So a pregnancy is at 20 weeks. The man wants it and always wanted it.

Woman decides to dump the man and run off with somone she's just met. She has an abortion.

Who here is being selfish and cruel?

I feel you illustrated very well how that, although both men and women are equal, the man has no say at any point in the pregnancy as to what happens, although has to deal with the consequences of the choice the women makes.