Depression

[pevergreen]

Sorry if this should be in the frontroom, I just wasn't comfortable with posting this there.

I am not good at long things, so I shall be brief, as I always am.

My girlfriend's parents split up a few months ago, her dad only just moved out 2 weeks ago. That weekend, she had a panic attack. She had her mother and another lady on top of her, but she was convulsing them off. That passed, she was ok the next day. I spent the week worrying. This last weekend, she went down to the coast to get away from the stress and just sleep. Early the saturday morning she tried to overdose on her anti-depression drugs to kill herself. I found this out yesterday. She was calm telling me about it. She had spent the entire morning at the hospital to be checked out. She has worked out a plan to basically stop her last year of school (with only 3 months until we finish) and taking a year off, then not going to university.

Problem is, I'm very worried she will try again, and even if she doesnt, she is depressed and she might stay like that for a while.

My question is however, what should I do to try and get her happy again?


I did not intend this to be a discussion about me, but what people can do to get their friends out of depression.

pever.

[BigTex]

There's very little you can really do. Be around her as much as you can, and talk/text often. But beyond that it's really her choice. Get her out doing things with you, staying locked away in a room or alone somewhere is bad.

Would add some more but short on time.

Sex, more of it, swear it helps. Get her to a gym also, if she's to tired from exercise she can't do much else.

[pevergreen]

Sex, more of it, swear it helps. Get her to a gym also, if she's to tired from exercise she can't do much else.

I thought that would be something to take her mind off it, but she hasnt even wanted to be very close to me. She has been feeling a bit sick every time i was with her though.

[BigTex]

I thought that would be something to take her mind off it, but she hasnt even wanted to be very close to me. She has been feeling a bit sick every time i was with her though.

Generally with depression comes lack of libido and teh desire to be alone. Basicly everything that could pull you out you don't want. Tricky stuff, hope/pray for the best, hope that it doesnt end up tearing you two apart.

[pevergreen]

Thanks BigTex. It shouldnt, she alternates between not really wanting me there and needing me there.

[CBR]

Hm how long has she been on anti-depression drugs? Is she seeing a doctor regularly?


CBR

[pevergreen]

I like that you are trying to help. It makes me feel better talking to you.

I guess it's working.

[Martok]

Good. Keep at it.

[Caius]

I guess it's working.

I have nothing to add. Well, we hope that everything will be ok, for you both.

[BigTex]

I guess it's working.

Good job, stick with it/her

[pevergreen]

Just back from spending 2 days with her.

She is getting better, she knows it. We talked a bit, and me turning up really made her happy. I dont want to her to go back to sadness as she said she was until I turned up. Aggh. She goes to a professional on friday, and has agreed to me going along after the first time. She hates talking about it, but will talk to me at least.

Ty for vent space.

[CountArach]

Good job mate, you're making someone else's life so much easier. That's what its all about.

[pevergreen]

Sorry for bringing this up again.

I'm having a really hard day today.
and i don't want to talk about it because its hard for me to.
even though i have everyone around me. being there for me. i feel like im by
myself. like nobody understands what i'm going through. and sometimes i just wish it
would all just go away. but it wont.
so i think to myself what's the easiest way out. and you know what happened the last
time i tried to find the easy way. i hope you will never try because the world would
lose such a wonderful person.
I'm not asking you to forget about me but right now i just need to be alone.
i need to sort out my own problems. before i do something i regret.
you have been the best thing that has ever happened to me. and i don't want to lose
you. but if i don't do this i'm afraid i'm going to end up regretting everything
which i don't want to.
perhaps after everything has finished when everything is not so complicated anymore
we could try again.
but for now. i need to look after myself. before anything else because if i don't
i'm afraid of what i will do.
i love you so much and i always will. you are the person i can always turn to.
and i hope we can still be friends. i will always be there for you. wether you need
someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. and in hope you would do the same for
me. i would tell you this all in person but i am afraid that i would not be able to,
therefore not sharing my true feeling with you.
i never want to lose you. and i would do anything to change the way i am feeling
right now but i can't and this is why i have to end it.
i love you so much


kp. Xxx

In my experience with depression, she's at the lowest point. I had the moment, when I realised something needed to go, and after it went, it got better. Not immediately, but over time. I think she has got there. Sacrifices are needed, and I've been sacrificed. So be it.


(off topic for a moment, i love controlling emotions. I find that anger is super effective against sadness. Time to go get angry.)

[HoreTore]

Gah! Women.

[BigTex]

Gah! Women.

Gah! The inevitable conclusion.

Sorry to hear the update pever. But luckily there are plenty more out there.

My recomendations are for the 3 F's. Fight, Fun Under Cacie's Knickers, and Forget.

Oh and iron, lots of iron, maybe some chains to.. I've always found wieght lifting to be a release after a break up. Went for 6 hours straight on punching bags and wieghts after one.

[Caius]

Damn mate. It's hard to lose someone, we all know it(even me!).
Remember, you lost the love relationship, but you didn't lost the friendship. You should be keeping an eye on her, like it was said in this thread.
Now, how do you feel? Are you ok? Do you need to keep venting? It's a good idea to do that.

[pevergreen]

I doubt there will be a friendship.

Me? I seem to be under control for the moment.

[CountArach]

That really sucks man, but still - you have to keep an eye on her.