need help...

[Yoyoma1910]

oh i get it.....4-Hillbillies. gotcha

ok so i still have the matter of how can i find a way to talk to her?

Get her to join 4-H with you.

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

1. She talked about planes. At a bar. While drinking. PLANES?!?!??!?!??!?!??! WHO THE HELL CARES ABOUT PLANES?!?!?!??! WHO THE HELL TALKS ABOUT PLANES AT A BAR?!?!?!?

Note to self - this is why nobody reacts to Flight Simulator X talk.

2. She wasn't good looking. And the other one made a certain someone something stir in my lower regions.

Point taken.

[Prussian to the Iron]

Get her to join 4-H with you.

what? im no hillbilly. i dont even know if there is one around here, plus it looks boring as all hell.

[pevergreen]

Just show her what ub3r mirc0 you have. Knock on the door, then play a game of C&C Generals in your mind, acting out the keyboard and mouse. Show her how smooth your mouse grip is, how fast your fingers are on the keyboard.

Once she sees the micro, shes yours.


Yes, thats actually gotten me a girl. A hot one too, that doesnt play games.

[Yoyoma1910]

what? im no hillbilly. i dont even know if there is one around here, plus it looks boring as all hell.

Yes, well, I'm no hillbilly either. In fact, there aren't any hills at all where I'm from. Just mud and swamps.

As far as boring... well, what's your definition of boring? It's no more boring than some of the twaddle you'll have to listen to when you start dating girls.

My advice is not to date your neighbors. If things go south, or you just want to get away from them, everyday will be awkward. It'd be kind of like being married.

[KarlXII]

Ok, so heres what i need help with:

this girl moved in accross the street from me and is my age. i want to ask her out but i dont know her very well. at my age asking if she can come out and play will sound kinda weird, so how can i spend some time with her and get to ask her out?

But Aquaman, you can't ask out a woman without gills. You're from two different worlds!

Just kidding, get to know her, find things she likes, try setting up a time to hangout. You could, and probably should, start with a group of people, then if you find things going further, try going somewhere with just her.

Best of luck!

[a completely inoffensive name]

this thread has provided much lol's. thank you everyone.

[Sarmatian]

Spare yourself the aggravation and forget about her for a few years. There's plenty of time for women to ruin your life later, no need to rush.


For the serious answer...

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

Seriously, I think you're both too young, and if there's not some common point of interest (like, you both play WOW, or something) you'll be bored when you're alone.

But, if you persist in doing something, anything will do, trust me. At the age of 13, she's just insecure as you are. Act like you know what you're doing, even if you don't. She doesn't know what she would like you to do, so it's all the same. Don't talk too much, suggest some activity, it doesn't matter what, biking, arcade, mall, computer games, watching movies, swimming... You know what girls your age like to do.

I presume there are at least a few kids your age where you live and that you hang out with them sometimes. The next time you kids get together to do whatever you do, just go over to her house, ring the bell and ask her if she would like to hang out with you and your friends, 'cause you know she's just moved here, she doesn't know anybody blah, blah, blah. She should jump at the opportunity to meet kids her age. That's a good ice breaker and after that, if it goes well, you can invite her to do something together, just the two of you.

[KukriKhan]

oh i get it.....4-Hillbillies. gotcha

ok so i still have the matter of how can i find a way to talk to her?

Mow her lawn.

-edit-
If she's worthwhile (or well-brought up) she'll come out and offer you water.

Talk.

Then you're on your own.

[Strike For The South]

Mow her lawn.

And get dirty? Pishhhhshaaawwww

[KukriKhan]

And get dirty? Pishhhhshaaawwww

Heh. Young people.

Want attention? Do something.

Preferably, something constructive, not just cartwheels down the sidewalk.

"Hey, what are you doing?'

"Aww, I got bored doing our lawn for my Dad, and I still have half a tank of gas, so I figured..."

