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    Ja mata, TosaInu Forum Administrator edyzmedieval's Avatar
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    Unhappy How do I man up

    It's also called girl problems. Or a hole I dug and I can't come out of it.

    So what's the deal? I hooked up with this really sweet French girl ( awash in happiness Louis ) but as it turns out, I wasn't thinking too far about it and it turns out she wants a full relationship now. I'm not scared about it, but there's two things which quirk me:

    1. She's way too nice. I know from now you won't do anything special or out of the ordinary with her. She's one of those super sweet, hard working girls (she wants to be a neuro-surgeon - I'm put to shame )

    2. She's a newbie when it comes to love. I won't go into details, but I have a heavy feeling I'm her first guy and she's already 18, and I don't have enough patience right now. When I'm 30 its ok, but now... Sorry.




    How do I man up to her and tell her I don't want a relationship? She's new in the school and if I tell her now I'm gonna hurt her, and it's not good especially at this time.

    Help please! I'm stuck!
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    Weigh your options. What have you got lose, and what do you have to gain by sticking around and seeing what happens? But, if you really don't want to be in this relationship, just be honest. Thats how you man up. You don't have to go into details, why you don't want to be in the relationship, if she asks why you can just say "now isn't a good time for me." She may not like it, she might not want to hang out and be your friend afterward, but that comes with the territory of being a responsible adult, it's not about pleasing the crowd, it's about doing whats best, even if nobody sees it at the time. She will probably be hurt, or angry with you, or she might completely understand... though I doubt it. But she'll probably come around, and you can have your cake and eat it too, it might just take some waiting.

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    When you're 25, you'll say that "if only I could come across with one like that without the need to make an explanation to anyone around you".

    Still, cultures, people and bleh. Good luck.

    Edit: Since this can not be an effective solution, the post was free of charge.

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    Quote Originally Posted by edyzmedieval View Post
    really sweet French girl

    1. one of those super sweet, hard working girls (she wants to be a neuro-surgeon

    2. She's a newbie when it comes to love. she's already 18,


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    If you don't want her, I'll take her. I got a First in Neuropsychology and I could woe her with my talk of Broca's area 44 and it's assocation with Area 5 in Monkeys and how they are similar.
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    Just tell her, there's no special way to work around these things. You can either tell her and most likely hurt her feelings or simply don't tell her and play her along which in the long term will probably hurt her more.

    Your choice, there's no easy way out though I'm afraid.


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    Dude, neuro surgeon...... Date her man. And who said getting a girl unskilled is a bad thing. Teach her how you like it and she will be like personalized for you.

    Vote: give the girl a chance

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    I'm jealous.
    She really does sounds like one of those super sweet girl who exist one in ten million..

    This might be the last chance you'll ever get to date a girl like that.
    I'm with Centurion on this one. Try your best to make the relationship work. If the relationship fails then she will want to break up as well, so your job should be much easier.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Louis VI the Fat View Post
    I'm willing to help you out! Erm...why don't you PM me her telephone number, and I'll...uh...I'll see what I can do for you
    Such sacrifice!

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    Indeed, All orgahs should follow his noble example!
    Parla più piano e nessuno sentirà, il nostro amore lo viviamo io e te,
    nessuno sa la verità, neppure il cielo che ci guarda da lassù.
    Insieme a te io resterò,
    amore mio, sempre così.
    Parla più piano e vieni più vicino a me, Voglio sentire gli occhi miei dentro di te,
    nessuno sa la verità, è un grande amore e mai più grande esisterà.
    Insieme a te io resterò,
    amore mio, sempre così.
    Parla più piano e vieni più vicino a me,Voglio sentire gli occhi miei dentro di te,
    nessuno sa la verità,è un grande amore e mai più grande esisterà.

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    Quote Originally Posted by slashandburn View Post
    Indeed, All orgahs should follow his noble example!
    Have to admit; it was my first thought
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    Question Re: How do I man up

    First of all, what does "hook-up" mean? Does it denote, sex, heavy contact, or just a casual relationship with no more than kissing?

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    How do I man up to her and tell her I don't want a relationship? She's new in the school and if I tell her now I'm gonna hurt her, and it's not good especially at this time.
    You've already ditched her (in your mind) in favor of a make-believe "... hot NL blonde, who's 25 and looks like a blast. She doesn't need to be smart, I just wanna have fun with her.". So why worry about hurting anyone?
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    Quote Originally Posted by KukriKhan View Post
    You've already ditched her (in your mind) in favor of a make-believe "... hot NL blonde, who's 25 and looks like a blast. She doesn't need to be smart, I just wanna have fun with her.". So why worry about hurting anyone?

    Im with the Khan on this

    you've already decided your missing out on 'fun' by being in a relationship with the girl, while there are party girls out there looking for something cheap and meaningless as well. The relationship will suffer because you feel the grass is greener and will blame her for it.

    break it off now before you destroy any future chance with this girl
    if your lucky enough maybe you can get her back - when you man up in a few years.
    but I bet she'll be taken
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    Gimme her contact, she'll forget about you. Deal ?

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    Wouldn't be surprised if you regret this one, but whatever.

    The least you can do is be honest with her.

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    I'm still in favor of sticking with her. But, if you absolutely must break up with her, honesty is always the best policy.
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    Oh, dammit, I'll stick with her. The majority of people telling me to stick with her has been so overwhelming (something like 30 to 5) that I'll give it a chance and I'll see how it goes.
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    dude it is going to go good. You got a triple threat, smart, pretty, and nice. aint nothing better on gods good earth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Centurion1 View Post
    You got a triple threat, smart, pretty, and nice. aint nothing better on gods good earth.
    And 18. And a virgin. And, dare I say it, French.

    Edyz owned all of us just now. Together with 99,99% of the world's male population:

    'Hello, this 18 year old beautiful, kind, neurosurgeon virgin really is really into me. Should I go for it or not?'

    'Oh, and these two 1,85 meter, blond Swedish girls want a threesome. What do you guys think - should I? Elisha Cutberth desperately wants to join in too. But I don't really fancy her...'


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    Quote Originally Posted by Centurion1 View Post
    dude it is going to go good. You got a triple threat, smart, pretty, and nice. aint nothing better on gods good earth.
    Frikkin smart, she's decent looking and she's very very nice.


    Quote Originally Posted by Louis
    And 18. And a virgin. And, dare I say it, French.

    Edyz owned all of us just now. Together with 99,99% of the world's male population:

    'Hello, this 18 year old beautiful, kind, neurosurgeon virgin really is really into me. Should I go for it or not?'

    'Oh, and these two 1,85 meter, blond Swedish girls want a threesome. What do you guys think - should I? Elisha Cutberth desperately wants to join in too. But I don't really fancy her...'
    Yeah, see, here's the point, I'll more than gladly take her when I'm 30. She's gonna be a perfect wife.

    On the other hand, some guys said I won't have this dumb luck any time soon. And it will take a long time until I get a really sweet girl after 1 hour. (I'm proud, we hooked up after one hour of talking )

    But on the other hand, I wanna try my skill at hot girls (a.k.a. fit and good looking).

    I'm stuck!!! AAArrgghhh!!!
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