In my own life things are good, but I have this friend. She finally divorced her addict husband this past year, kicked him out and took control of her life and the lives of her daughters. Put her life in order, you know?

Did I mention that her kids and my daughter are like sisters? And that she's drop dead gorgeous?

Only now the pattern of her life is asserting itself again. She's seeing a guy. Not dating him, because he's still married and has a son, just 'seeing' him. He's also her boss at the bar where she works nights as a bartender. And she's falling in love with him, so she forgives and forgives and forgives every time he has an excuse to drag out his marriage, to go back to his wife. I mean, the guy didn't even get her Valentine's Day off?

This guy does not have his life in order and I can't help thinking that no matter how good a person he is, no matter how she feels about him, he is going to make a tough situation worse, for her and her kids.

The part that gets me is I'm not entirely sure there's anything I can do about it. We're all (Him and his son, her and her twins, me and my daughter) going to do something fun together with the kids on President's Day and there are some things I have to say to this woman that are definitely going to **** her off, and might even end our friendship, which would just be awful for my daughter. She's helped me work through some stuff recently with complete honesty, and I have a duty to return the favor but I can't figure out how to do it the right way.

vent over