Dating Question: Which Woman?

[Shaka_Khan]

I met two girls recently, one two weeks ago and the other last week. Both of them seem to be interested in me. The problem is that I don't want to cheat. Both have their own good qualities. So I'm at a loss on which to choose.

I've been hearing people say that it's the inside that counts for a long long time. But when you think about it, it doesn't always mean that the outside is different from the inside. There are attractive people who have a good personality. So why not go for an attractive partner who has a good personality? And I think it's more to do with how well my partner matches with me. There could be a partner with a strange personality who matches well with me.

FIRST GIRL
She is a teacher.
She is thin and has a good figure. I had a good conversation with her. We continue to exchange messages. We seem to match well. She is 26 years old.
She has a very interesting personality. She is musically talented. She plays the electric guitar and the drum. When she was a teenager, she formed a band with her friends and played rock music. Now she is into jazz. She learned to play the piano as a kid but hasn't played in a long time. She is learning it again now. She is into musicals too. I got into it thanks to her. Her mind has a huge depth of musical feelings and knowledge. She shows me a part of a world that is new to me.
If it wasn't for her huge chin then I would've tried to meet her again. Since I met her only once, I probably know only a small part of her personality. I don't know how her temper is for example.

SECOND GIRL
She is a college student.
She is thin and has a good figure. In addition, she is tall and has long legs. She usually wears a mini, so I can see her legs often. She is an awesome sight, which attracts attention from other people. She is 21 years old.
I met her at a club. Although she didn't talk as much as the first girl, she still seems to like me. She likes to drink. I mean, she drinks bottles, not with a glass. It was on this third day of meeting me that she got drunk and showed her inner feelings. She slowly approached and kissed me. It was a long kiss. Then she made a beautiful smile, a very happy smile. It feels good to see her like me that much.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with her looks.
Plus, she is wild and is fun to be with. (She excites me). She was pretty funny when she couldn't walk straight and couldn't balance on her high heels because she was so drunk. But sometimes she gets too wild. She yells at the waitor and sometimes at me. Also, I don't think she trusts me. She makes accusations from time to time.

Both girls have their own strong points. I'm wondering which is better for me in the long run.

[al Roumi]

Both girls have their own strong points. I'm wondering which is better for me in the long run.

Are you really sure that's what you are looking for: the long run? Reading your post it seems to me you might be looking for an excuse to go with #2: the precocious, unstable, attractive young student

In any case, unless you are obliged to enter into something contractual (engagement etc) before you can properly get to know either, i don't think you should get ahead of yourself on the "long term" thing -do you even know if that's what they might want?

I'd suggest going ahead with the parrallel dating until you get to the point of being seriously intimate (take whatever that means for you!) with one or the other. At that point I think you should draw a line and make a decision between them.

[Fragony]

That's what we call a luxory-problem

[Sasaki Kojiro]

I don't see how you could possibly tell which would be better for you in the long run, given that you met them so recently.

[Kagemusha]

You have to decide yourself.First ask yourself what you want and then make your move based on that.

[Jolt]

Have sex with both at the same time. Tell them whoever is best wins you over.

[Louis VI the Fat]

I met two girls recently, one two weeks ago and the other last week. Both of them seem to be interested in me. The problem is that I don't want to cheat. Both have their own good qualities. So I'm at a loss on which to choose.

I've been hearing people say that it's the inside that counts for a long long time. But when you think about it, it doesn't always mean that the outside is different from the inside. There are attractive people who have a good personality. So why not go for an attractive partner who has a good personality? And I think it's more to do with how well my partner matches with me. There could be a partner with a strange personality who matches well with me.

FIRST GIRL
She is a teacher.
She is thin and has a good figure. I had a good conversation with her. We continue to exchange messages. We seem to match well. She is 26 years old.
She has a very interesting personality. She is musically talented. She plays the electric guitar and the drum. When she was a teenager, she formed a band with her friends and played rock music. Now she is into jazz. She learned to play the piano as a kid but hasn't played in a long time. She is learning it again now. She is into musicals too. I got into it thanks to her. Her mind has a huge depth of musical feelings and knowledge. She shows me a part of a world that is new to me.
If it wasn't for her huge chin then I would've tried to meet her again. Since I met her only once, I probably know only a small part of her personality. I don't know how her temper is for example.

SECOND GIRL
She is a college student.
She is thin and has a good figure. In addition, she is tall and has long legs. She usually wears a mini, so I can see her legs often. She is an awesome sight, which attracts attention from other people. She is 21 years old.
I met her at a club. Although she didn't talk as much as the first girl, she still seems to like me. She likes to drink. I mean, she drinks bottles, not with a glass. It was on this third day of meeting me that she got drunk and showed her inner feelings. She slowly approached and kissed me. It was a long kiss. Then she made a beautiful smile, a very happy smile. It feels good to see her like me that much.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with her looks.
Plus, she is wild and is fun to be with. (She excites me). She was pretty funny when she couldn't walk straight and couldn't balance on her high heels because she was so drunk. But sometimes she gets too wild. She yells at the waitor and sometimes at me. Also, I don't think she trusts me. She makes accusations from time to time.

Both girls have their own strong points. I'm wondering which is better for me in the long run.

I don't think I'd get along with girl #2. The skirt's too short, the heels are too high, she likes attention too much. She yells at waiters. She's not for me.


Girl #1 has a huge chin. While not easy on the eyes, it means her mouth is big and sufficiently deep for a man of my 'specialty' etc etc [/Ixtoc_I]

[Cute Wolf]

If you want to had a stable long-run relationships, choose girl #1

But giving your actions, it was not a bad things... doing everything you want with girl #2, as long as you didn't have any relationship commitments with girl #1

[a completely inoffensive name]

To those saying both, that's impossible unless you had a million dollars. What you need to do is to let the free market decide and have them openly compete over you, you do this by telling them that you have an incurable disease and a lot of inheritance money that you havent spent and then tell them that you want to spend your last year being happy...etc. Once you have them compete, do what you want till you know which one you want then after a year say that your money was well spent on experimental treatments and that despite the odds you survived.

If there is one thing I have learned in the backroom, it is to always lets the free market and competition decide your life.

[Husar]

Uhm, no, that wouldn't work out too well, there would be a monopole on his side and a duopole on their side, this basically means he wouldn't be a pricetaker and they would also offer less goods than a really competitive market would.

It's (not scientifically)correct that girl 2 doesn't sound too good, yelling at waiters and waitresses is not very fine in my book, however if you're such an ********** too, maybe she suits you, how am I supposed to know?

In the end it's your decision, I cannot tell you what you have to like and what not.
Well, I can, but I shouldn't

[Kurando]

I have one suggestion of a particular question you can ask them, which, in my considerable experience, will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know to make an informed choice.

Approach this question carefully so they don't panic, but all you need to do is to ask each of them to describe their relationship with their father. I know it sounds strange, but I wouldn't lead you astray. If you're dealing with women in their 20's, you can almost guarantee that a messed-up answer to that particular question will lead to a messed-up situation between you and the gal.

[Fragony]

It's (not scientifically)correct that girl 2 doesn't sound too good, yelling at waiters and waitresses is not very fine in my book

That wouldn't lead to much progress chez Fragony either, I hate that sort of behavior.

[al Roumi]

Wait, did you want a serious answer, or an outpouring of testosterone on the scale of the Ixtoc I spill?

For those who don't know, :

Girl #1 has a huge chin. While not easy on the eyes, it means her mouth is big and sufficiently deep for a man of my 'specialty' etc etc [/Ixtoc_I]