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    Already have. After the last post in that thread:

    Next few weeks we stopped lieing to each other about everything. A lot of what i knew about her was false, but it meant the bad things she told me were false.

    No contact until feb, she contacts me out of the blue and asks to see me and keep her company. Lacking anything to do on a saturday night (as usual) i agree and meet her. Discover she now smokes, drinks heavily and does illicit drugs. Oh and that night I sat waiting for her for an hour to even show up.

    Another 6 months without contact.

    Then another message.

    "Help me I think I'm pregnant."

    I help her out.

    Then nothing, until now a few weeks ago. We start talking on and off.

    In the last year I've seen her twice.
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    Sounds to me like she's abusing your friendship to help cleaning up her mess whenever a cleaner is needed.

    Don't let her play with your feelings.

    I'll be blunt: dump her.

    And, since you're apparently still in love with her, do yourself a favour and give yourself enough time to get over it before starting something with another girl.
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    Theres nothing to be dumped.

    I've tried. And it goes away. But then every time I get close to something new, she pops back in.

    Like a tripwire.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pevergreen
    After the last post in that thread:

    Next few weeks we stopped lieing to each other about everything. A lot of what i knew about her was false, but it meant the bad things she told me were false.

    Are you saying she was making all that stuff up back then?

    Regardless, you had a relationship, it didn't work out and it'll probably never work out. You were there for her because there were signs of a serious crisis (depression, bad situation at home). You did what you could. In the process, your relationship didn't survive.

    Now, you need to be able to carry on with your life. It seems to me that as long as this girl/woman has not completely disappeared out of your life, you won't be able to.

    If she really cares about you, she'll understand that now is the time for her to disappear and to leave you alone.

    Right now, she's being selfish and abusing your feelings. It has to stop.
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    Not entirely true. She said she was ing up and that she should never speak to me again, but I stopped her.

    I don't know why.

    I'm going to play D&D and think thoughts in a few hours.

    I welcome any other opinions.

    To all those who helped me back then, you have my sincere thanks. Because of your advice, she is healthy.
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    I am with Andres. Don't put up with that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pevergreen View Post
    Discover she now smokes, drinks heavily and does illicit drugs. Oh and that night I sat waiting for her for an hour to even show up.
    Get out of it now before it's too late.

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    As Andres said. She is being selfish, and abusing your trust and emotions. Please, for your own sake do not go back to her. Yes, it's nice to think about helping people out, but in a situation like this where you now have very little to do with her you should think of yourself first.

    On the other issue, 15 seems a little young. You are 18 correct well, 18 /2 = 9 + 7 = 16, which is sort of downward limit. However, I'm not here to judge and at the end of the day you should do what feels right by you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Psychonaut View Post
    On the other issue, 15 seems a little young.
    Nah, being an 18 year old male is being young

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    Its out of it, yes Rythmic, but... She doesnt act her age.

    shes 16 a month after i'm 19.

    Point is probably moot. I mean, I'm more popular here than IRL right now (side effect of work) and I'm not exactley loved here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pevergreen View Post
    Its out of it, yes Rythmic, but... She doesnt act her age.

    shes 16 a month after i'm 19.

    Point is probably moot. I mean, I'm more popular here than IRL right now (side effect of work) and I'm not exactley loved here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pevergreen View Post
    Its out of it, yes Rythmic, but... She doesnt act her age.

    shes 16 a month after i'm 19.

    Point is probably moot. I mean, I'm more popular here than IRL right now (side effect of work) and I'm not exactley loved here.
    As I should have said. If you like her, you should go for it, the age gap won't matter.

    Edit: Chin up lad. You're a good bloke and don't you dare forget that.
    Last edited by naut; 10-20-2009 at 13:32.
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    I can't take that straight.

    If you lived in any other state...



    This all hinges on if I pass my driving test on thursday.

    I need to pass for this, for life in general, and to show that techs beat salespeople (sales manager took his test today, failed. entire service team needs me to pass >_>)
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    Quote Originally Posted by pevergreen View Post
    Point is probably moot. I mean, I'm more popular here than IRL right now (side effect of work) and I'm not exactley loved here.
    It's alright I love u pever

    As far as the other stuff, I have no opinion since don't any experience with such things(no social/love life)
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