Isn't the truth and reconciliation process about trying to stop the cycle of retribution and blood-feud, by recognizing the hurt suffered by those who've survived the conflict?

Maybe I'm wrong there.

But, if I'm right, the empasis has to be on paying the survivors of the conflict for the loss of their loved-one/kinsman a symbolic amount, NOT linked to his/her affiliations or atrocities, but to the premature loss of that member's services to the family.

In that sense, t&r resembles an insurance company. With the (hopeful) side-effect that the dead guys' kin are tired of the conflict, and mererly seek validation of THEIR sacrifice, promising to forget or forgive or both, the issues both sides fought for.

The only question remaining: who pays?