I respectfully request guidance.

[rory_20_uk]

Men are clumsy. We cause offense all the time. When we do, we apologize as soon as possible after the offensive event.

Apologies come in 3 parts:

1) I'm sorry I _______________________________.
2) My mistake was ______________________.
3) How can I make it up to you?

And then you stop. You've done your duty. Whether you are forgiven or not is not up to you, rather, it's up to the offended party. A man accepts their decision as final.

I think that point 2 should be 2) I think that my mistake was ______________. Am I right? [Possibly "my reason for doing this was _____________]

Then besides the female penchant for not correcting and still being in a mood about something that she has knowingly chosen not to share is then her issue, not yours.

Phone or neutral territory is a better option. Phone is quicker and cheaper, coffee shop shows you're investing more time and effort into it; I know that on this logic serenading by a quartet is much better, but that rather blows things up rather.