"It's kinda, like, dirty work, huh?"

"A little. But I don't mind. Water cleans it all away."

"Hey. Want some water?"

"OK"

Ten years and 3 babies later, they'll still talk about the 'Lawn Mower Day' with affection. And the kids will hate hearing it again for the 400th time.

Or:

She'll watch from behind the curtains and never come out, much less offer water. In which case: don't waste your time. She's not ready yet, and may have issues bigger than you wanna handle.

[Strike For The South]

1. Cartwheels down a sidewalk would start a convo. ESP if he can pull them off in rapid succession.

2. Im a man/flexs



I'll agree to your plan only if he walks over without telling anyone.

[Ice]

oh i get it.....4-Hillbillies. gotcha

ok so i still have the matter of how can i find a way to talk to her?

No need to be a dick.

As for the girl, why don't you tell your mom to invite her family over for dinner? It worked for a friend of mine back in the day.

[Strike For The South]

Just be outside. Flash a smile.

Have your mum invite them over for some food.

No need to be a dick.

As for the girl, why don't you tell your mom to invite her family over for dinner? It worked for a friend of mine back in the day.

How's it going amigo?

[Ice]

How's it going amigo?

Great minds think alike.

[Beefy187]

Two easy routes.

Ones what Strike and Kush suggested.

Second is the opposite. Be friend with the other mother and make them invite your family for dinner. Probs she'll introduce you to the girl

Theres other ways like chucking a baseball into their garden when the girls families aren't around, ask for a trick or treat together or what ever.. But important thing is to be your self, and don't expect the girl to be your lover to start with. Aim for her to be a friend first.

Oh and never go to a movie with a girl.. especially not just a two of you. While men prefers action films, girls like romance. So avoid it if you can. Horror is fine but horrors are often R18+

Good luck and do keep telling us the progress.

[Sigurd]

What about writing stuff to her and put it in her mailbox? (Or better send it via the postal service).
See if she runs out as soon as the post man comes along. If she does, you know you have succeeded. She will be looking for a secret admirer. The final letter will be signed and she will be knocking on your door.

[Banquo's Ghost]

Mow her lawn.

Excellent idea, but doesn't he have to ask her out first?

Oh, you mean it's not a euphemism...

And the other one made a certain someone something stir in my lower regions.

Reminds me - Rule 7 of First Dates - no curry.

[Vuk]

First of all, I would not date a neighbor or a co-worker untill you get to know them very well, as you are gonna be stuck with them.
That aside though, it is pretty simple. Knock on the door when you know she is home. When her ma answers it, tell her you would like to speak with her daughter. Ask the girl if she wants to go get a creamy with you and go see a movie. That is how I did it and it worked fine. :P
Best advice, don't be afraid and don't put a lot onto it. Girls do not like nervous guys. Let her know you want to spend time with her, but don't let her smash you if she refuses.

[pevergreen]

Excellent idea, but doesn't he have to ask her out first?

Oh, you mean it's not a euphemism...

icwatudidther.

You are 14, she is 13. It 'aint gunna be much of a relationship anyway.

There is some great advice in this thread, if you wade through the Strike for the South junk.

As my ex would say to me, as I left school:

GL HF!

[HoreTore]

My advice is not to date your neighbors. If things go south, or you just want to get away from them, everyday will be awkward. It'd be kind of like being married.

My ex's are all in different parts of the country. The closest one is about 3 hours away, the next closest one 8 hours. Me likes.

Spare yourself the aggravation and forget about her for a few years. There's plenty of time for women to ruin your life later, no need to rush.


For the serious answer...

Spoiler Alert, click show to read: 

Seriously, I think you're both too young, and if there's not some common point of interest (like, you both play WOW, or something) you'll be bored when you're alone.

