The other side of the mirror

[Louis VI the Fat]

Il n'y a de bon dans l'homme que ses jeunes sentiments et ses vieilles pensées.

[Tribesman]

It is freely done, it is his choice as an adult, and as a result it is his place, and not ours, to decide if it is right or wrong.

Bollox .

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

Bollox .

Hardly.

[Hosakawa Tito]

There comes a time when every young man or woman needs to decide what they will do in life, and how they will live it. You raise them the best way you can, to the best of your abilities, and then one day you must let them go. You can't live their life for them or protect them from life's ups & downs anymore, even though your paternal instincts may be sounding the alarm. Be there for them when needed, give your honest opinion if asked, and pray like hell. One can't be afraid to live one's life, to strive and sometimes fail. That's life, and those of us who have been to a few rodeos have all experienced this to some degree. We were all young and invincible once. The only difference now is experience, and the only way to get that is....making your choices and having the courage of your convictions to accept the consequences.
It is what it is. I shall keep your nephew in my prayers, Brenus.

[seireikhaan]

I'm with Hosa. People need to forge their own path in the world. The problem lays in when they must take the reigns from their guardians; ideally, sooner rather than later. Of course, the world isn't an ideal place, and people don't always use good judgement. I would like to think that I'm beyond my "young and immortal" phase, but really I'm not. I still don't take as good a care of myself as I should, I still don't take the care that I should, I still don't plan as much as I should. But learning is a part of the journey, and I hope to do much more of it. We all make mistakes; we just hope that there is an opportunity to learn from them, so that they may be sucesses in the future.

I know not whether this will be a mistake or not, Brennus. Regardless, decision of such a nature as this are bound to breed new learning experiences. Hopefully your nephew makes it out well.

[Tribesman]

Hardly.

doubleplusbollox
The fact that he is an adult and is making his own choice has no relevance whatsoever as to how others view his choice .

[Husar]

doubleplusbollox
The fact that he is an adult and is making his own choice has no relevance whatsoever as to how others view his choice .

Absolutely, otherwise all the discussions in the Backroom would be wrong, I mean should not exist. After all politicians are adults and make their own choices so who would we be to discuss them?

[Evil_Maniac From Mars]

The fact that he is an adult and is making his own choice has no relevance whatsoever as to how others view his choice .

It is his place to decide if he made the right choice, and it seems very wrong to ridicule him or to disapprove of his situation without actually knowing anything about the situation.