Up To 50 kids may be exposed to the AIDS

[Koga No Goshi]

"Fumbling for a condom"? That's like the 5 first times. Geez. And the first times you have sex you'll be fumbling with a thousand other things anyway.

Gah! Condoms don't ruin the moment. If you want a tip, I can give you two: put it on while you do oral sex on the woman. Or let her put it on right after she has finished oral sex on you.

I really, honestly can't say I've ever had a problem with condoms. In fact I like them. A lot. For some reason, I can pound for an eternity with them, every time. Without them, it depends. So, first few times I'm doing a chick, that rubber gets on no matter what she says. Later, when the "urge to perform" goes down, it doesn't really matter to me if I use them or not.

Um well I might be treading on a bit of controversial/off-topic water here, but I think this is where cultural differences are coming into play a little bit. I absorbed a lot of sex & culture stats as part of biweekly mini-seminars I had to attend in college as a student-to-student peer counselor, usually a specific topic hosted by someone from the Student Health Center or similar organization. I think something to take into account (I notice that you are from Sweden) is that while this is quickly changing, a majority of American men are still circumcised. And to get into the controversial part (it's something cut men are not happy to acknowledge, and I don't blame them) studies do show that this reduces sensitivity by a significant degree-- but there are a lot of conflicts amongst the studies and there is no "widely accepted" conclusion, in part because for a very long time in the U.S. the medical community pretty much took a "nope, it's better, period, end of discussion" attitude about the topic. But some studies do report (amongst men who were circumcised later in life) roundabouts a 30% drop in sensitivity, as well as some types of motion/stimulation to which cut men reported no tactile sensation whereas uncut men did. And most men report similarly significant drops in sensation in sex with condoms. So you put the two together, I mean, in my own life (anecdotally) I could count for you on one hand the American male friends I had who didn't rather vocally complain that condoms killed sex for them, or vastly decreased its quality.

Just thought I'd throw it out there, because I think it is a confounder in a discussion between Americans and Europeans about whether or not condoms "ruin sex" for men.

[AlexanderSextus]

Waiting to have sex like Tuff is describing really seems to me to be a tad bit unrealistic.

See, it sounds like a great idea, right, but the thing is that sexual attraction is a very strong force. When you have a perfect, 36-24-36 (or in my case 36-24-40) girl in front of you, in her bra and panties, like "take your pants off" are you really gonna sit there and say, "nah, its safer for me not to, lets just watch a movie"?

Hell NO!!! you're gonna put on a condom and have lots of fun, and hopefully, end up with a great girlfriend who may end up being your wife one day. (Ideally, anyway.)

The notion of human error in condom use is a little weird to me too. Proper condom use is not rocket science. They even put INSTRUCTIONS on the damn box nowadays. INSTRUCTIONS for god's sake! As if i needed them before. Honestly, i knew how to use one properly when i was 13, before they even had the instructions; there were hundreds of websites, if you were serious enough to want to know how to be safe, that taught how to use a condom.

Seriously, if you're too stupid to use a condom the right way, i have a hard time understanding how you got laid in the first place. Maybe the girl was just as stupid. And if that's the case, then there's really nothing that can be done, because abstinence simply does not work.

[yesdachi]

Teaching kid’s abstinence is a foolish waste of time. A young couple, I am sure you remember being one if you still aren’t one, have racing hormones and “doing it” on the mind. I am not just referring to Banquo’s reference about boys, but also the teenage girls sitting behind my family at the movies this weekend as Zac took off his shirt during a scene of High School Musical 3. No bones about it they wanted to screw his brains out (made me miss my youth) but my point is that girls are every bit as into “doing it” at that age as guys, it just gets down-played and the horndog aspect of guys gets up-played. Promoting the use of condoms is the only real option. Admit that the horny kids are going to “do it” and give them what they need to avoid pregnancy and disease, while simultaneously teaching them to be respectful and considerate like a parent should already be doing.

Yes I did take the family to High School Musical 3.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

well I have managed to control my raging hormones, actually I should say "I managed" because I'm 21 now and more or less out the other side. Yes, teenagers want to have sex, and yes a fair number will when quite young but the current attitude of "well they're going to do it anyway" is far too blarsae (sp?) for me. I'm all for safe sex and condom ussage but I think its worth teaching children that sex is more than just a fancy way to masturbate and it involves another person. At the same time you do take all kinds of risks when you have sex, no matter how small, and that should be acknowledged.

Apparently the freshers at my Uni this year were given a condom in the welcome pack this year. That pretty much assumes they'll be doing it in the first week with someone they've just met.

am I the only one who thinks there's something wrong there?

as to the original AIDS thing, anyone thought it might be someone piecing ears rather than lots of teen sex?

[HoreTore]

Apparently the freshers at my Uni this year were given a condom in the welcome pack this year. That pretty much assumes they'll be doing it in the first week with someone they've just met.

Every time the uni's send out mail here, a condom is included.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Every time the uni's send out mail here, a condom is included.

That's not realy an answer to my point.

In any case, you're Norse. You whole view of sexuality up there is very different to Britain.

[CrossLOPER]

That's not realy an answer to my point.

I think you're taking the gesture too literally.

[HoreTore]

That's not realy an answer to my point.

Your point doesn't really matter, my reply was a little something I call "additional information"

[HoreTore]

(I notice that you are from Sweden)

SHOCK!! HORROR!!! THE SHAME!!!!!!

I might have to kill you tonight, Koga. In a delightfully painful way.

[Koga No Goshi]

SHOCK!! HORROR!!! THE SHAME!!!!!!

I might have to kill you tonight, Koga. In a delightfully painful way.

Oh crap... Nevermind that wasn't me.

*hides from Hore Tore*