenario for responsiblity of one's self. The question becomes, during the 3 months of hell you were working did you aprehend the person who had the gun to you're head and forced you into the circumstance?

3. Just because you believe something to be right, dosent mean it is: This is the most important concept because it requires humility (something you will not find here at the org often). If you can accept that your system of thoughts and beliefs are not necessarily universal truths this will go a long way to temper your abrasiveness toward others and enable you to have relationships based on mutual respect, formulated through concessions and acceptance of others.

4. Just because someone believes your wrong, dosent mean you are: This speaks to the value of your expirence. Time allows reflection of past events, that reflection tempered with the current circumstance and potential future action is the foundation and formulation of wisdom. If those 3 elements have occurred rest on your laurels and refer to tenet 1.

These are glimpses of thought processes that can take you on a new path. One could reexamine you're situation and proclaim that the 3 months of work were the best thing that have ever happened to you, because now you know what you will be avoiding in the future.

Employment of this thought process, sadly runs counter to popular sociological trends. Individualism is not a welcomed course today, however a large portion of successful people are often the ones who chose not to conform to popular rationals and persued their own approaches to life.

In 10 years will you still be complaining about the choices you have made, or will you be offerring some young soul a tree branch to prevent them from being pulled down by the quick sand of life and human interactions?

Becoming an angry, self absorbed driven person has perils. You will find most people dont want to deal with you, they will whisper about you even attempt to coral your internal instincts into conformity. This will breed two outcomes, you will conform and be unhappy, or you will disregard sociological pressures and continue on a path you largely define. Each has its own plus's and minus's but the later affords one the solace of knowing that the accepted full responsibility for their life, and thus reap the full reward.

Good luck.