Mums

[Strike For The South]

How much control does your mum have over you?

Mine seems to have way to much, all she does is complain about me and threaten to "come up there" She doesn't let me grow beards and do all the other fun things the cool kids get to do.

Shes likely she makes good cookies or I would've sacked her a long time ago.

[Whacker]

Control? Really none, I haven't lived under my parents' roof for over 12 years. Influence? Both mom and dad still have a lot of influence on me, because I respect their opinions (due to them being wise old people, old being the operative word).

[Ibrahim]

plenty-she won't take me to the dentist, she won't take me to get my eyes checked, she tortures me mentally, and she is downright annoying.

as to why I don't go myself: I explained that in the self dependant thread: I cannot legally drive.

[Alexanderofmacedon]

My mother has more than half-control over me, but it's not too much. I really could get away with a lot more because she is much more of my friend really. We joke around a lot and she's just all-around not bad at all for a parent.

Because of that I usually listen to her and do what she asks out of respect though. I'm going to miss her when I go to uni in Europe next year and will only see her once or twice every two years.

[PanzerJaeger]

22 here.. so none.

[Mouzafphaerre]

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Virtually no control at all but pretty much influence, borrowing Whacker's distinction.
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[KukriKhan]

She died 8 years ago. Ceded control over me 40 years ago. Influences me still, everyday.

I don't think I ever sent her a Valentine's Day card. Maybe I will this year. Thanks for the idea.

-edit-
Oh, and: a lot. Two words. Meaning "much", or "often", or "many".

"Allot" = To parcel out; distribute or apportion. Just going on my own personal jihad against 'alot', and 'allot'. Soz.

[Crazed Rabbit]

I'm away living on my own and soon to start a career. Little control, but lots of influence from my parents.

She doesn't let me grow beards

Scandalous!
*strokes his beard thoughtfully*
Or maybe she knows the world isn't ready for that much awesome packed into one man.

CR

[Zim]

That reminds me, it's been a while since I've talked to my mother.

I suppose a little, in that I'd pay more attention if she gave me advice than a random person off the street (or even most of the rest of m family, really...). On the other hand we don't talk much since she lives a couple thousand miles away (east coast, while I'm in Oregon).

[CountArach]

19 here - and she controls more of my life than I wish she could. This last year has been huge for me and I've started to dig myself in a lot more. I don't ask for permission to go places as often I just say "Mum, I'm going out now." Progress is being made.

[Strike For The South]

The Org is more versed in the mum spectrum than I once assumed.

On a side note I like to wake her up with text messages to which she replies "Im going to kick you in the head" heheheheh

[Emperor of Graal]

I'm still young so half and half

[Fragony]

I always do what my mother says I am 31 years old, but mommy is always right

[LittleGrizzly]

Barely any, what control she does have is based off my financial dependance on her and the fact i live at home... outside of that... no real control... i will usually talk some stuff over with her (only academic stuff really) and see if her advice is any good... which it sometimes is...

My mum rules!

[Fragony]

My mum rules!

So does mine, was always a bit odd to my friends smoking pot in my room with my mother comming in, tea anyone? And she's no progressive has never worn pants in her life, I really have a mommy-mom

[Sigurd]

She died 8 years ago.

Yours too huh?
2001 was first a good year, turning bad. My first-born came in may and barely met her grandmother. My mother died in July and the burial was on my 3rd anniversary wedding day.

Right now she has no influence on me, but my wife has filled some of that role, teaching me stuff my mum should have.
Who would know that you shouldn't use fabric softener when washing your expensive gortex jacket?

[Hooahguy]

a little bit. when she asks me to do chores i do them, like wash dishes and sweep, but otherwise, nope. i couldnt be on the computer for hours and she wont say anything, but my dad will go bonkers if he caught me...

[KukriKhan]

Yours too huh?
2001 was first a good year, turning bad. My first-born came in may and barely met her grandmother. My mother died in July and the burial was on my 3rd anniversary wedding day.

Right now she has no influence on me, but my wife has filled some of that role, teaching me stuff my mum should have.
Who would know that you shouldn't use fabric softener when washing your expensive gortex jacket?

What an odd coincidence. My 2 grandsons were born that year, too. Oh-One was certainly a year of change.

On a side note I like to wake her up with text messages to which she replies "Im going to kick you in the head"

My kinda girl, LOL.

[InsaneApache]

I stopped taking notice of my mam when I was about 14. I left home at 17 and never looked back since. Since I stopped about 35 years ago, none.

Note to self; must make time to go and see her. Shame I have to go to Manchester to do it!

[drone]

I think the happiest day in both our lives was the day I moved out and went to college. We spent most of my teens butting heads and arguing. Once I moved out, our relationship improved instantly and we get along great now. All the stuff I hated her for growing up made me a better person though, discipline for the win.

[Rhyfelwyr]

My mum was really strict up until a couple of years ago. I think she thought every second person on the street was a paedophile and everyone in my school was an alcoholic. So I never really got out much.

But she seems to be a lot less strict with my two younger brothers now (they do say parents do that don't they?).

[tibilicus]

My mums always been relaxed.

I think to be honest I see my mum as a testimony to liberal parenting. I know people with really over bearing mothers both now and when they were younger and they turned out a hell of a lot worse because of a strict upbringing than I did with a relaxed one.

[Kagemusha]

Havent lived with my mum since i was 12. Novadays she is a severe alcoholic and i mostly only hear from her when she is asking money. Id rather remember her how she was when i was a child, rather then the wreck that is left from her these days.

[Husar]

Control, hmm, my parents controlled me a bit when I was <18 but after that they let me decide most things for myself, since I live alone now they don't really control me at all, they give me advice and support me but generally let me live my life but try to steer me in a good direction with advice.
And both my parents also appreciate my advice in certain things, in fact my mom always tells me she likes to hear my voice and talk to me, she also likes to have me around and say it relaxes her, so maybe I actually got some control over her.
We do respect and love eachother though so all is fine I'd say, there was a period though where I told my mom that I have to be on my own now, because she was uhm, caring a bit too much about my things, she understood and accepted that though, so all is fine as I said.

Well, except that I'm still lazy and slow...

[Uesugi Kenshin]

I put none because none of the other options was that close. When I'm home she lets me borrow her car fairly frequently, but she almost never doesn't let me borrow it so she doesn't exactly have control over me. Especially since I'm at college and rarely at home. My dad is definitely much more of an influence for me.

[LittleGrizzly]

Havent lived with my mum since i was 12. Novadays she is a severe alcoholic and i mostly only hear from her when she is asking money. Id rather remember her how she was when i was a child, rather then the wreck that is left from her these days.

Thats terrible, no child (or adult) should have to go through that!

[ByzanKing]

Being that I am 32 and married she has no control. However her control has been passed on to my wife,

[Reverend Joe]

Hell, my ma never had any control over me; but then, it's kinda hard to have any control over a child you rarely see for more than an hour a day because you're either going to night school or (when that crap was over) staying at school until 7:00 at night. What in god's name keeps a kindergarden teacher in a classroom hours after the day is over, I never knew and probably never will.

My father, on the other hand, still gives me the occasional nightmare, even though he hasn't been a meanass sumbitch for years and we get along very well now. An Irish father with no mother around to moderate him is a very, very scary thing.

But on the other hand, I know how to treat my kids now.