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    Quote Originally Posted by Jolt View Post
    Kid, being 13 sucks. Its ridiculous (I'm sorry to put it so bluntly) that you wanna stop living your life so soon when you practically haven't even started it. You have NO idea what is coming for you in 5 years, when you (Hopefully) graduate. I have to confess that at all my bad times in my life, I always thought positive. (Bleh, life will eventually improve.) Some people think its sorta wierd that when I'm down, I laugh a lot at insignificant things, because I love living through the bad times since when I go through them, I remember that I had said things were gonna improve and they did. Just as I'm 100% sure that your life WILL improve. You quite possibly won't be everything you want to be, have all the friends and girls you want, but these will eventually come (Heck, I'm 19, and I know ALOT of guys who still haven't got a single girlfriend yet, by my age)

    Here's my casual solution for a 13th year old kid (I know school sucks, everyone laughs mocks you, etc.)

    First thing: Are you good with school? If you are then try to focus as much as you can (I wasn't the coolest guy in the block, and I was (mildly) ridiculed. Nothing I couldn't cope with. Focussing on school (And games. :P) was one of my ways to pay back at them.) Focus on school, it will be your future, many of the guys and girls who laugh at you won't be one tenth of what you'll be in the future if you focus on it.

    Second thing: Are you good (As in enjoying. Being good is just a bonus.) with any sports? You SERIOUSLY NEED to get into collective Sports (Soccer/Football, Volleyball, Handball, Basketball, anything). They are the salvation for most guys in your condition. You'll have to forget the fear of being ridiculed and try your hardest at improving in that Sport. And try to socialize, even if others shrug you off (Depends on the collective mood towards newcomers), whether or not you're well recieved in the beginning, most of the times you end up being friends with your teammates (Or some of them) At your age, youth's teams always field everyone regardless of skill. So even if you suck (You need to focus also on that Sports), you'll still be able to play and feel like you're contributing to something (YOU WILL CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR TEAM and YOU WILL MAKE FRIENDS, You will hear your coach trying to push you harder, you'll be complemented when you make a good pass, etc. You will take part in the collective celebration of victory when you win games. Provided you stay long enough, you will make friends in there. You can't quit. Show yourself you are a winner.)

    Provided you try these things, you will eventually improve your own life. The most important matter is to stay focused and try not to be disturbed by stupid commentaries and as I usually say, life will improve.
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    try Jolt's suggestion and join a team. even the chess team, if you have one. go out for a run. make it habitual. work out, excercise, read books.
    dont concentrate on what you dont have. concentrate on what you HAVE.
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    Default Re: I am going to commit suicide. Help me find a reason not to.

    Kid, you don't need your computer nor your XBox. You don't see everyone in Africa depressed because they don't have XBox, do you? As I said, do your best to focus on school and GET yourself into a collective sports. These two things together give you much to handle.
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    Default Re: I am going to commit suicide. Help me find a reason not to.

    Quote Originally Posted by hooahguy View Post
    try Jolt's suggestion and join a team. even the chess team, if you have one. go out for a run. make it habitual. work out, excercise, read books.
    dont concentrate on what you dont have. concentrate on what you HAVE.
    i take school online, and i do baseball. its boring and no one on the team likes me either.
    Quote Originally Posted by Jolt View Post
    Kid, you don't need your computer nor your XBox. You don't see everyone in Africa depressed because they don't have XBox, do you? As I said, do your best to focus on school and GET yourself into a collective sports. These two things together give you much to handle.
    yah and people in africa have never brought thier 8th grade science grade from a 21 up to a 91 in 3 weeks to earn a xbox or computer.
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    Default Re: I am going to commit suicide. Help me find a reason not to.

    Quote Originally Posted by John-117 View Post
    i take school online, and i do baseball. its boring and no one on the team likes me either.
    try a sport that people need to rely on you to succeed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jolt View Post
    Kid, you don't need your computer nor your XBox. You don't see everyone in Africa depressed because they don't have XBox, do you?
    Bad logic. They have not tried XBox. Once you have tried something, and grown accustomed to it, withdrawal is rather difficult. But as for myself, I am not mcuh of a game fan. All I play are RTS games, and for the last two years I have mainly played EB, still on my first and only campaign, which says quite a bit about how much time I spend playing.

    I am fearful of losing my savegame for that campaign though, but to counter this, I have backups of it on three computers, two flash drives, and four discs. As for the games, I think all of you gentlemen know where to get some if you do not like/cannot pay for them...

    My sympathies are with you however. You do not have very wise/caring parents as I can see. Losing such things is difficult I can imagine. But no reason to commit suicide. Then again, I understand there are quite a bit of other factors as well.

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