It's amazing how much damage hormones can cause isn't it? Look at some of the dating threads in the frontroom... it seems that getting laid is "cool." It seems that's what got you to where you are now doesn't it? It starts with succumbing to the pressure, and sure it may be good, but in the end... what are you getting out of it?

My question to you, is how hard are you willing to try to become that person you were before decided to lower your moral standards in regards to women? To respect and treat them not like an object, but a human being. As it seems you are so down on "love". You say you've only had 2 since then? Then why not start now. Swear it off for a month... and if you did it without struggling, then go for 2 and so on... If two people can live together for more than 50 years, through thick-n-thin, then surely it must exist. If you want it sooooooo badly, then the saying, "if I build it, they will come," fits you perfectly. You may have to quite the ski instructor gig to find it, sure you love it, but if it's destroying you (or in this case, yourself), then why continue down that path???

Ironically, constantly arguing about... "oh the guy isn't in the wrong it's the married women," or, "the guy and the women are both wrong and the husband is the victim," appear to be off topic here. It's about Kadagar_AV, and whether or not he (you) will decide to ask yourself the hard questions, make decisions, and act on them.

I do not support you or your arguments or what you have done. In fact, I wouldn't want to be around you... I could tolerate you(as I do with a few people I know) but I wouldn't associate myself with you if I could help it. I'm very much with Andres and Strike for the South on this one.

I'd rather you take what I said in and decide for yourself on what to do. If you wish to answer here be my guest. I'm no psychologist, but that is what I'd say to you if I knew you as a friend in RL. You seem to be old enough and mature enough to realize what you have done, become, left behind, and where you want to and don't want to go.

That's all I can say for now...