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    Default Re: I respectfully request guidance.

    My advice is wait. Emotional decisions usually do not trump logical decisions. Take the weekend and think it over. If are you aren't comfortable with Monday, wait till Tuesday. It doesn't seem like a few days would that much of a difference, and the value of logic is immeasurable.



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    Default Re: I respectfully request guidance.

    I think you should give us all the meaty details.
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    Default Re: I respectfully request guidance.

    Here's my logic: I feel that I were to wait, it would seem as if I didn't care or I am too scared to try right my wrongs.

    I do care. A lot. More than I probably should.

    They seemed obviously hurt, and from such a simple mistake. Again, I hurt someone from a lack of good judgment before and did nothing. They apparently brushed it off, but the way they looked at me for years later haunts me still. I feel as if that was a warning.

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    Question Re: I respectfully request guidance.

    What is it about us Russians that makes us injure people, whether verbally or physically?
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    Default Re: I respectfully request guidance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Aemilius Paulus View Post
    What is it about us Russians that makes us injure people, whether verbally or physically?
    It turns me on thats why I do it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CrossLOPER View Post
    Here's my logic: I feel that I were to wait, it would seem as if I didn't care or I am too scared to try right my wrongs.

    I do care. A lot. More than I probably should.

    They seemed obviously hurt, and from such a simple mistake. Again, I hurt someone from a lack of good judgment before and did nothing. They apparently brushed it off, but the way they looked at me for years later haunts me still. I feel as if that was a warning.
    Caring is good; Nice guys do not finish last, but do indeed finish first a lot of the time.

    I understand your logic, but if the most effective way would be face to face communication then it would be worth the wait. It would also give you some time to think about the issue, calm down a bit, and collect your thoughts. However, only you know the situation so you obviously are the best judge of this. I just don't want you to make the situation worse as I have many times by acting carelessly and not thinking my decisions through.

    Yes.... many times it did involved women.



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    OK, maybe I am not gushing care so much as actually feeling bad that I acted like an idiot towards them and made them uncomfortable. It was one short action, but I feel it had its (unintended) impact.
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    Default Re: I respectfully request guidance.

    NEVER talk to ANYONE when you're in an emotional state of mind.

    Only speak to people once the emotions are gone.



    Also, if the situation involves women; you're doomed. It's physically impossible to communicate with those creatures. Only thing to do is to find someone new...
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    Nice don't finish last, but over-controling, over-whelming, obsessive ones do.
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    Default Re: I respectfully request guidance.

    Meh, call them on the phone, writing an apology via e-mail or any other medium that does not yield a direct response, where you don't even know if or when they read it, just makes it all worse, you might even write something they will misunderstand yet again etc. blabla.
    I know that because I'm apparently good at not getting replys to messages.
    The vacuum this leaves is worse than not communicating at all so I usually just choose the latter, for the sake of my own sanity.

    Now it's up to you, wait for a face-to-face talk or pick up the phone but my advice is against any other method.


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