Advice Thread

[Cute Wolf]

I need a really serious advice: How to explain your girlfriend's parents, that you are her boyfriend? Before giving an advice, I suggest you to see my GF's pics in Family Album... and I am a Christian...

Not happned yet... but sooner or later I must face this....

[Hooahguy]

is she muslim?

[Rhyfelwyr]

is she muslim?

If she is, just tell her parents that it is OK because she has converted to Christianity anyway.

[Beefy187]

I need a really serious advice: How to explain your girlfriend's parents, that you are her boyfriend? Before giving an advice, I suggest you to see my GF's pics in Family Album... and I am a Christian...

Not happned yet... but sooner or later I must face this....

Be confident and make occasional eye contact is the best advice
Unless you seem to be the play boy type, most parents will be nice to you.

I take it that her family is muslim, so do your homework about Islam so that you don't say/ do anything rude.

[Cute Wolf]

well, she is.... clearly a muslim...
and I know much about them... but still don't know how to tell her parents... I was her boyfriend... without getting a "HUH? WHAT DID YOU THINK?" statement. I allready meet with them, and have a good relation, but didn't tell them about our relationship...

[Askthepizzaguy]

One would think if you two are spending time together, and you're a guy, they would assume just from observing you that you two have something more than a friendship. As parents of a daughter, they would be ultra-observant of any male person who gets near her. They would erroneously assume just about any guy would be a potential boyfriend for her, and if she's mostly seeing just you (i.e. not having a bunch of guys over all the time) then I would probably conclude that her parents already know.

Just be very respectful to her and to them and you should be fine. As for telling them about your relationship, you can if you want to; unless they already disapprove of your friendship with her there shouldn't be a problem.

This applies to most situations but with Muslims, depending on how "observant" they are, there could be a problem, if you're not Muslim or if you otherwise offend their religious sensibilities or if they are just extremely paranoid about their daughter. I'm afraid all situations are going to be unique, but generally speaking the Muslim part does make dating more difficult because of the rules and observance of the religion makes people do things which are, from my perspective, strange or restrictive.

Not meant to be judgmental, just observing differences.