I respectfully request guidance.

**HoreTore** · 11-21-2009, 10:09

NEVER talk to ANYONE when you're in an emotional state of mind.

Only speak to people once the emotions are gone.

Also, if the situation involves women; you're doomed. It's physically impossible to communicate with those creatures. Only thing to do is to find someone new...

**Beskar** · 11-21-2009, 10:18

Nice don't finish last, but over-controling, over-whelming, obsessive ones do.

**Husar** · 11-21-2009, 11:11

Meh, call them on the phone, writing an apology via e-mail or any other medium that does not yield a direct response, where you don't even know if or when they read it, just makes it all worse, you might even write something they will misunderstand yet again etc. blabla.
I know that because I'm apparently good at not getting replys to messages.

The vacuum this leaves is worse than not communicating at all so I usually just choose the latter, for the sake of my own sanity.

Now it's up to you, wait for a face-to-face talk or pick up the phone but my advice is against any other method.

**KukriKhan** · 11-21-2009, 16:09

Men are clumsy. We cause offense all the time. When we do, we apologize as soon as possible after the offensive event.

Apologies come in 3 parts:

1) I'm sorry I _______________________________.
2) My mistake was ______________________.
3) How can I make it up to you?

And then you stop. You've done your duty. Whether you are forgiven or not is not up to you, rather, it's up to the offended party. A man accepts their decision as final.

**rory_20_uk** · 11-21-2009, 16:39

Originally Posted by KukriKhan

Men are clumsy. We cause offense all the time. When we do, we apologize as soon as possible after the offensive event.

Apologies come in 3 parts:

1) I'm sorry I _______________________________.
2) My mistake was ______________________.
3) How can I make it up to you?

And then you stop. You've done your duty. Whether you are forgiven or not is not up to you, rather, it's up to the offended party. A man accepts their decision as final.

I think that point 2 should be 2) I think that my mistake was ______________. Am I right? [Possibly "my reason for doing this was _____________]

Then besides the female penchant for not correcting and still being in a mood about something that she has knowingly chosen not to share is then her issue, not yours.

Phone or neutral territory is a better option. Phone is quicker and cheaper, coffee shop shows you're investing more time and effort into it; I know that on this logic serenading by a quartet is much better, but that rather blows things up rather.

**CrossLOPER** · 11-21-2009, 16:53

I'm fairly sure they will at least get my message, and I hope it was worded well. I kept it as simple as I could, and ended with an opening for a personal meeting. I will not obsess as I cannot afford to. All I can do is wait.

What makes this worse is that we are depending on each other to get a project finished. There are five people who have no clue what has transpired and if this gets bad everyone is screwed. I'm a master at screwing people over, apparently.

**KukriKhan** · 11-21-2009, 17:27

Originally Posted by rory

Then besides the female penchant for not correcting and still being in a mood about something that she has knowingly chosen not to share is then her issue, not yours.

Ha! If I had a penny for everytime...

**ICantSpellDawg** · 11-21-2009, 17:49

Cheat on a girl and the relationship is over. The choice has been made. Further dwelling serves no purpose.

**Fragony** · 11-21-2009, 19:56

Originally Posted by KukriKhan

Men are clumsy. We cause offense all the time. When we do, we apologize as soon as possible after the offensive event.

Apologies come in 3 parts:

1) I'm sorry I _______________________________.
2) My mistake was ______________________.
3) How can I make it up to you?

And then you stop. You've done your duty. Whether you are forgiven or not is not up to you, rather, it's up to the offended party. A man accepts their decision as final.

You still don't get it, asking what you did wrong is the greatest offense by not knowing.

**KukriKhan** · 11-22-2009, 03:10

Originally Posted by Fragony

You still don't get it, asking what you did wrong is the greatest offense by not knowing.

Huh? Wait, look at the time. Late afternoon in Dutchistan, beer-thirty. :)

The blank lines

1) I'm sorry I _______________________________.
2) My mistake was ______________________.

are where you fill in what you did wrong.

Unless you were making a comment about never knowing what one did wrong in relationships wit teh wimmins. In which case:

**HoreTore** · 11-22-2009, 09:57

Originally Posted by KukriKhan

Unless you were making a comment about never knowing what one did wrong in relationships wit teh wimmins. In which case:

I know what I did wrong in one relationship; I'm not the kind of guy who comes home drunk and beats the crap out of my girlfriend... As that's what she wanted, she dumped me....