Should I?

[Ibn-Khaldun]

Yes, "Yes man" is a good movie.
Bought it's dvd recently!

[pevergreen]

Situation:

First option above, new girl has come into the picture. Very interesting, good sense of humour (compatible with mine, which is rather rare) quite pretty. 70% sure she's interested.

Second option...ex girlfriend.
https://forums.totalwar.org/vb/showthread.php?t=106367
Her. Backroom thread, so you may not have access.

You may ask, why?

I still love her. I can't stop. I talked to her sunday night and did everything I could to start despising her properly, but it ended up we just talked about the first time we spent together and how happy we were.

Bad idea for first one: Shes three years younger. Which makes her 15.

I'm caught in the middle. Right now, I aim for the former and back-up meeting with the latter.

Is either a good idea?

[Prussian to the Iron]

Situation:
Bad idea for first one: Shes three years younger. Which makes her 15.

I'm caught in the middle. Right now, I aim for the former and back-up meeting with the latter.

Is either a good idea?

LOL are you a pedo pever?

18 year old....or 15 year old whos 3 years younger than you.......is it that hard?

but drug use and attempted suicide....i have a friend whos girlfriend was just like that; she did drugs, drank, and smoked, until finally he dumped her for it. after swearing that she would stop he took her back.

than she started again, and that was her last chance.

people like that dont ever change, no matter what you do. if you want to be around a drug-using, alcohol drinking, smoking pregnant chick thats not my business to tell you not to.


ask me? I say drop em both: 1 is jailbait and 1 seems like a loser.

[A Very Super Market]

Pedophilia is a desire for pre-pubescent children. Ephebophilia would be a proper descriptor, but the ages are so close that it hardly matters.

[pevergreen]

She comes of age in a few months, so the low age is not the factor.

Yes PI, I am a pedo.

I had a post written but the sheer....I don't even know. I can't relpy without insulting you PI, so I say nothing.

[Samurai Waki]

LOL are you a pedo pever?

18 year old....or 15 year old whos 3 years younger than you...

I'm not going to insult your intelligence, even though the temptation is terribly difficult... I'm 5 years older than my wife.

My Father was 16 years older than my mom,

my sister in law is 14 years older than my brother...

You get the picture, now all you have to do is grow up a bit.

[pevergreen]

Plus the other one is 19 now.


WOAH.

[Prussian to the Iron]

I'm not going to insult your intelligence, even though the temptation is terribly difficult... I'm 5 years older than my wife.

My Father was 16 years older than my mom,

my sister in law is 14 years older than my brother...

You get the picture, now all you have to do is grow up a bit.

oh no, thats not what i meant at all. what i meant was the fact that he said she was 15. my mom is 10 years older than my dad.

no cougar jokes please

Plus the other one is 19 now.


WOAH.

the one who is older and was doing drugs and stuff?

[pevergreen]

Yes that one.

So, shes 15. 3 year age difference, fine.

But I bet a score (practising my english english) that she's more mature than you.

[LeftEyeNine]

Oh nevermind.

[Andres]

Make up your mind about your ex (current?) girlfriend before doing anything else.

If you really want to end the history with your (current?) ex, then just break all contact for several months.

Once you're over it, go back to hunting.

[pevergreen]

Already have. After the last post in that thread:

Next few weeks we stopped lieing to each other about everything. A lot of what i knew about her was false, but it meant the bad things she told me were false.

No contact until feb, she contacts me out of the blue and asks to see me and keep her company. Lacking anything to do on a saturday night (as usual) i agree and meet her. Discover she now smokes, drinks heavily and does illicit drugs. Oh and that night I sat waiting for her for an hour to even show up.

Another 6 months without contact.

Then another message.

"Help me I think I'm pregnant."

I help her out.

Then nothing, until now a few weeks ago. We start talking on and off.

In the last year I've seen her twice.

[Andres]

Sounds to me like she's abusing your friendship to help cleaning up her mess whenever a cleaner is needed.

Don't let her play with your feelings.

I'll be blunt: dump her.

And, since you're apparently still in love with her, do yourself a favour and give yourself enough time to get over it before starting something with another girl.

[pevergreen]

Theres nothing to be dumped.

I've tried. And it goes away. But then every time I get close to something new, she pops back in.

Like a tripwire.

[Andres]

After the last post in that thread:

Next few weeks we stopped lieing to each other about everything. A lot of what i knew about her was false, but it meant the bad things she told me were false.

Are you saying she was making all that stuff up back then?

Regardless, you had a relationship, it didn't work out and it'll probably never work out. You were there for her because there were signs of a serious crisis (depression, bad situation at home). You did what you could. In the process, your relationship didn't survive.

Now, you need to be able to carry on with your life. It seems to me that as long as this girl/woman has not completely disappeared out of your life, you won't be able to.

If she really cares about you, she'll understand that now is the time for her to disappear and to leave you alone.

Right now, she's being selfish and abusing your feelings. It has to stop.

[caravel]

Discover she now smokes, drinks heavily and does illicit drugs. Oh and that night I sat waiting for her for an hour to even show up.

Get out of it now before it's too late.

[naut]

As Andres said. She is being selfish, and abusing your trust and emotions. Please, for your own sake do not go back to her. Yes, it's nice to think about helping people out, but in a situation like this where you now have very little to do with her you should think of yourself first.

On the other issue, 15 seems a little young. You are 18 correct well, 18 /2 = 9 + 7 = 16, which is sort of downward limit. However, I'm not here to judge and at the end of the day you should do what feels right by you.

[Fragony]

On the other issue, 15 seems a little young.

Nah, being an 18 year old male is being young