The big C...

[Samurai Waki]

I could relate to you a similar episode, but I don't think it's the same as what you're going through.

Everybody in my family has been taking turns helping out my Aunt, that has Neuro Militus Optica, a severe form of MS. She's the sweetest person on this planet, and still has most of her mind with her. But her body is broken, she went through the latest stem cell transplant... She's only the second person in the US to receive this type of treatment, and the fourth or fifth worldwide. She hasn't had a relapse since her transplant, but she hasn't gotten any better. She's always sick, or depressed. Her medications cause her to have a severe rash all over her body that burns as much as it stings, but they don't want her to stop taking it, in fear of losing the edge they think they have over her disease. So for the last four months she has been in agony, we can't touch her, because if we do it feels like we're pricking her with needles... But we want her to know that we all still love her, and care about her. She's talked to me in length about doing the Death with Dignity Program, I haven't said much to my other siblings, because I know they'll freak out. If it doesn't start getting better... I can't hardly blame her. It hurts seeing someone I viewed as being such a strong character throughout my childhood, so weak and frail that I could easily pick her up as if she was nothing.

I guess, what I'm trying to say is, if you want to talk just throw me a PM.

[Ronin]

My thoughts are with you Kadagar.

My father was confronted with a cancer situation some 4 years ago...luckily he had regular check ups (it is a problem that runs in the family) and so it was caught at the beginning and surgery was able to solve the problem....my grandfather was not so lucky and died from it some years ago so I know the toll something like this can take on a family.

I hope the situation evolves in the best way possible.

[Centurion1]

my little cousin died at age seven of cancer as did my grandmother. cancer is terrible. what you are doing is great by helping to take care of your father. All you can do is make them comfortable, spend alot of time with them, and hope for the very best.

like its been said medicine has improved dramatically even since 2000.

Best wishes

[CountArach]

I can only imagine what you are going through right now mate, and I really wish teh very best for your father and family at this time.

[Fragony]

Finished of my dad as well, only 55. Your nephew is much crueler but 55 is no age to die either. These things happen that's life but that doesn't mean I have to like it. Horrible decease it's very painful to watch if someone has the bad kind, and not a thing you can do.