Should I?

[KukriKhan]

Back to "Should I"?

Andres's story is a good lesson to hear. I've been with a couple of 'crazies', and the biggest downside is that you're never allowed to be the crazy one. Everybody has to go a little nuts once in awhile; be irrational, emotional, temporarily childish. When you're with a crazy you never get that time, they get all the crazy attention, and you get to be "the rock". Over time you really do become the rock - humorless, all-business, hard - and eventually that "love" you had, when mixed with simmering resentment at being held back from life, turns into disgust and hatred. Or worse: apathy.

My recommendation: don't do that to yourself. Deep down, you already know what you truly want, or you wouldn't waste time asking "Should I"? I submit that your feelings for the ex spring more from your sense of duty, than from actual appeal. Hence the need for you two to take longs walks down Memory Lane to find feelings of happiness, cuz you're not happy now.

High marks for persistence and a highly-developed sense of duty. But I gotta give you an "F" if you entertain and keep the notion that you have any actual obligation to ex.

Wait... that's too harsh. Discover, then admit (to yourself) what you really want to do. Then do it. We'll all back you, whichever way you go.

Good luck.

[Strike For The South]

Back to "Should I"?

Andres's story is a good lesson to hear. I've been with a couple of 'crazies', and the biggest downside is that you're never allowed to be the crazy one. Everybody has to go a little nuts once in awhile; be irrational, emotional, temporarily childish. When you're with a crazy you never get that time, they get all the crazy attention, and you get to be "the rock". Over time you really do become the rock - humorless, all-business, hard - and eventually that "love" you had, when mixed with simmering resentment at being held back from life, turns into disgust and hatred. Or worse: apathy.

My recommendation: don't do that to yourself. Deep down, you already know what you truly want, or you wouldn't waste time asking "Should I"? I submit that your feelings for the ex spring more from your sense of duty, than from actual appeal. Hence the need for you two to take longs walks down Memory Lane to find feelings of happiness, cuz you're not happy now.

High marks for persistence and a highly-developed sense of duty. But I gotta give you an "F" if you entertain and keep the notion that you have any actual obligation to ex.

Wait... that's too harsh. Discover, then admit (to yourself) what you really want to do. Then do it. We'll all back you, whichever way you go.

Good luck.

You've got so much wisdom

Ever thought of applying as a grandfather?

[pevergreen]

KK: I do believe you are correct.

It has hit me since thursday, when, as Lemur can attest to, I was not well.

It did make me think. I'm hoping to see her (ex) soon and realise that she is nothing like the girl I remember. She doesnt look like it, and shes going downhill again. I can't let myself get drawn in.

I'll just try to be like STFS and it will all be good. I'll suddenly have 30 girls at once and a frenchman in the closet.

[Strike For The South]

I'll just try to be like STFS and it will all be good. I'll suddenly have 30 girls at once and a frenchman in the closet.

I'd imagine you're more well adjusted than me. I mean my day mostly consisits of going around the .Org seeking validation of the "cooler" posters.

My life is a warning to others

[pevergreen]

I am envious of the HoF award

Hey, nice sig.

[pevergreen]

Excuse the double post, but:

This thread is now one of pure happiness.


My thanks to all those who have pushed me away from crazy because she is goneskies.

I layed into her about everything. It was over the internet, but she came back with her counterpoints, which had no substance, and she fell to the mighty weight of the pever.

tl;dr Life is good, crazy ex will not be a factor ever again.

[Beefy187]

I wish her all the best. Some people change, others never do. I hope she is the former.

Now pever, good luck with your new fancy

[KukriKhan]

Ever thought of applying as a grandfather?

LOL. Maybe just everybody's "Crazy Uncle Jimmy".