Too much censorship on these boards.
Re: Casual sex is good, or is it?
Too much censorship on these boards.
Last edited by Kadagar_AV; 10-22-2008 at 18:51.
Re: Casual sex is good, or is it?
I never wear em and statistically the break often enough. I'm kind of masochistic when it comes to relationships. I'd take a deadly case of syphyllis to cath my gf or wife cheating on me. Then they'd regret it...Originally Posted by Kadagar_AV
It is ethical insurance. You only live once - don't be afraid to use the big guns.
The sandcastle is an adequate analogy. No analogy is perfect, some are bad - but that one was pretty good.
Like I said - the best personal defense from infidelity is to never do it yourself. You'll always know that somebody doesn't do it. Then, when you get cheated on and people tell you to stay because it "happens all the time" - you'll know that not everybody is like that because you're not and you can drop them like the sweaty skid filled jockstrap they are.
If everyone did that there would be no problem.
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Re: Casual sex is good, or is it?
Too much censorship on these boards.
Last edited by Kadagar_AV; 10-22-2008 at 18:52.
Re: Casual sex is good, or is it?
It's amazing how much damage hormones can cause isn't it? Look at some of the dating threads in the frontroom... it seems that getting laid is "cool." It seems that's what got you to where you are now doesn't it? It starts with succumbing to the pressure, and sure it may be good, but in the end... what are you getting out of it?
My question to you, is how hard are you willing to try to become that person you were before decided to lower your moral standards in regards to women? To respect and treat them not like an object, but a human being. As it seems you are so down on "love". You say you've only had 2 since then? Then why not start now. Swear it off for a month... and if you did it without struggling, then go for 2 and so on... If two people can live together for more than 50 years, through thick-n-thin, then surely it must exist. If you want it sooooooo badly, then the saying, "if I build it, they will come," fits you perfectly. You may have to quite the ski instructor gig to find it, sure you love it, but if it's destroying you (or in this case, yourself), then why continue down that path???
Ironically, constantly arguing about... "oh the guy isn't in the wrong it's the married women," or, "the guy and the women are both wrong and the husband is the victim," appear to be off topic here. It's about Kadagar_AV, and whether or not he (you) will decide to ask yourself the hard questions, make decisions, and act on them.
I do not support you or your arguments or what you have done. In fact, I wouldn't want to be around you... I could tolerate you(as I do with a few people I know) but I wouldn't associate myself with you if I could help it. I'm very much with Andres and Strike for the South on this one.
I'd rather you take what I said in and decide for yourself on what to do. If you wish to answer here be my guest. I'm no psychologist, but that is what I'd say to you if I knew you as a friend in RL. You seem to be old enough and mature enough to realize what you have done, become, left behind, and where you want to and don't want to go.
That's all I can say for now...
"No one said it was gonna be easy! If it was, everyone would do it..that's who you know who really wants it."
All us men suffer in equal parts, it's our lot in life, and no man goes without a broken heart or a lost love. Like holding your dog as he takes his last breath and dies in your arms, it's a rite of passage. Unavoidable. And honestly, I can't imagine life without that depth of feeling.-Bierut
Re: Casual sex is good, or is it?
That's a nice post Decker and I agree with it.
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Re: Casual sex is good, or is it?
I guess we will. I should qualify, if the guy is truly not aware the woman is married or in a relationship, he has done nothing wrong. Similarly if the husband and wife truly have an "understanding". But I got the impression from your OP that that is not always the case, apologies if I have misunderstood.
Perhaps I should explain where I am coming from, I am glad to be able to say I have never been cheated on myself, but I do come from a family which was almost torn apart by adultery when I was 13. As such I tend to have little patience with those who cheat or who help them do it. Please understand I bear you no malice personally, but you should know that the woman my dad screwed around with is one of the very few people on this planet I would say I truly hate. You should be aware that the husbands or children of the women you sleep with likely feel the same way about you.
Assuming we now understand one another correctly, it is perhaps best if I follow Andres' sensible example and butt out of this thread henceforth.
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