Advice Thread

[Vuk]

First of all, a general note. ATPG and I are going to try to answer your questions as fast as possible (we are in different time zones (with a small overlap), so when one is not on, the other should be), but it would be a lot easier without all the clutter. If you have a serious question, post it here. Leave the jokes and random thoughts for the random thought thread. If you seriously want to give advice, I encourage it, because as ATPG said, we do not have all the answers, and different opinions often help lead to the best advice. If you do contribute to advice though, I kindly ask that you use spoilers to keep things clean.
Thank you for understanding.

whats the best way to maintain a lon-distance relationship? like across the seas? (gf may be going to Israel for next year )

A long distance relationship is extremely hard to keep hooahguy, and hardly ever works. I guess a relevant question here is how long will she be overseas? I am not trying to disuade you, but you have to think if it is really worth it to you, and really worth the heart break if she decides that it is not. Also keep in mind that all the students who I am travelling with here have gf's and bf's back in the States, but they are also going out with people while they are in Hungary, and having intimate relationships. They simply do not tell their passionate sweetheart in the States. I know that you must love her if you are willing to keep true to her when she is oversseas, but take into account that that is what people generally do from what I have known. If she is going to be gone for a long time, you may find it very hard to keep up a relationship, and eventually one of you may decide that it is just not worth it. First thing I would do is find out if she feels the same about keeping up the relationship. If she does not feel strongly about it, it will not work.
If you want to keep your relationship with her up, you need to be present in her mind a lot, because people she meets there will be. Talk to her by phone so she can hear your voice. I think that is very important, because from my experience, people feel more commitment and more guilt when they consider cheating if they actually hear the person's voice and the emotion in it, instead of looking at characters on their screen. The rules of any other relationship apply I think. Surprise her with funny stuff, send her stuff when you can afford it. Take time to talk with her about the type of stuff you like to talk about. Discuss your future with her now and again.
Best advice I could give you though is give it a chance, work torward it, be true to her, etc, but don't let her break your heart if she decides that it is not important to her. At the risk of sounding a lot older than I am, you are still young, and there are plenty of women out there.
I hope this helps.

(so much for my intended comedic approach :P)

Ok, here's a question for Vuk - where the hell are you now?

Hey Brian, I am back in Szegen now. I went to Visegrad and got to see the bridge like I wanted, then I waited till 11 at night to catch a bus back to Novi Sad, and from there I went to Subotica, and from there took a bus to Szeged...all the while not catching an ounce of sleep. :P I spent most of yesterday (I got hom some time in the afternoon) sleeping, with the exception of a few trollish posts here. :P I am gonna post about my trip on the appropriate thread. I gotta say here though, the terrain I saw between Belgrade and Visegrad is the most beautiful site I have ever seen in my life. I sure hope I get a chance to come back and see it again (there was a parituclar castle up in the mountains I saw people climbing up to that I would love to explore some time ).