I understand and appreciate your point of view, LG.

If it happened to my family, I'm not sure I'd really want an apology or to see them again, even if they tried to do something nice.

There are some mistakes so horrible that forgiveness is possible, but seeing that person again is a horrible reminder of something you don't need reminders of, in my view. But I see the desire to repay the debt, and I think that's honorable, if impossible.