Finding "the one"

[Aemilius Paulus]

but rather with your assertion that this implies some kind of medical or scientific abnormality.

Aww, come on, you do not think taht is what I meant, do you? Do I look like some sort of freak? Sure, I am not into girls, but I am not stupid either, and I do not think it is an abnormality. Little is more normal than love, in fact. However, it sure does appear abnormal when examining it from a purely neurological perspective, as I said. And yes, I will cite that article, it is just that I am too lazy to start copying it. Still, for you to think that I actually believe love is some sort of an abnormality speaks volumes about how my posts managed to mislead people.

It has also made more people happy than any other psychological disorder. and i do not believe you can classify it as a disorder. More like a state of mind.

Hey, not fair, your supposed refutation was a mere repletion. I myself, in the same post, said the same thing. And anything is a state of mind, so I do not see how that applies to this.

[TinCow]

Aww, come on, you do not think taht is what I meant, do you? Do I look like some sort of freak? Sure, I am not into girls, but I am not stupid either, and I do not think it is an abnormality. Little is more normal than love, in fact. However, it sure does appear abnormal when examining it from a purely neurological perspective, as I said. And yes, I will cite that article, it is just that I am too lazy to start copying it. Still, for you to think that I actually believe love is some sort of an abnormality speaks volumes about how my posts managed to mislead people.

You're right, I have no idea how we managed to get that idea....

Love is a mental disorder. And it is, one cannot deny this - people do all sorts of stupid things under the influence of this drug. Finally, even the long term love is a result of chemical imbalance, namely the excess of the hormone of oxytocin. Oxytocin is presnt in all sorts of long-term attachments, including but not limited to lengthy marriage, sibling-sibling, parent-child, and close friend relationships.

Love is a mental disorder. The brain is in a highly disordered state, and the body is very noticeably affected (sleepless nights, obsessions, passion, other torrents of emotions). You could claim that love=addiction/narcotic is sensationalist, which it can be, but the claim that love=disorder is perfectly substantiated by hard science.

That is why serotonin-induced infatuation is a disorder.

I was not speaking from a psychological perspective when I said infatuation is abnormal. Not at all, and it should have been obvious once I began citing the chemicals and their effects on the brain. Broadly speaking, a psychologist touches upon that, but it is the specialty of a neurologist. A neurologist will tell 'you infatuation is not normal.

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I fail to see how the serotonin overdose does not count. It is a derangement and abnormality of the brain resulting from the excessive intake of serotonin.

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But even from a psychological perspective, infatuation can be characterised as a disorder, although not actually defined as such because it is not a deviation from normality. Does the striking similarity between OCD and infatuation not count?

[Aemilius Paulus]

You're right, I have no idea how we managed to get that idea....

Why do you say so? I realise my posts were misleading, and I said so myself. Or do you enjoy rubbing it in?

Only a prepubescent child can call love abnormal. I already in my posts yesterday that love is more normal than normal from a simple human perspective. Just not from mainly the neurological one - which does not matter for any human being save for the ones who stud this.

[Centurion1]

Hey, not fair, your supposed refutation was a mere repletion. I myself, in the same post, said the same thing. And anything is a state of mind, so I do not see how that applies to this.

a disorder is not a choice. you can choose to be in love. you wyourself are asexual does someone suffering from say bibolar disorder have any real choice in the matter do they wake up one day and go i have bibolar disorder.

i think not.

[Aemilius Paulus]

you can choose to be in love.

Hahaha, I rest my case.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Why do you say so? I realise my posts were misleading, and I said so myself. Or do you enjoy rubbing it in?

Only a prepubescent child can call love abnormal. I already in my posts yesterday that love is more normal than normal from a simple human perspective. Just not from mainly the neurological one - which does not matter for any human being save for the ones who stud this.

a disorder is not a choice. you can choose to be in love. you wyourself are asexual does someone suffering from say bibolar disorder have any real choice in the matter do they wake up one day and go i have bibolar disorder.

i think not.

Clearly, neither of you have been in love, and you don't seem to even realise what love is (which does not mean you do not feel it).

Romantic love is an extension of the more common forms of love we feel for friends and family. Long-term love for a partner is actually something truly extrordinary because it involves inducting someone new into your close family and (to an extent) excluding your blood-kin.

[Centurion1]

Clearly, neither of you have been in love, and you don't seem to even realise what love is (which does not mean you do not feel it).

Romantic love is an extension of the more common forms of love we feel for friends and family. Long-term love for a partner is actually something truly extrordinary because it involves inducting someone new into your close family and (to an extent) excluding your blood-kin.

no i have not pvc thank god im only 17. but i can understand the concept. It is not right to qualify it as a medical disorder is all im saying people do fall in and out of love no matter how deeply enamored they are with each other.

[Subotan]

Clearly, neither of you have been in love, and you don't seem to even realise what love is (which does not mean you do not feel it)..

AP doesn't

[Aemilius Paulus]

Clearly, neither of you have been in love, and you don't seem to even realise what love is (which does not mean you do not feel it).

Of course I was not. But why do you say so about Centurion? Or are you simply saying that he felt lust but not long-term love? That is possible, yes, at his age.

Romantic love is an extension of the more common forms of love we feel for friends and family. Long-term love for a partner is actually something truly extrordinary because it involves inducting someone new into your close family and (to an extent) excluding your blood-kin.

Of course, my focus was on lust, which has numerous characteristics of certain disorders. The long-term actual love is a splendid thing - nor does it have a neurological profile of a disorder, nto at all. As I said, the brain cannot maintain lust, but long-term love is a different matter. As for romantic love being an extension, well, I am not quite sure what you mean by extension, but if I am correct in interpreting your post, you have the right idea. Chemical profile of long-term romantic love is no different from the love felt for friends and family - just stronger, with more oxytocin.