But, if you persist in doing something, anything will do, trust me. At the age of 13, she's just insecure as you are. Act like you know what you're doing, even if you don't. She doesn't know what she would like you to do, so it's all the same. Don't talk too much, suggest some activity, it doesn't matter what, biking, arcade, mall, computer games, watching movies, swimming... You know what girls your age like to do.

I presume there are at least a few kids your age where you live and that you hang out with them sometimes. The next time you kids get together to do whatever you do, just go over to her house, ring the bell and ask her if she would like to hang out with you and your friends, 'cause you know she's just moved here, she doesn't know anybody blah, blah, blah. She should jump at the opportunity to meet kids her age. That's a good ice breaker and after that, if it goes well, you can invite her to do something together, just the two of you.

I made myself feel old before, now you've made me feel even older.... And I'm just 22

Mow her lawn.

Now you made my mind all dirty... This would be a good time to ship that young, hot maid we talked about. You got daughters, right?

Reminds me - Rule 7 of First Dates - no curry.

I am proud to say that I've never been on a "date". Sounds like way too much work, with too little chance of any fun stuff happening. Much better to consume large ammounts of beer and go out ....and go home alone a few hours later....

[Yoyoma1910]

My ex's are all in different parts of the country. The closest one is about 3 hours away, the next closest one 8 hours. Me likes.

It's better when they're in different countries, and even better when they're on other continents.

[Beefy187]

What about writing stuff to her and put it in her mailbox? (Or better send it via the postal service).
See if she runs out as soon as the post man comes along. If she does, you know you have succeeded. She will be looking for a secret admirer. The final letter will be signed and she will be knocking on your door.

I would be happy but then again I'm a guy. I think I'll be creeped if I were her.

First of all, I would not date a neighbor or a co-worker untill you get to know them very well, as you are gonna be stuck with them.
That aside though, it is pretty simple. Knock on the door when you know she is home. When her ma answers it, tell her you would like to speak with her daughter. Ask the girl if she wants to go get a creamy with you and go see a movie. That is how I did it and it worked fine. :P
Best advice, don't be afraid and don't put a lot onto it. Girls do not like nervous guys. Let her know you want to spend time with her, but don't let her smash you if she refuses.

Good point

GL HF!

What does that mean?

It's better when they're in different countries, and even better when they're on other continents.

Damn it, I know I should've asked someone out before I left Australia

[pevergreen]

What does that mean?

Good Luck, Have Fun.

I told you. I told you that you should have asked every single girl in our year level out. You were leaving the next day...

You'll regret it forever, trust me.

[Prussian to the Iron]

so......if i want to get here attention just do stuff outside while she's watching?

[Fragony]

Steal something of hers and then return it!

LOL, brilliant strategy.

@OP, you only look like a fool if you agree. If she turns you down, give her a smile, 'ok no problem'.

Good luck.

Mow her lawn.

But she is 13 no need for powertools

[pevergreen]

@OP, you only look like a fool if you agree. If she turns you down, give her a smile, 'ok no problem'.

Very good strategy. I've asked out and been turned down by nearly every girl I've been friends with. If you make the girl feel alright about how they are etc, and appear happy no matter what her answer is, she will think better of you.

[Vuk]

Very good strategy. I've asked out and been turned down by nearly every girl I've been friends with. If you make the girl feel alright about how they are etc, and appear happy no matter what her answer is, she will think better of you.

Not to mention that you will look like desperate if you do not shrug it off. Girls get creeped out by desperate guys. Not to say that because a guy puts a lot on a girl's affection there is something wrong with him, but that is the way girls think (that is why they always get stuck with the jerks who think nothing of them :P). I made that mistake when I was younger, but learned really quickly that it was not so much about really liking someone as it was giving them what they want. You can do both of course, but if you if just like them, that ain't gonna do you too much good.

[Yoyoma1910]

Damn it, I know I should've asked someone out before I left Australia

Yeah, it also makes travel much cheaper.

[Hax]

Dude, you even make me feel old, and I'm 16. For 's sake, I should stop reading these threads.